MET I actually think its a good question and you are obviously curious about something, but from experiance delving in a spouses past relationships can only cause MORE curiousity arguments and cause your mind to wander out of control. If you are suspicous that maybe her realtionship with this "ex" is more then it appears and you have the opportunity to talk with the ex that is fine to converse, BUT a diary is personal... its not like just reading emails or texts, its someones lone thoughts and should only be read if she is willing to share. Its an ultimate invasion of privacy and should be left alone..... You know the saying curiosity killed the cat? Try not to give it so much thought... after all I'm sure there is things in your past that should be kept sacred?

If you feel happy and you love your bf/gf, and you see that the feeling is mutual, why would you want to dig into a person's past? Enjoy the present, there's absolutely no need to look at the past when you're in a happy relationship

Personally I think if you are 'curious' about your partner then there must be a reason for you to be so, if not then why go into someones past when they are trying to move on in the future....a future with you

A diary is something very personal and I don't think it the privacy should be breached no matter how suspicious you are, unless she/he gives you the authorisation to do so.
Also your partner should be understanding if you ask them about their ex. If not then they might have a personal reason not to talk about it and you should also respect that.
Also if you have doubts about your partner that results you into looking into their past and in their diary, maybe you should consider the actual relationship itself.

But talk about it with your partner first because it shouldn't be to difficult, after all they are your partner. And it is most likely your mind wondering out of control because you, yourself are afraid of losing them.

Nah, reading someone's diary is simply too much. I believe in open communication. If you really wanna know, ask. If he or she feels ok to talk about it, so be it. But like many have said, what's the point of dwelling in the past? But I have to stress again, never attempt to peep into his or her diary. It's almost like the beginning of the end, sorry for being melodramatic =D

I love asking my husband about his ex's. I'm curious about it and tease my husband so much about it. I knew its his past and he chose me so i'm secure about our relationship. But my husband never asks. He feels jealous talking about my ex's which suits me just fine .

OK Those are the views of the ladies, and how about you guys? Any comments?

what? ex ? ok i c