Am just back from Turkey. Was staying with my boyfriend for 1 week. We had a very good time together. We love each other but the big problem is MONEY. He has no money at all. He works a lot in summer, not so much in winter. He has no money, he askes me if i have money to lend for his electric. i say no although i want to help because we are together, but i don't want him to think he can just ask for money from me all the time. This worries me as we plan to have a future together with me going over there. I have a stable job with money every month but i do want to live in Turkey. Am thinking should i stay and try and make a future with him because we love each other, or make my own way?????????

Go your own way! If he is asking for money at this early stage in your relationship it is NOT a good sign....

The best way to make your decision is to imagine yourself in five years time with him - is this the kind of future you want for yourself?

Agree 100% with Aenigma - don't be fooled - hold on to your hard earned money and let him earn his...you'll soon see if his love is genuine. Good luck

Yes they are all right. Men should be the bread winner of the family

how about everyone just lives how they want?if someone would rather their husband was the breadwinner fine, if the woman is the breadwinner then fine, equally if both want to be then there should be compromise.

I to think it's not good he is asking for money so early on in the relationship. My future doesn't look good if this is how it is now. This makes me soooo sad to think of. Am holding onto my hard earned cash and av became poor. This is the only way to see how in love he is. It makes me sad cause i know he needs money. I think we should each earn our own money if we don't have children, (unless he is rich!!). I do think a man should be able to spoil his women every once in a while.

This class and opinions helps a lot. I can't talk to my family bcause i know what they will say if am giving him money.

I can't talk to my family bcause i know what they will say if am giving him money.



This is because they are worried for you - do listen to their advice

Nope, i did not send money over. I told him yesterday, NO. He did not like this at all so i closed the phone on him.
We will see how much he loves me.

I almost did do it, untill i posted my thread on this class.
Thnaks peeps.

Good for you Sweet.kane

Very good! And you are strong to reject his request. Many for you!

Good for you sweet.kane!! Sticking to your decision is probably going to be the hardest part but it seems that you know you did the right thing, so you will do fine. And if you waiver…..just come talk to us again and we will set you straight

good for you sweet.kane. stay strong. you will see soon enough if his love is for real