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30 Apr 2007 Mon 08:21 pm |
If you don't think it's going to last or if you're early into the relationship, I'd say spare yourself of the heartbreak. It's really hard to be in that kind of relationship.
I also met a guy and my parents were against it for the same reasons as yours but went ahead with it anyway because I had a strong belief in us. We're married today
Unfortunately most of these relationships are doomed, but not all.
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30 Apr 2007 Mon 09:05 pm |
It is unfortunately not enough to be'in love', there is so much more to consider - I would say get to know each other very well first - there is no difference in finding love in your own country - just have to be more committed and more patient I guess.
You have to try to be understanding with your parents - they are just worried for you I am sure.
Time will tell if you are suited and to give you a better insight into what it might be like in actually living together - you will need to visit each other in your respective countries to see how each one interacts with the others family and friends - you might find that you do not feel the same when you have spent more time together.
Anyway good luck and take it slowly and just see it goes
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30 Apr 2007 Mon 09:34 pm |
For every 100 relationships 80 % will go by the way side. The differance in culture, language and religion is hard enough. Not being able to converse presents a huge problem as lots of the time misunderstanding is construed. The majorıty don't have the English sense of humour !!!!!
İ wish everyone success but from one who know's be very careful, weight up all the options before making a huge commitment or mistake.
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30 Apr 2007 Mon 11:13 pm |
Unfortunately Marriage by love relationships Unsuccessful today
becouse the love is gone , only still its imagination
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30 Apr 2007 Mon 11:26 pm |
Quoting elham: Unfortunately Marriage by love relationships Unsuccessful today
becouse the love is gone , only still its imagination |
My take on that is that if it's real love it will last no matter what. Regrettably it's not very common in todays society.
But what kind of marriages do you think will last then?
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30 Apr 2007 Mon 11:53 pm |
I believe that traditional marriages succeed more than marriage by love, as evidenced by marriage of parents who is grow
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30 Apr 2007 Mon 11:59 pm |
Quoting elham: I believe that traditional marriages succeed more than marriage by love, as evidenced by marriage of parents who is grow |
My parents were married 45 years (then my dad died so it ended) but out of love. No-one, especially not my grandparents, interfered. I'm talking about 1950, in the days my country was very confessional and conservative. So to say that tradititional (arranged??) marriages have more success is not true. And this is just one example, I know plenty of them.
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01 May 2007 Tue 12:05 am |
Quoting elham: I believe that traditional marriages succeed more than marriage by love, as evidenced by marriage of parents who is grow |
In my opinion it is a breach of human rights! You should be able to marry who you want. It is up to the persons to make it succeed. Arranged marriage is outdated.
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01 May 2007 Tue 12:24 am |
Quoting libralady:
In my opinion it is a breach of human rights! You should be able to marry who you want. It is up to the persons to make it succeed. Arranged marriage is outdated. |
In my opinion marriage itself is a breach of human rights! You should be able to live with, without marrying, whom you want. It is up to the persons to make it succeed. Marriage is outdated.
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01 May 2007 Tue 01:48 am |
I think that one should carefully consider the family you are going to marry into and vice versa. Unfortunately, the families can make or break a marriage.
Most importantly, take your time!!!! Really get to know each other. Bi-racial/cultural/language are HUGE! Often two people of similar backgrounds don't understand each other. So don't fool yourself into believing that love solves all. You lose that 'in love' feeling after 2 years according to a study i read. (I will look for it to give you the link) But, if you persist in the relationship you will fall back in love again and at a higher level. So, relationships/marriage take lots of committement(did i spell that right?) Oh well...too lazy for dictionary now. But you must make sure that their level of dedication matches yours. Everybody says 'until death do us part'. Make sure they know what they are getting into and you too!!!! So, have clear boundaries and goals...
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01 May 2007 Tue 01:58 am |
Quoting Capoeira: I think that one should carefully consider the family you are going to marry into and vice versa. Unfortunately, the families can make or break a marriage.
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Oh do I know this statement is all to true! I have been in a war concerning "family" for 3 years now, and a small piece of advice is if your parents opinion is really important to you, don't even go there. It's probably not worth the headache, and chances are if you have enough money to be vacationing in turkey u have enough money for this guy and he surely can see that.
Capo that link would be much appreciated I'd like to check it out
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