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Turkish rules of Etiquette
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19 Aug 2007 Sun 03:56 am |
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I know that the topic of Turkish hospitality has been discussed on the forums before, but what about Turkish social behavior when meeting a new foreigner visiting your country?
I had just came back from my recent trip to Turkey and during the time I was there I got to meet some of my husband's friends.
One friend in particular was not only rude, but she ignored me completely and did not look at me or said a word to me after we were introduced, yet she was very attentive and talkative to everyone else around us! But because she was the girlfriend of my husband's best friend, I kept quiet. My husband excuse for her was that she was embarrassed that she couldn't speak to me because she didn't know english eventhough both my husband and her boyfriend spoke english and turkish and could very well have translated for us.
If the shoe was on the other foot I would have at least looked at her and smiled even if I couldn't speak the language! I would like to hear from the turkish people here what should have been done or said in this situation?
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19 Aug 2007 Sun 11:41 am |
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In my opinion,she is just one person.Dont mind and consider your husband and his best friend's behavior towards you.
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19 Aug 2007 Sun 12:54 pm |
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Quoting Mina_TR: If the shoe was on the other foot I would have at least looked at her and smiled even if I couldn't speak the language! I would like to hear from the turkish people here what should have been done or said in this situation?
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This is just silly Mina  I am sure you dont SERIOUSLY think that this was Turkish etiquette, nor do I think you need anyone to tell you what SHOULD have been done or said in this situation 
Someone was a bit rude to you. That's universal dear You can't judge Turkish behaviour by one girls attitude (and I dont think you do! ).
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19 Aug 2007 Sun 01:32 pm |
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hehehe
what a nice story!
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19 Aug 2007 Sun 04:40 pm |
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If this was just a once meeting with this person I would have ignored her behavior, but no chance of this since I will be seeing her again and again being that she is the 'serious' girlfriend of my husband's best friend!
Coming from New York I know exactly what I would have said to the little b.....@#!!! but I would not have stooped to that level because it's not my character.
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19 Aug 2007 Sun 05:04 pm |
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i love that women smile eachother when they are together and say bad things and gossip about eachother when they are separated 
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19 Aug 2007 Sun 06:31 pm |
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Quoting ciko: i love that women smile eachother when they are together and say bad things and gossip about eachother when they are separated |
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19 Aug 2007 Sun 07:33 pm |
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You didn't make it clear...were you attempting to get to know her? From what you say here, it sounds more like you leaving it all up to her. Some people are just plain shy and it takes them some time to warm up. Maybe she already knew and was comfortable with the people she was attentive to....
Whatever the case.....it's one of the simple facts of life...not everyone is going to like you!
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19 Aug 2007 Sun 07:54 pm |
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Yes I did attempt to make conversation with her through both my husband and her boyfriend and believe me she wasn't shy about being talkative, she was just plain rude and did not look at me the whole night!
Actually she did this again the second night we met with them and the point of this post was about etiquette and I couldn't care less if she liked me or not, the point is having common courtesy to acknowledge the other person that is there trying to make converstation with you.
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20 Aug 2007 Mon 05:08 pm |
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Quoting Mina_TR: Yes I did attempt to make conversation with her through both my husband and her boyfriend and believe me she wasn't shy about being talkative, she was just plain rude and did not look at me the whole night!
Actually she did this again the second night we met with them and the point of this post was about etiquette and I couldn't care less if she liked me or not, the point is having common courtesy to acknowledge the other person that is there trying to make converstation with you.
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I had a similar situation happen to me with one of my husbands relatives. I asked him later what her problem was and he said..."oh, don't worry about her, she is just a b*&ch!!" It's not nice, but it is the truth. Mean people are everywhere.
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20 Aug 2007 Mon 08:05 pm |
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You should pray for God that you came across such a woman who completely ignored you! You might have come across an animal, a bastard, or an asshole like me.
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20 Aug 2007 Mon 08:09 pm |
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Quoting pagliaccio: You should pray for God that you came across such a woman who completely ignored you! You might have come across an animal, a bastard, or an asshole like me. |
I come across people like that all the time...but being ignored is the worst!!
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20 Aug 2007 Mon 08:50 pm |
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Quoting Elisabeth: Quoting pagliaccio: You should pray for God that you came across such a woman who completely ignored you! You might have come across an animal, a bastard, or an asshole like me. |
I come across people like that all the time...but being ignored is the worst!! |
Hmmm... Maybe... After all, to be regarded as an animal, a bastard and an asshole is the best! Hehe! 
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