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give up girl... dont humiliate yourself more... be strong and move on your life!! as you still have time to live...

i did not ask for a comment on this. just help. i know this already. but can you even imagine how i feel right this moment? have you ever made a abortion?

Thank you very much for standing up for me. It means alot. I hope those who thinks i am stupid understands that I am alone in this, and I have no where else to turn for help.
Of course i am embarassed, I am alone here with a man that do not love me and a baby on the way. You ( suigeneris) can not even imagine how much it hurts letting people know my story like this. But i will go now, because apprently pepole have to pick on me anyway. Thanks for the help kind turkish class!

Let me get this straight…you get pregnant with a guy you can’t even have a conversation with…come here and pour your story out for translation purposes….get help from Sui…and then get annoyed when he comments on the content of what he is being asked to translate?
It‘s rather naïve of you to post for the whole world to see and not anticipate commentary.
You would do yourself well to take his advice…it was spoken wisely and kindly.

yes you are right too. but i do not want to argue. i just ask for a translation. if you want to comment on how naiv and stupid i am - go ahead. And when something like this happens to people that dislike that i tell this here, imagine how it must feel for me to have no one to help me....

now people help me here - thank you all so much!
But i get very upset when someone says im humiliatin myself etc.

What has happened is past. There is no point of blaming this girl for it now. It takes 2 to make a child.
I feel so sorry for you Pam, and wish i was able to translate your texts.
She doesn`t ask for your comments, about what has happened. This is already reality and now she needs help for translation.
If anyone should be blamed at this stage - it`s definately the boy. How can you be so cruel when someone is caring your child? At least he should try to be supportive as this is something none of them wish.
Pam is just trying to figure out what to do and how to make the best desicion for her and the baby as the father are letting them down.

I wish you all the best - if you need someone to talk to i`m sure there are many you can send a PM. Included me.
All the best in the future.
Good luck with your desicion. You`re right - nobody can imagine what yoù`re going through

All I say is, maybe you should think twice about abortion. I dont know how you accidenatlly got pregnant, but if there's a chance it could be your own responsibility, then maybe you should take your responsibility. If you have enough financial (and mental) support from whomever, maybe a baby could be the most beautiful thing he has ever given to you and something to close this relationship down.

Im not saying that it is good for a child to grow up fatherless in a situation where the mummy works too hard for the money. But if you think you could pull it through, abortion may not be the best option. İt is a decision one can never turn back, and one that many people regret later.

Dear Pam,

Life moves on. However painful it is now, the pain will pass and you will have wonderful days in the future. Now that seems impossible, but all things pass. Close your eyes and imagine your most happy day, then realize more happy days coming.

One doesn't really have a lot of control over who they love. Nobody can call you stupid for falling in love. If you decide to go through to the birth of a baby, you probably will find a much greater love. If you don't, other doors will also open.

If you do give birth, in the years to come, you can be sure he will in the future regret his loss.

It's painful, it's very hard, but you can do it. Learn the lesson and try to be more careful in the future.