Guys Im in mess Im really worried about my fiance his phones been off for 2 days and this is not usual for him. The last time we spoke he was in a mini bus making his way from Marmaris to Antakya so about 17 hour journey. He rang me to say his battery had gone on his phone so he had put his sim card in his mates phone to call me and let me know he was okay. Everything was normal he told me he loved me and when he stopped off he would put his phone on charge so we could contact eachother throughout his long journey. Since then I have heard nothing and Im seriously worried. We have been together 10 years have a child and are getting married in June. I have tried his house number and I am getting no answer. I have tried to search local newspapers to see if there have been any traffic accidents. None of the family have my number nor do they speak english>>>>HELP GUYS WHAT CAN I DO??????????

Try to stay calm and not worry,easy to say i know.
Its likely that they havent stopped yet,on these buses its not always that easy to just 'stop' he might not have been able to get to a place where he can charge his phone or what about if they did stop but he was sleeping.That often happens.So stay calm,its unlikely that it will be an accident.Sit tight and think logically about it.Be reasonable and calm for yourself and your child.Keep the phone with you.

My guess is, he has been kidnapped by a horde of pretty Amazons, about halfway between Marmaris to Antakya....You wont get any complaints from him, at all..

yeah but its been 2 days and his journey takes 17 hours

I dont know if you are trying to be funny but I love this man hes my childs father and your sense of humour doesnt really help right now.

I only have his mobile number and home number and nobody is answering his house number. I dont know what to do.

I don't think there is much you can do just at the moment.except wait.Unless anyone else can think of anything.

İf you have his family number,brother,sister,parents,any,and i believe you must have one,you can ask for translation here and sms them in Turkish ask them to reply back,and leave them your number
İ dont think there is something else you could do.

Do you know the name of the transport compagny he took?
If yes call them and ask if the bus from marmaris to.... is arrived and everything was fine with the travel...

They speak english do not worry.

I have only his mobile number and his home number none of the family are answering and he went in a mini bus that a friend had rented.

I CAN IMAGINE HOW YOU ARE FEELING . I WOULD BE THE SAME AS YOU I SURE HOPE HE GETS IN TOUCH SOON AND PUTS YOUR MIND AT REST JUST KEEP TRYING TO RING HIS FAMILY MAYBE THEY HAVE HEARD FROM HIM ALL THE BEST IM SURE THIGS WILL BE OK

Hi

This is the start of the bayram holiday, and a lot of people will have gone away to see relatives. This probably explains why no one is answering his home phone.

Try not to worry too much ...

You have a right to be worried and possibly upset depending on the excuse he gives you. I have found Turkish men have no sense of time or urgency at least the Turkish men I know. Days could go by without you hearing anything and they don't recognize, that you could be worried sick.. I don't think they do it intentionally, maybe it's just their layback attitudes and lifestyles. Anyhow, I wouldn't try to take it to personally and I'm sure you will eventually hear from him.

Thanks for your replies guys yeah I know lots of Turkish guys are quite laid back but not my fiance. He calls me every night to tell me he got home safely from work and sends unlimited amount of texts throughout the day..he always worries about me its so out of character.

Most likely then his friends battery on his phone also died. He is probably just as frustrated and worried as you not being able to call you. I'm sure it will be something that simple, just wait and see. Keep yourself occupied and try not to think into it too much. You will drive yourself crazy when you let your mind wonder, trust me.

Thank you Im trying stay focused and not to worry but it is hard. The worrying thing is he should have been home 2 days ago and it was in a rented mini bus he went in not a coach.

No not at all a man he worked with who came from the same city but a different village as my fiance rented it . I dont even know the name of the man I just know there was about 15 people travelling and my fiance was the only one going to s different village.

yeah its his village...Im going crazy gooing to start a campaign soon if he doesnt turn up make announcments on Hatays radio stations hahahahah better to laugh than cry

Thank you I will try my best yes I am desperate to know if hes okay.

Well this morning there was a break through I finally got intouch with my fiances sister on their home phone..the bad news is she said she didnt know where he was she thought he was in marmaris which is worrying me now because I know he was on a bus making his way home. His sister couldnt really understand what I was saying as I tried to explain that on Monday night he was making his way home.

Hi Laura

I translated your message on the thread this morning.

Can you send me:

Province name : Hatay (?)
District name : this is ilçe in Turkish: if you know it
Village name

and I will try to do some research on the web to find you a name or number.

Also your mans name

I have just realised that I have problay worried his family by ringing and saying hes not in marmaris. This is a horrible situation. His sister couldnt understand me very well but I understood she didnt know where he was but was still in marmaris.

hello,
have you tried contacting the bus company they will be able to tell you if the bus is late or if it has arrived... also it is bayram so they could be out visiting relatives and friendor finally there might be electricity problems over there you never know... don't panic it will just make things worst .... i know it's easier to say then do !

No havent rang a bus company because he went in a rented mini bus which one of his friends rented....Im getting more and more concerned now. If he had been visiting friends or relatives he would have told me. I rang his home phone today and his sister answered but there is a lack of communication because of the language barriers. As far as I could understand she didnt know where he was but still thought he was in Marmaris. Again this is worrying as he usually speaks with his family every 2 or 3 days and especiaaly at Bayram. Im going out of my mind with worry and Im wondering if his family are now worrying as I have called them I dont know what else to do. I have sent a letter to them today urging them to message me if they know where he is but with the postal strikes here its going to take at least 8 days for my letter to get there. Any more suggestions on what I can do???????? Marioninturkey has tried to call the local Muhtar but is closed for Bayram!!!!!!

maybe you can have someone here phone the sister. There has been no news of a bus accident so I would rule that out.

Really thats so kind of you???

I know its really kind I have just pm the number so hopefully we might get some news.

Thanks for your kind words Im just waiting anxiously for thehandsome to come on as hes volunteered to call for me

Yes, keep us all updated - we are all holding our fingers crossed for you I think.

Thank you so much is it likely thehandsom will be back on tonight???? does anybody know???

He's usually online at night.. but I don't know, it's bayram so he might be busy eating lots of food!

Thank you, Im really grateful to everyone on this site for their support. Fingers crossed Thehansom will show up soon and will ring the home phone. Im going out of my mind.

Thehandsom am I glad to see your name

thank you i rang them earlier and I got an answer so hopefully you will do to. Thank you so much xxx

okay thank u

Any news, Laura?

I hope you've found him by now. Fingers crossed for you. Let us know everything is ok if you hear from him.

Apparantly hes safe but not good news for me according to his brother. To be honest him and his brother dont speak and is not in favour of our relationship. My fiance is divorced from his first wife and his brother says he is trying to patch things up with her. I doubt this very much so the mystery really continues. Hopefully I will get through to his home phone rather than his brothers number and get the full story.

The question remains: Why doesn't he contact you? If he doesn't have credits for his cell phone, he surely can use the cell phone of a friend for once?

My fiancee is a very honest man been together 10 years have a child together. He has an ex wife and his eldest brother who thehandsom spoke to doesnt believe in our relationship as he is religious and believes marriage should be for life, He doesnt speak to me so Im confident that his brothers theory is not the case. Fingers are cossed

i really feel for you-
i would be going absolutely out of my mind in this situation.
hope all turns out well :O)

have you heard anything yet i think we are all wondering where he is please keep us up to date with any news hope he gets in touch with you soon

i hope everything works out ok for you.

this is one of my worst fears with my boyfriend, me not being able to contact him and not knowing whats going on. i really feel for you hun.

xx

Thankyou everyone for your kind replies. Well its been 1 week now. His phone is still off Im hoping he has blocked his sim by mistake or broken his phone and hasnt got my number to call me. I have called his home so many times he never answers just his family. Im not even sure if he is in his home town. I really dont trust what his brother has said, as he and my fiance dont get a long and dont speak. I know the family will not tell him I have called. I just need to know whats going on where he is and why is phones off. Anybody else with a Turkish partner please make sure you have lots of contact numbers. This situation is terrible.

In fairness I have changed my number about 6 times this year so He wouldnt know my number as it is so new.

hmmm, odd. Why do I get the feeling there is no reason for all this concern? Lauracorrahs reason for turkish class: married to a turk? So is this your boyfriend on the side? How does your husband feel? Perhaps he can help you locate the missing boyfriend and father of your child?

just a suggestion.

Another suggestion, do you have any idea where his ex-wife lives? Maybe you could have someone check up on that location?

What excuse possible could he give you for not phoning in a week? My gosh you have a child together, unless he has been ship wrecked on a remote island, I would really think long and hard. I'm just curious, you have been together for 10 years now and have a child. Why aren't you with him in Turkey or him living in the UK? This doesn't sound to be a healthy relationship. But then who I'm I too be the judge of relationships.

oh god , did she find him or still , ?
i wish he is fine if iam in ur position i would go there directly searching with police or with any thing................. u r so calm
let us know we all carring here .

I been reading these posts with interest. The guy who's disappeared surely would want some contact with his child, any parent would , so im sure in time when he's ready he'll call or contact in some way. Maybe he wants a little space, we all do at times.

As for the homosexual discussion goin on here,well ..... If there are gay men in Turkey is sure is a waste and a loss for us ladies, some are soo beautiful to look at, my blood pressure always goes up a notch when in Turkey.

After this many days with no contact, I can only imagine the excuse that will be given.

Here are my odds on what he will say. Place your bets.

2:1 "I was in hospital"
4:1 "My mobile was stolen and don't have your number"
8:1 " I couldn't afford to buy contours"
15:1 Anything at all regarding alien abduction...

Thank the lord for that ! thought there was something wrong with me, having this fetish for Turkish men .

Glad im not the only one, but i was told that women going to Turkey for the men is like men going to Thailand for a bride, do any of you think thats true? I dont it is, i just like to look . After all some of the Turkish men that work in bars and retuarants are young enough to be a son !

The attraction for me is the dark hair and eyes the total opposite to what i have. But i digress here, i hope this guy shows safe and well .

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