Quoting Badiabdancer74:

There is always that chance that he was abducted by aliens. If you read the tabloids, that apparently happens quite a bit. Maybe he had a fugue, in which someone forgets who they are before and becomes a new person. Ok, I'm not being helpful. This story disturbs me and I want to find out what happened to this guy. If he left you on purpose he could have at least told you, or even had a family member tell you. That would still be rude but it would be better than this.

Quoting portokal:

There are several ways of communicating. If not phone, than email, if not mail, telegrams, if not that letter.
In 10 years time one becomes part of your life. You share many things.
What excuse is to give to a 14-15day dissapearance? I would leave it as it is, or if i would have any doubt, i would go to find him. To know the truth. And not just to wonder about his mailbox, phone-number, former wife. TO KNOW. And to act in consequence. Life is not so long to live in false expectations, doubts, unanswered questions. Not when you share a past that is 10 years together, probably round 1/3 of your lifetime, not when having a child, which means responsability and not when you share marriage plans, bounding your life officially together. If he is to leave you, meeting you will make him think over. He might change his mind, reconsider and admit he is making a mistake. Or not. You may decide he is not a reliable partner for you. Or you may give him a chance. But you sit and wait. You don't practice neither your right in this relationship, neither your right to know what will come out of your plans together, neither your parental right to an answer after having a child together. and being as much as an unofficial one, but a family.
In my opinion, if he was to leave you, your passivity is but an approval for his deeds.

Quoting teaschip1:

Wow, a very different perspective. You are much nicer than I would be. Sure I would want the truth, but you may not ever be certain what the truth is and I wouldn't go begging for it.

Most likely it's another woman. A man isn't with you for 10 years has a child just to go off with his friends. 99% of times a woman is involved.

See, if a man has to reconsider being with you, I wouldn't give him this option. After 10 years and he wants to move on, some advice; let him move on! If you beg he stays, he will want to leave again, maybe not immediately but in the future. It's a clear sign he is discontent. Don't bring yourself to this low as many woman seem to do.

Some more advice, make sure he pays and pays to the fullest. That is child support!

Lastly, never I mean never talk bad about him to your child. Even though this maybe hard, your child will be smart enough to figure out if he is a dead beat dad or not.

Quoting AEnigma III:

Quoting teaschip1:

Hey, by the way I didn't see you around on Tuesday, SeptembER 25th. How convienent!

Quoting AEnigma III:

Quoting femme_fatal:

Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting teaschip1: Hey, by the way I didn't see you around on Tuesday, SeptembER 25th. How convienent! Awwwwwwwwwwww you missed me