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How does a Turk dump a girl?
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07 Jul 2008 Mon 10:32 pm |
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Being dumped and someone breaking up with you mean exactly the same thing 
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07 Jul 2008 Mon 10:39 pm |
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Quoting fenerkız: Being dumped and someone breaking up with you mean exactly the same thing |
I disagree. If someone breaks up with you it implies a certain degree of sensitivity. If someone dumps you it is usually done unkindly.If any of my friends said to me either 'he broke up with me' or 'he dumped me' believe me I would know the difference.
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07 Jul 2008 Mon 10:42 pm |
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Quoting fenerkız: Being dumped and someone breaking up with you mean exactly the same thing |
Actually that's not true. Breaking up indicates some type of recipocity. Being dumped is something one does in the toilet...take a dump. A dump is a pile of s**t....thus being dumped is not a nice to do to someone or have done to oneself. It indicates a lack of respect or care for the dumpee.
While breaking up can be one way, it has an element of respect, or at least some decorum involved.
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07 Jul 2008 Mon 10:49 pm |
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I said "being dumped and someone breaking up with you mean exactly the same thing". What I just said isn't false. There are different levels of sensitivity, but in essence, they are the same.
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07 Jul 2008 Mon 11:57 pm |
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Quoting fenerkız: I said "being dumped and someone breaking up with you mean exactly the same thing". What I just said isn't false. There are different levels of sensitivity, but in essence, they are the same. |
Well as a native speaker, I disagree with you.
There are many words in languages to convey many different and specific meanings.
To break up is one thing, to be dumped is another. In the end a relationship has been terminated, but the way it ends is very different.
Of course one can dump many things other than a relationship, but in this case, we are speaking about relationships. I think there in is the difference. One can visit a dump site, they are full of other peoples refuse. One can dump a pile of books on a table or anyplace. Dumping is a crude method of performing an activity.
Breaking up is a level higher in emotional investment and indicates there was some care and respect for the other. One dumps garbage or things they have no concern for.
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08 Jul 2008 Tue 12:02 am |
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Quoting fenerkız: I said "being dumped and someone breaking up with you mean exactly the same thing". What I just said isn't false. There are different levels of sensitivity, but in essence, they are the same. |
As Alameda says-only the result is the same.
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08 Jul 2008 Tue 03:55 am |
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It depends on the wisdom of the man. If a man with enough wisdom wants to break up with a girl who does not have comparable wisdom , he finds a way that silently and secretly pushes her in a way that at the end she will be the one that dumps him. Both parties win.
If the forces are equal in terms of wisdom, you just go and talk, underline some facts that both parties know these are BS facts but none the less no one admits but plays his/her part.
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08 Jul 2008 Tue 01:25 pm |
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ahghghghahahghgh  The person asked, what is the difference between the two? As I said, they mean the same thing but have different levels of sensitivity!!!! If a non native speaker heard that their friend had been "dumped" and asked what it meant, most people would say that is the same as someone breaking up with you, but in a more insensitive manner. Blimey.
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08 Jul 2008 Tue 05:44 pm |
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Quoting fenerkız: ahghghghahahghgh The person asked, what is the difference between the two? As I said, they mean the same thing but have different levels of sensitivity!!!! If a non native speaker heard that their friend had been "dumped" and asked what it meant, most people would say that is the same as someone breaking up with you, but in a more insensitive manner. Blimey. |
I'm with you! No need for any comment other than the one you made!
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23 Jul 2008 Wed 10:58 am |
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if they want break up they just ignore
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23 Jul 2008 Wed 12:55 pm |
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Quoting pansi: if they want break up they just ignore |
Ouch! Sounds like you are speaking from personal experience.
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