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Cultural Question About Men
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1.       soniab
5 posts
 11 Jun 2009 Thu 06:01 pm

I have a question about Turkish culture.I have read in many forums that Western women are viewed differently by Turkish men because of alot of stereotypes that are out there.

 

How do those views range from cities like Istanbul to cities like Adana? I know that usually in big cities people are usually alot more open and liberal. I ask because I have a Western friend that is a girl that think that her Turkish guy friends view things like women sleeping around or Western things like friends with benefits normally and do not look down on her for doing these things and might marry her but I always thought that it was a more conservative culture then that.

 

2.       ReyhanL
1961 posts
 11 Jun 2009 Thu 06:12 pm

Lets ask turkish guys from this site what do they think about foreign women ?

3.       soniab
5 posts
 11 Jun 2009 Thu 06:15 pm

Yeah, I am just curious and please be honest guys. I know everyone thinks differently but still ....And what do the Turkish girls think?



Edited (6/11/2009) by soniab

4.       Irishclove
111 posts
 11 Jun 2009 Thu 06:36 pm

From my personal experience, the only reason why turkish guys even bother to get involved with a western woman is for a way to get out of their country.  I am married to one who told me that he will rather have a western woman who knows what she wants rather than a turkish woman who is probably marrying him only so she can better herself in life and have someone provide for her.  Now that we are married I can never live up to his expectations and he is trying his damnest to turn me into a turkish woman.  I am feeling like all of the sudden my mission in life is to work and provide, come home clean, cook and serve him.  I thought it was just me, but since it is a large turkish community around me i found out that the rest of the turkish guys treat their wives in the same manner, some a lot worst than mine.  If it was just mine, I will say i was just unlucky, but it does not seem to be the case.  Perhaps they are different in their country, but from what I have seen when I was there it does not seem so. 

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5.       ReyhanL
1961 posts
 11 Jun 2009 Thu 08:50 pm

Ý understand you Ýrishclove

6.       Elisabeth
5732 posts
 11 Jun 2009 Thu 09:20 pm

Well, you will probably get as many different answers as responses.  Yes, many Turkish men view Western women as loose or easy.  It is probably because western women don´t view sex before marriage as a taboo, as many traditional Turkish women do.

 

I am married to a Turkish man and he seems to be very much like most western men.  We met, fell in love, got married and started a family.  We have problems like everyone else.  Some of them stem from our cultural and religious differences.  However, I have never felt as if he was trying to turn me into a Turkish woman or that he wanted me to be any different.  I think all relationships should be based on mutual respect and tolerance no matter where you are from. 



Edited (6/11/2009) by Elisabeth

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7.       Irishclove
111 posts
 11 Jun 2009 Thu 09:32 pm

 

Quoting ReyhanL

Ý understand you Ýrishclove

 

 You´re from Romania, I lived there for two years when I was a teenager, I even learned how to speak the language.  I have a couple of frineds from this site that I keep in contact with.

8.       Irishclove
111 posts
 11 Jun 2009 Thu 09:34 pm

 

Quoting Elisabeth

Well, you will probably get as many different answers as responses.  Yes, many Turkish men view Western women as loose or easy.  It is probably because western women don´t view sex before marriage as a taboo, as many traditional Turkish women do.

 

I am married to a Turkish man and he seems to be very much like most western men.  We met, fell in love, got married and started a family.  We have problems like everyone else.  Some of them stem from our cultural and religious differences.  However, I have never felt as if he was trying to turn me into a Turkish woman or that he wanted me to be any different.  I think all relationships should be based on mutual respect and tolerance no matter where you are from. 

 

 I could not agree more, you nailed it.  You are so lucky, I am almost envious.  I neither had sex with him prior to marriage because i am muslim and that is very taboo in my family, so he cannot accuse me of beinf loose.  I did not need him for his money, all I asked for was his love and respect.  I guess in my case and some of the other ladies I know may be too much.



Edited (6/11/2009) by Irishclove

9.       Forrest Gump
25 posts
 11 Jun 2009 Thu 09:38 pm

Firstly foreign women much more open minded and free than Turkish women..Its deal with  our manners and religion and life style..In the end woman is woman everywhere,nothing different..And I am thinking that Turkish men want to be served by women.. It is easy in Turkey but they want also freedom in their private life so its a way to pick up foreign woman especially in holiday resorts...Also my another idea foreign women can be more possesive than Turkish women most of time...

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10.       ReyhanL
1961 posts
 11 Jun 2009 Thu 09:55 pm

 

Quoting Irishclove

 

 

 You´re from Romania, I lived there for two years when I was a teenager, I even learned how to speak the language.  I have a couple of frineds from this site that I keep in contact with.

 

Ý worked for 3 years in Ankara. There people are open minded and wasnt quit a problem for me being a foreigner. But in Ýstanbul is not the same. Ý think all depends on the enviroment you are living.. Some people know nothing but work and looking for women no matter their age

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