The moment he starts asking for money, dump him. If he tells you a sad story about how his little sister needs shoes, and asks you to buy these shoes, dump him. Don´t get overwhelmed by the things he says. It´s not about what he says, but about what he does.
Turkish men are very good with worlds...usually Mine is a bit of a ...well, never mind But usually women get overwhelmed by sweet words, I love you´s (after the first week!) and romantic gestures.
In the end, roses don´t matter, words don´t matter, what really matters is what he really does, how he really lives his life.
I´ve been with my Turkish partner for over three years and I have seen couple crash and burn in large numbers. Simply because the girls reacted SOOO differently to these men than they would in their own country. They would never fall for these sweet lines out of the mouth of a ginger English guy
There are a lot of red signals you should watch for. For example, does he work in the tourist industry? And if that is the case, in what kind of business? The boys/men who work in bars/cafe´s and the like often flirt with girls who are with large groups or with their families, to make the whole group come again and again to their establishment. And they keep in contact with these girls so the girls also send their friends over to have a drink there... big business!
If his phone is turned off a lot...red signal.
If he asks for money, or starts talking about money problems when you are not that long together...red signal. Ofcourse, if you are together for a long time it´s normal that you share these kind of problems... I complain about my phonebill to my askim a lot too But I don´t expect him to pay it for me, and it works the other way around too.
If he says I love you on the first day...red signal... that means he says it a lot, and easily, and probably not only to you.
I think you can think of a lot of other red signals yourself too.
Good signals...if he is not the don juan type If he takes you to his family after a while, especially his mom. If he is interested in the things that are happening in your life, and if he tells you private stuff about himself that he doesn´t tell others. Also good, if you are very poor and he knows it If you are about the same age is also a good signal. And people say language can be overcome... well, I think that´s a bit strange... I think language is very important! If you don´t understand eachother, then ask yourself why did you get together in the first place?! Than your relationship must be based on something other then personalities or intellectual connection...what is left is sex, money, and visa
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