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60.       libralady
5152 posts
 25 Aug 2010 Wed 08:00 pm

 

Quoting Capoeira

 

Quoting libralady

 

 

  He sat on my husbands knee staring blindly for what seemed like hours, at the black man in the seat opposite, never ever having seen a black person before. 

 

in the States we teach children to not stare. if that had been me,  my mother would have said something to make me stop. being one of the rare ´brown/woman/foreigner´ that most people have ever met or seen before, i wonder why people think it´s acceptable to stare. maybe it is just cultural but i find it rude. maybe in other cultures staring is acceptable. i am certain the man wasn´t amused.  he was just tolerant as life has taught those of us who get stares ALL the TIME to just bare it as best as we can. otherwise we will go around everyday angry and depressed. better to make lemonade...

by the way i´ve been in poland...next time i come i´ll call you daydreamer so you can add two to the list of brown people you have met!

 

Yes you are right, it is rude to stare and I don´t think it is acceptable.  He was two years old and the man opposite did not mind, he started to talk to and play with my little boy to put him at ease.  He just could not take his eyes of him!  Nothing rude or personal just a little boy unsure of something.  The man was very pleasant and when it was time to leave the train we wished each other well on our journeys.

 

61.       libralady
5152 posts
 25 Aug 2010 Wed 08:01 pm

 

Quoting lemon

 

 

 

 

 You are such a word twister, where have I ever said I have a dislike for Eastern Europeans?  I think most of them are very nice people actually! {#emotions_dlg.get_you}  

62.       lemon
1374 posts
 25 Aug 2010 Wed 09:50 pm

 

Quoting libralady

 

 

 You are such a word twister, where have I ever said I have a dislike for Eastern Europeans?  I think most of them are very nice people actually! {#emotions_dlg.get_you}  

 

That´s news! Havent read any posotive opinion of yours on them uptill now

63.       lemon
1374 posts
 25 Aug 2010 Wed 09:53 pm

 

Quoting libralady

 

 

Yes you are right, it is rude to stare and I don´t think it is acceptable.  He was two years old and the man opposite did not mind, he started to talk to and play with my little boy to put him at ease.  He just could not take his eyes of him!  Nothing rude or personal just a little boy unsure of something.  The man was very pleasant and when it was time to leave the train we wished each other well on our journeys.

 

 

I stare at people, at unusual people (beautiful, ugly).

You think why many papers and magazines use beautiful people (or somwway unusual) on their covers or advertisements? Because people stare. {#emotions_dlg.whistle}

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64.       alameda
3499 posts
 26 Aug 2010 Thu 01:28 am

I once saw two toddlers, they were maybe 12 months old, maybe a little more. One had blond fuzz, blue eyed and pink skinned, the other was dark brown with brown eyes and black hair in little tufts. When they saw each other their eyes got large and they walked around each other looking each other in amazement. There was no hostility, just curiosity. The adults just stood by and allowed the two boys to check each other out.

 

Another time I was in a Department of Motor Vehicles line in the SF Metropolitan Area (a very diverse area) There was a Chinese man holding a baby boy, the child was about 10 months old. The child looked to his side and saw avery dark black man, a blond haired white woman, brown woman, red haired people...each time the child looked at a person not of his race he started screaming loudly hysterically, then he looked back up at his father´s face and calmed down, until he saw another person not of his race. It seems the child probably had not been outside the home very much, or seen any other races. His father comforted him, but I don´t think he actually knew what was bothering the child. It was easy for me to see as I was behind and was able to follow the child´s gaze.

 

I think when confronted with something unusual or different, something we have not seen before, many are fearful. What happens after probably determines out life outlook.

Quoting libralady

Yes you are right, it is rude to stare and I don´t think it is acceptable.  He was two years old and the man opposite did not mind, he started to talk to and play with my little boy to put him at ease.  He just could not take his eyes of him!  Nothing rude or personal just a little boy unsure of something.  The man was very pleasant and when it was time to leave the train we wished each other well on our journeys.

 

 

 



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65.       barba_mama
1629 posts
 26 Aug 2010 Thu 05:21 am

I think it´s acceptable for a small child to stare. If you freak out about staring, you teach the child that having a different colour is a taboo subject.

 

When my brother was small he once noticed that the hands of our neighbor was white, while his skin colour was almost black. My brother asked why his skin was black, but the palms of his hand were white. The neighbor smiled, and said that when he was small his mother painted him black. But when she was painting him, he had to stand on his hand and feet, so his palms and foot-soles were still white. My brother and I both believed that to be true for too long

66.       lemon
1374 posts
 26 Aug 2010 Thu 09:55 am

Come on, folks, staring is Ok. I stare, it means its fine.

That chinese child alameda mentioned reminded of my own son. He would scream if anyone else out of the family looked at him when he was about 5-6 months.

So, people, lets love and accept our skins. Just dont destroy it with silly tattoos. {#emotions_dlg.razz}

67.       teaschip
3870 posts
 31 Aug 2010 Tue 12:34 am

 

Quoting lemon

 

 

I stare at people, at unusual people (beautiful, ugly).

You think why many papers and magazines use beautiful people (or somwway unusual) on their covers or advertisements? Because people stare. {#emotions_dlg.whistle}

 

 I love to people watch! I think most people do they just won´t admit it!{#emotions_dlg.super_cool}

68.       coldylan
10 posts
 20 Nov 2010 Sat 08:12 am

 

Quoting kstine

Hi All,

Was just wondering if people in turkey prefer light fair skin or tan skin?

 

Hi I am a Turkish man with ginger hair and quite fair skin and I have to say I dislike women with tanned skins and always prefer fair skin, though I do not have many options in Turkey!

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69.       mltm
3690 posts
 05 Dec 2010 Sun 09:52 pm

I don´t care whether men like tanned or light skin color. I can do certain things to be more attractive to the eyes of men, but i am not going to tan to please someone. I don´t tan because i know that sun destroys the cells and it is the major responsible of skin aging in environmental factors together with smoking. I tan very little when I go to beach, after all it is good to have some summer sun for the bones and for feeling good.

Whatever the color of the skin, i think nothing can beat a smooth and healthy skin with little wrinkles.  



Edited (12/5/2010) by mltm
Edited (12/5/2010) by mltm

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