they all need to be killed arkadaşlar.



has anyone here, like me, had any problems because of rumours that old village women sit and make up??



note: in regards to this, my holiday has now been cancelled and i cant go to turkey again.!!! LYNDIE CAN U BELIEVE IT?? :'(

my father'S step mother has made up a load of lies about me. artık, apart from aşkım, i have no one in turkey. all my uncles, aunties, grandad, cousins everyone all believe whatever has been said.
its lucky i found out before i went or i would have got there and would have had to either stay on the streets for 10 weeks or return.

i hate people who gossip. there are so many terrible things going on in the world, why cant they sit and talk about history, or whats happening in the world. instead of making up lies about me and ruining my whole summer.??

are jokes made like thiS?

when i first went to turkey in 2003 i was so happy that i could meet all of my relatives that i had never met before. i would just sit there and think "wow.. you are my uncle.." or.."omg you are my cousin" (my mother has no brothers or sisters so these are the only relatives i have).
i have now discovered that they are all just easy influenced, ignorant people who are a waste of space on this wretched planet.
i am so angry and upset because now i feel so lonely.
i loved and trusted those people so much and i dont want to know the truth, it hurts too much.

i have only 3 people in my life: my parents and aşkım.

think about it like this esther,

could anything be done to change the way a dog will always run back to its owner? NO, it could even be classed as nature? (i nearly said human nature hehe, omg how can i even make jokes at a time like this..!! anyway...)

some things just cant be changed işte.
another example..

could world peace ever be achieved by the attempts of one person. NO. because it has got too out of hand.


people have been brought up like this, live their whole lives like this and its now part of who they are and they are unable to change. whoever tries to change them or show them the right path in right, it wont work.
they have eyes and ears but can neither see or hear.
its not worth trying.

we have thought of every possible way to make this situation better. but everyone leads to some kind of problem.

So now what are you and your boyfriend gonna do?

we have to wait a couple of years until our house has been built in trabzon somewhere in the mountains so we can all go as a family (for the 1st time!).
my father has come to the conclusion that he doesnt want to be near any of the family, and i have never agreed more.
after i have finished college and aşkım has done uni and millitary we will İNŞALLAH get married.

i would like to share these mails i have received from Aslan:


Dear Miss_c!
I don´t have any idea what so ever what happened to you...but I am so sorry for you and for not being able to go to Turkey as planned. Miss_c, you are such an intelligent and strong young woman, I truelly wish you all the best and hope that your problems can be solved and that you will have the power to overcome whatever has occured.
I wish there was something I could do for you, because I know how much you have yearned for this journey and how much effort you have put in learning turkish. You are a wonderful example of a young woman that has so many gifts and I know you will succeed in life whatever goals you put up for yourself!
I wish my daughters will show as much intelligence, integrity, humour, love, energy and beauty as you and Deli-kizin. You 2 impress me every day with your intelligent and relevant postings at tc, though lately I have missed you much (besides the fact that I can´t follow you when you write in turkish).

Kendine iyi bak!

I wish you the best...and remember...that one day you will be able to look back at this experience and you will see that you learned something about life that you could not have learned otherwise, being good or bad...this is what we can do with everything that hurt us and affect us in life. I wish there was an easier way for you, my friend, and I don´t think you deserve it! But still I hope that you can see the light on the other side...

Best wishes and kisses,
yours truelly,
Aslan also known as Cathrine



Oh, miss_c, I was so glad to hear from you and to see that you keep your sparkle and spirit that I so much admire with you. And I hope that one day you will find that it is not a contradiction to take each day as it comes and still live with a plan. But as you so wisely say - you never know what is around the corner. That is the most awful and at the same time the most exciting marvellous thing about being alive. The day we only meet what we expect from life...then we all will be bored stiff. Still...I think that whatever gossip was told in some turkish village is so unfair towards a woman of your caliber. I hope their tongues will rotten (however that is spelled)!

/Aslan



Dear miss_c, I just read your posting about what happened. I don´t know much about the circumstances but I still have some questions according to what you wrote. I find it really tragic if you will lose big part of your family. How can you be sure everybody believes the lies about you? I know that in a culture like the turkish one there is always very much respect towards the elder...which means that if some elder say lies it is most unlikely that the rest will say anything against this person. That would be considered really rude. But that does not mean that they really believe this person... At least this was my experience when it comes to the peruvian culture. My ex is from Peru and I was married with him for 13 years...



What does your father say about this? Can he see what the motives are? Is she trying to take revenge for something that have not even got to do with you? Sorry for being curious...and it is not primarily because I am only being curious...but because I think that old bitches mainly have a reason for their behaviour... (I am an old bitch myself you know)





i will reply later.. aşkım has come on line and i have to speak to him.. please carry on with this thread guys. i will like to read your replies later...


xxx

Wow ASLAN . If only I could hug the both of you right now

...I wish the same!

This is girl power at its best. Why am I not surprised to see such warm and generous posts from Aslan? Well I'm not surprised because she is a warm and generous person.

Princess. I am also sorry about this, but I think you are completely right about them not changing. Dont judge them too harshly, they have absolutely no idea of the life you lead or the things that influence you and they have no idea who the real you is. Take a leaf from Deli_Kizin's book, she is just focused on her life and her path to Izmir, despite the problems.

BUT Ceyda! Get your degree and your teaching qualification first please. You were not born to be holed up in Trabzon, you know it and everyone who knows you knows it! ( I am not as kind as Aslan!)

Kisses and hugs!

This is what happens when people prefer personal gossip to a deep and meaningful discussion on "Energy Geopolitics".

You cant say I did not try to lead you girls into the right direction.

Canım kızım! the chances of my having any kids of school age when i am living in Turkey are remote, if not almost (and I stress the word 'almost') biologically impossible...but of course I'll encourage you to take yours to Miss C for perfect English lessons! While we shop, tame our 'men' (I dont intend having a husband) and be generally good! I intend to provide free employees rights advice to people working in the tourist industry.

Thank you for your comments everyone.
I'm glad that there are some people who understand me! And also that there are people who, like me, dont agree with gossiping!!

it turns out that the real "gossiper" is my bf's mother!!

inanılmaz demi?!?!



why did this happen like this guys?
is there any way this could be my fault?
is there something so bad about the way i am to make this woman dislike me this much?
i am not a perfect muslim, my turkish is not excellent.. is this the problem? i really dont know...

Maybe, I should tell you what kind of things the mother and sister of my father did to my mother Now, we laugh, but it wasn't any fun to my mother.

They always find faults and just see the bad sides of the potential bride. In the end, isn't she the one that steals their one and only son?
You have to be either evil like them or play the deaf, but anyway all the things depend on the boy. He has to stand very determined about the girl and show them that he respects and loves her.

yazzık canım bütün olayı okuyup anlamadım ama...valla cok kotü olmus..after all your dreams its so bad

sad for u