Poetic like the original. I liked it. One of the characteristic of our idioms is being them poetic. Maybe you can find a poetic connection between "karı" and "darı" in English.This would be better.

or maybe enemy of the spoon means she is so lazy she dosent cookbit like me

"Kaşık düşmanı"

"spoon enemy" sounds a better translation to me.

I think nobody knows what are the origins of this curious expression but it is colloquialism for one´s wife.

Recently some experts at TDK got together to remove some of the idioms with inappropriate meanings.

Here are some that will be removed from the dicitionary:

“Kadın erkeğin şeytanıdır”,   ????

“Avrat var ev yapar, avrat var ev yıkar”, ????

“Avradı eri saklar, peyniri deri”, ????

“Ağustostan sonra ekilen darıdan, kocasından sonra kalkan karıdan hayır gelmez”, ???

“Al atın iyisini yiyeceği bir yem, al avradın iyisini giyeceği bir don”, ????

“Oğlan babadan öğrenir sofra dizmeyi, kız anadan öğrenir sokak gezmeyi”, ????

“Avrat malı, kapı mandalı”, ????

“Gül dalından odun, beslemeden kadın olmaz”, ????

The following sayings will also be removed from the dictionary:????

‘Altta kalanın canı çıksın’, ????

‘Bana dokunmayan yılan bin yıl yaşasın’, ????

‘Kadının sırtından sopayı, karnından sıpayı eksik etmeyeceksin’ You should beat a woman all the time, and always keep her pregnant

Looking at that one I´m seeing red....that is disgusting!!! There is an English one similar. It´s, "Barefoot and pregnant and in the kitchen"....but note...no mention of beating...

‘Eksik etek’, ????

‘Kaşık düşmanı’ ????

Why do you do these things in large red letters with no translation?

Please translate what you wrote.

This is vulgar rude slang, right? Then I think the term "my old lady" is similar. It is sometimes shortened to "ol lady"