I met Onur a few months ago. He is from Istanbul and it was immediate attraction. He was such a sweet guy and we became very close. He asked me to be his girlfriend and he would call me often. His bill must have been tremendous because he would call and we would speak for 3 or maybe even four hours. I was very drawn to him. Later, I stopped talking to him. I noticed he was becoming very jealous and at the same time very stubborn. I am the kind of girl that likes to have my way so you could imagine what was running through my mind when he told me that I couldn't go out with my friends. He would call and check up on me; of course I didnt' tell any of my friends what he was up to. I imagined they would be very upset with me if I continued to talk to him. Onur and me no longer speak. He is very very jealous. When he called me and heard a man's voice answer, he became very angry and questioned me. He asked me why I never told him that I was living with a man and if there is anything going on. I told him no of course but he didnt' believe me. He kept on insisting that I was playing with his heart all along and that one day I will see. Yeah thats what he told me, he said "Jok, watch and you see later how man really treat you and you miss me later, I know." Those were actually his exact words. He didn't really allowed me time to explain or anything. He was set in his thinking and that I was bad.........Well the reason I talked about Onur is because I want all to know ever since I've met Onur, I have this "major" attraction for Turkish men. I don't know what it is about them that makes me like them so much but I do. Oh yes, I will speak of Ibrahim who is nothing like Onur. Ibrahim is my sweetheart and I'm so happy we're talking. Ya'll can look at my boyfriend's foto in my personal foto. Ibrahim and me have been talking for almost 2 months now. He is a total sweetheart. He calls me like Onur but not as much because he doesn't have a lot of money like Onur. He is so so so so super sweet and sings to me on the phone. He is very jealous but not as extreme like Onur so I am glad for that. My boyfriend is sending me a gift this coming month and I can't wait to see what it is........Ibrahim I miss you.................Jok

u have to give your heart only to one person..
u cant change your heart every 2 months like a dress...

Is that why you are alone duskahvesi? waiting for "the one"

wise words duskahvesi

Now I am also suspicous for Ibrahims future.Coz at first u loved onur much too...Than left him...Now its ibrahims turn...And the end will be the same like onur...Sorry for ibrahim...

Now this was a very interesting forum. The negative posts were all from turkish men!

I don't know where jok is from, but she is not unusual that she changes her heart (like a dress duskhavesi? CIK!) Maybe she is looking for The One, but she didn't find it in Onur did she? Because he messed up that relationship big time! I'd bet my last lira that he was seeing other girls while he was phoning her and telling her not to go out with her friends. Maybe if he hadn't been so jealous, unreasonable and possessive she wouldn't have changed her heart.

Sometimes even if you love someone lots, if they have characteristics that you could never live with - like unreasonable jealousy and possessiveness - you would be very sensible to break off that relationship.

I don't think The One just comes along and everything is wonderful, you have to work at your relationship and you have to both make compromises. Maybe it is the rare Turkish boy that can make the compromises to ensure a happy and long lasting relationship. European or american girls would rarely be the one to make all the changes in their lives because they would soon 'put on a new dress' and look for someone more flexible

Wow, Ibrahim's really cute I wish you all the best!

Lyndie you are absolutely right. No relationship is perfect, but you have to look for a person who is as similar as you, eho thinks the same. As Lyndie said, you must look after your relationship.

If you are independent and another person tries to take away your independence totally it means that he/she doesn't really cares about you and your feelings and doesn't even try to understand you...

All negative opinions from Turkish men how typical! You are also jealous, you think that girl should love only one boy, the best - the first ever met. I won't say what I think about it...

not typical turkish men react..why?
i know same men in turkey who r my friends..
so i saw the same behaviours from them but i said the same to them..
well
if any person changes her bf or his gf every 2 months that means this person has some problems.. why?
he doesnt like someone for a long time..may be he/she has emotional, mental, oy psychgical etc.. first he/she should solve this problem
i am not talking about specifical person.. generally.. pls dont misunderstand me...

I understand what you mean Dushkavasi, usually a man or a women that flits from one relationship to another, does have some sort of emotional problems. It is not good to be this way. It seems the general idea these day's is to just move on to the next person if things are not working, instead of trying to sort out the problem.