Girls, I got some question in mind. this make me cant sleep and I think maybe all girl here can give me some good advise and idea.

It's true that in Turkey culture " need to marry before have baby? " if you have baby before marry your BF will get into troubles with his family. and if your BF ask you to have an abortion. is that not SIN and what wrong with having baby without marry?

I hope someone can open my mind and eyes. Thank you so much.

To have a baby without marriage,its a SİN

İt is in İslam,and Turkish are Muslims,and belive so too.

If I pregnant? killing baby dont let them born. Is that not Sin?

Ofcourse its a SİN,

İf it's already happened,killing the baby is a SİN for sure

Best thing is for the parents to get married.
So the baby,would be born between them,if they want,they can be seperated later,or divorced.

But why having a baby at the first place,if not intended to get married,and being committed ??

İ'm sorry,but if he was a man enough to get into a relation,then he should be a man enough to carry on his responsibilities .

Dear CANLI, I dont know what is his real problem. his family? Culture or himself?

For me, really I can takecare of myself and baby if he dont want. I am working and powerful in resbonsibility. We were fighting few day ago about this. I told him I want to kill the baby but he said I must do. he said maybe later he will go back to live in Turkey and marry someone there. how could he stop thinking about my baby.

I asked him to stop our relationship but he dont want. He said he Love me. that hurt me a lot..

Dear Wing of Angle,

İf he is Muslim,i am sure he knows what he asks is a SİN .

And please,if he really loves you,he would want your baby ,right ?

Before he entered a relation,he should know what is coming out of it,if he is really serious about it.

İf he loves you,then he should get united with you.

Maybe his condition is difficult now,but he should be planning later that he will.

He doesn't want you to have the baby,because Turks are so committed to their kids,
He cann't really leave the baby,raised away from him.

İts a SİN,best thing to handle it as i told you,even would be acceptable,
He just get married,and got a baby,later you can get seperated.

İf he loves you,how can he talk about getting married with someone else ? !

I just read your post and realize different religions and cultures have various views on pregnancy. Whether it is a sin or not is irrelavent at this point. What is done is done and you are pregnant now that doesn't change anything. You should ask for forgiveness and move on. Your pregnant, so you need to decide whether or not your going to keep the baby. Whether your boyfriend is in the picture or not, this is your decision and your right as a women. If you decide to keep the baby, obviously you will need to start planning. I don't believe that getting married is the answer, unless you both are committed to this. In fact, if your both not ready for marriage it only makes the situation worse. If you decide to have an abortion, you need to be prepared to live with this the rest of your life. However, remember this decision needs to be made by you. You can't bank on a man being by your side and help raising this child. Not that your boyfriend won't, but you will be responsible for raising this child with or without him. I know society tends to frown upon single women with babies, but it has been accepted more through the years. If you want this child, have it, raise it and nurture it. It won't be easy, but the rewards will be priceless.

If you are already pregnant then there are just the two choices which you have already discussed above. If it was me I would have the baby regardless of circumstances because I could not bear to get rid of a child.

One thing you dont mention is how old you both are.

In an ideal world, it is not good to be a single parent. It will be difficult in many ways and more difficult in some cultures than others. For instance, in the UK there are so many unmarried mothers with not just the one child but several. It is not good for society.

What ever you decided I wish you luck. Take care.