Deep stuff...and there is just one thing I want to say:
I dont think that by RESPECTING traditions and go on with them one person lives in "Stone Age"...

traditions and culture are integral parts of what we are.
Some people believe it and follow it hook, line and sinker and some people don't. i respect that. Questioning/asking people who practice those is not bad for us to learn and understand. But questioning/giving comments to insult and to be obnoxious is another thing.

I am not going to quote the whole of Qdemir post but he does have a point - Femme Fatal, being a woman who seduces the male only to administer her "poison". The Mata Hari being one, although for me she was a heroine.

What I am trying to say here is that we all think our view is the right one and we should all give each other the benefit of the doubt and consider the other person may have a good point. Lots of us here come from different cultures and countries and of course for many of those, English is not their first language, therefore sometimes the true meaning is lost because of the grammar or use of words.

Being a Librian I like to see peace, harmony and balance and am often tryng to restore calm to disorder (Not normally here but in other aspects of my life).

Have a good evening - better than mine, nothing on TV (I only receive 5 channel!) so consequently I am here.......

THANK YOU QDEMİR FOR TAKİNG TİME TO WRİTE SUCH "FULL" POST.

ELİNE DİLİNE SAGLIK,

I am so sorry this causing you so much pain. Has your boyfriend come up to his family and told them that he wants to be with you and only with you and that he is serious with you? Have you ever met his family or have they gotten to know you at all? If you ask yourself these questions and the answers are "i don't know" or "no" maybe you should think twice about your boyfriend. but if your answer to at least the first question is a "yes" maybe you both could find ways to escape this. you said he lives with his parents...what if he just escapes from his home to your place and hide? or just confront his parents about it with both of you face to face with his parents like adults.

Kerrie Ogden, if a man TRULY loves a woman then he will do EVERYTHING in his power to be with her and only her and escape an arranged marriage.

if your boyfriend goes through /succumbs into this arranged marriage and saying that "he can't really do anything about it"...that is B**L S%IT!!!... he has a choice just like everybody else...he can either marry her or NOT marry her...if he can't make that choice because of his parents that just shows that he's not man enough to fight for what he really wants! he's not man enough make his own choices or he just doesn't want to or maybe he doesn't know what he wants.

Ask yourself this, do you honestly want to be with a man who can't make his own decisions? somebody who can't fight hard enough for the both of you? perhaps you should move on there are better things for you out in this world. I know this is easier said than done.

I'm not trying to be harsh or anything like that. Its just I think that sometimes we love so much we go into it with eyes closed. I am almost in the same situation. My boyfriend is Turkish and I am Asian and my parents does not allow me to see him but he still comes here as often as he can to see me in secret. but i fought with my parents and i let them know that i want to see him. and if he decides to stay here in the US (which is a problem for us) then we will see where our relationship goes and perhaps we'll get married. He is 30 years old and i am 22 we have cultural and religious differences... it is so hard but we are trying to work it out and i am not sure whether it will work out or not but i at least know we are both trying hard and not giving up easily.

I have come to accept that if things don't work out. it is okay because I'm young and there are many chances for me. you should think the same way too. there plenty of chances that you will encounter and one day you will find somebody who will chase you till the end of the milky way. and you should give your love for someone who is more deserving of it.

I'm not saying things will not work out but you should think things through by yourself and work out things with boyfriend and his family. I wish you the best in your situation. if you believe that there is a God out there... this is happening for a reason because God has great plans for you and this too shall pass... believe me you will only come out of this situation a better and wiser person.

I wish you the best.

KERRIEOGDEN,
What I want you to know is that I am Romanian and my fiancee is Turk. His family is not very religious (so, please do not believe all the things you read here or see on tv
THEY ARE ALMOST LIKE US, THE REST OF EUROPEANS...AN OVERWHELMING PERCENT)
NOT ALL TURKS ARRANGE MARRIAGES, CMON, PEOPLE..WAKE UP AND DON'T SPEAK IF U DON'T KNOW THE REALITY FROM THERE..
I HAD PROBLEMS WITH MY FAMILY, REGARDING OUR MARRIAGE...NOT HIS!!
HIS PARENTS ARE HAPPY, AND THEY ARE VERY EAGER TO KNOW ME, IN 3 WEEKS...
BUT I FOUGHT WITH MY MOM, TO BE WITH HIM AND TO ACCEPT THE IDEA THAT HE IS SPEACIAL TO ME!!
HE EVEN WANTS TO BECOME ORTHODOX, COS HE KNOWS THAT HERE,
MY PEOPLE HAVE GREAT PREJUDICES REGARDING ISLAM...
SO, please, ask your lover to fight, like a man, because this has nothing to do with religion
and to decide if he wants you...
I don't want you to suffer...please, forgive me..
Just have a mature final talk with him and ask him to be honest

dear qdemir
i dont remember i asked u a question to make a psycho-analyses of my personality. i have asked a different question.
if u have thought u would gain a hand clapping from others for mocking me, then u've received that.
as for my nick u have absolutely no idea of its history: i actually prefer being femme plus fatale than other stupid ones like "miss smth" "princess" and bla-bla!
a very weak analyses based on faulse guessings, dear qdemir.
hehehe, dating? are you really serious about this? u gallopped too far ahead.
i have no need to avoid telling from where im, i keep to my statement: nobody asked from where im, so had no need to tell.
nice point for u, because u know very well which country im from but u kept defining me as a don or molokan cossak, which was actually a good joke!
i think any person who has at least a tiny brain can guess where im from seeing the sites i've given in my profile.

thank you for teaching me about religions, but i think i know about religions more than u. btw, what are those holy religions u r talking about?
as for a religion and its use for the society, u r right, its indeed an opium for the dark mass. the religion gives them the feeling of security but also hurts severely telling the sweet stories. tell me, what is a beauty in religions?

as for the soviet union, i rush to tell u that there were no religions and still was much safer due to the severe punishments than in the post soviet period. pls, dont think i adore communism, or feel nostalgia towards poor old ussr.

is it my turn to analize ur personality?

'if u have thought u would gain a hand clapping from others for mocking me, then u've received that. '

'i think any person who has at least a tiny brain can guess where im from seeing the sites i've given in my profile.' (and so you meant he has 'no braın' )

' is it my turn to analize ur personality? '

Please...