Quoting sasi:

it is the left hand in england,for both rings

I was told in turkey the engaement ring goes on right hand and wedding ring goes on left ????

Quoting mltm:

Usually the devoted muslims put their marriage rings on their right hand.

Quoting AlphaF:

Cant hear any wisecracks or objections !

Quoting mltm:

Usually the devoted muslims put their marriage rings on their right hand.

Quoting KeithL:

Quoting AlphaF:

good observation !

Can you reason out the solution yourself, or do you need help?

Quoting mltm:

Quoting teaschip1:

So men do wear engagement rings? So, then did you ask her to marry you or did she ask you? Sorry, I'm not familiar with men getting engagement rings, I'm just trying to understand.

Quoting mltm:

Quoting teaschip1:

I just have never heard of two people getting engaged and the man gets an engagement ring.

Quoting teaschip1:

It may not be a rule, but I'm sure they have customs. You mentioned some men don't even wear their's after the wedding. Isn't this a little disrespectful to their wife? Also, does a woman give a man an engagement ring to, just curious?

Quoting mltm:

In Turkey both woman and man wear it, in France it's like this as well.

Quoting caliptrix:

my father doesn't like rings. as far as I know, he never had ring.

Quoting Trudy:

Quoting teaschip1:

So men do wear engagement rings? So, then did you ask her to marry you or did she ask you? Sorry, I'm not familiar with men getting engagement rings, I'm just trying to understand.

Quoting CANLI:

As for the devoted Muslims wear the rings,or the bands on the right hands,i never heard of it.

Quoting AlphaF:

devout
devoted

two words, similar looking but with different meanings

devout moslems
or devoted muslems ?

Quoting mltm:

Quoting elham:

wearing ring at marriage is necessary .... it is evidence of .........
do you know why put the ring on the fourth finger of the left hand ?
it belongs to ancient Greece who believe that there is nervous special passes from this place to the heart directly, and therefore was evidence of the families of the heart or possession of another person.

Quoting Loveprague:

Quoting CANLI:

Quoting mltm: Quoting CANLI: As for the devoted Muslims wear the rings,or the bands on the right hands,i never heard of it. But it's like this here. Look at our Islamist prime minister Recep Tayyip Erdoğan. He's married for over 25 years, he wears his ring on his right hand although the norm is the left hand.

Quoting p88jen:

Merhaba..anyways either devoted Muslim or younger generation they still will get marry.
But according to their culture ,they can have four wives as long as he can provide for them..

Quoting christine:

Quoting qdemir:

Quoting CANLI: Quoting mltm: Quoting CANLI: As for the devoted Muslims wear the rings,or the bands on the right hands,i never heard of it. But it's like this here. Look at our Islamist prime minister Recep Tayyip Erdoğan. He's married for over 25 years, he wears his ring on his right hand although the norm is the left hand. İs it gold ?! Or its just my eyes ?

Quoting CANLI:

İ just asked if its gold or not,because as you know being a Muslim you'men' now allowed to wear gold.
So if its gold,it would make a difference yes.

Quoting suzieswimz:

And of the Holy Ghost.

Quoting CANLI:

Quoting CANLI:

True?!
Priest says Holy Ghost ?! İn a Church ?!!!
Do you believe there is a Holy Ghost ?!

Quoting CANLI:

A marriage and a Ghost ?
İ dont think so lol
better without it

Quoting CANLI:

Quoting CANLI:

True?!
Priest says Holy Ghost ?! İn a Church ?!!!
Do you believe there is a Holy Ghost ?!

Quoting longinotti1:

Half (1/2) of my family is Catholic.

I never understood the "holy ghost" or holy spirit.

But my sense it is, it is more un_judgemental part.

Quoting gezbelle:

Quoting suzieswimz:

I'm concerned that you are already questioning the trustworthiness of your fiancee. Honor and integrity are important. You need to be able to trust him completely.

Quoting suzieswimz:

I'm concerned that you are already questioning the trustworthiness of your fiancee. Honor and integrity are important. You need to be able to trust him completely.

Quoting AlphaF:

good observation !

Can you reason out the solution yourself, or do you need help?

Quoting AlphaF:

Hey ladies,

The point here is the size of the diamond, not which hand you wear it on ...

Quoting teaschip1:

I happen to love diamonds and believe they are a girls best friend. You can never have too many!

Quoting kafesteki kus:

Quoting teaschip1:

Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting teaschip1: I happen to love diamonds and believe they are a girls best friend. You can never have too many! I strongly disagree.Not diamonds but laughter is the girl's best friend

Quoting alameda:

Well, I guess we all have our priorities...hmmm?

Quoting teaschip1: Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting teaschip1: I happen to love diamonds and believe they are a girls best friend. You can never have too many! I strongly disagree.Not diamonds but laughter is the girl's best friend Give me a 2kt diamond and I'll show you laughter.

Quoting alameda:

Well, I guess we all have our priorities...hmmm?

Quoting teaschip1: Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting teaschip1: I happen to love diamonds and believe they are a girls best friend. You can never have too many! I strongly disagree.Not diamonds but laughter is the girl's best friend Give me a 2kt diamond and I'll show you laughter.

Quoting mey0722:

I am curious now...what is the most common type of ring in Turkey? Gold or silver or platinum, etc.? Assuming you are middle-class. From what I'm reading, it sounds like the engagement rings are also the wedding rings, which means they probably don't have diamonds, but are simple bands? Just curious...

Just a SIMPLE question, not looking for someone to oveanalyze it. I don't need a Wikipedia link, history of Greece, debate over diamonds, or anything of that nature(although those are interesting things to post!!). Just what's most common to wear. Here in the U.S. the trend these days is platinum. Gold is rarely worn unless it's white gold.

Quoting mey0722:

I am curious now...what is the most common type of ring in Turkey? Gold or silver or platinum, etc.? Assuming you are middle-class. From what I'm reading, it sounds like the engagement rings are also the wedding rings, which means they probably don't have diamonds, but are simple bands? Just curious...

Just a SIMPLE question, not looking for someone to oveanalyze it. I don't need a Wikipedia link, history of Greece, debate over diamonds, or anything of that nature(although those are interesting things to post!!). Just what's most common to wear. Here in the U.S. the trend these days is platinum. Gold is rarely worn unless it's white gold.

Quoting mey0722:

So is it fair to say that when a Turkish couple gets engaged, there is no diamond ring involved, like in the U.S.? Someone mentioned diamonds in an earlier post...is that at all a tradition in Turkey?

Here in the U.S., the "rule of thumb" is that a man spends the equivalent of 3 months salary on the engagement ring (that is not the wedding ring, just the diamond engagement ring). I always thought this was very silly, but I'm sure most American or British women would disagree with me. hahaha

Quoting mey0722:

So is it fair to say that when a Turkish couple gets engaged, there is no diamond ring involved, like in the U.S.? Someone mentioned diamonds in an earlier post...is that at all a tradition in Turkey?

Here in the U.S., the "rule of thumb" is that a man spends the equivalent of 3 months salary on the engagement ring (that is not the wedding ring, just the diamond engagement ring). I always thought this was very silly, but I'm sure most American or British women would disagree with me. hahaha

Quoting Karine:

Quoting azade:

Is it haram for men to wear white gold also?
As far as I remember the reason gold is haram for men is for them not to look like women but maybe there's something more to it. I'm asking because I want our wedding rings to look alike and I never heard of silver wedding rings for women + the idea doesn't appeal to me.

Quoting mey0722:

It seems better to me to not have to spend so much money on a ring. I know guys who have gone into heavy debt just to afford a diamond ring. It is not uncommon to spend $10,000 or more on a ring here in the US. I had a friend who received a $20K ring! But she is also one of those people who has to have the best of everything so that she can show her friends how much more she has than everyone else. Nobody was jealous of her ring...more incredulous and thought it was almost sad she felt the need to "out-do" everyone around her. Could you imagine losing it or breaking off the engagement? I can honestly say that most westerner women are very competitive and showy when it comes to rings and marriage...not ALL, but most. Is there any of this in Turkish circles? It seems almost universal, but maybe not to the same extent...

Quoting mey0722:

It seems better to me to not have to spend so much money on a ring. I know guys who have gone into heavy debt just to afford a diamond ring. It is not uncommon to spend $10,000 or more on a ring here in the US. I had a friend who received a $20K ring! But she is also one of those people who has to have the best of everything so that she can show her friends how much more she has than everyone else. Nobody was jealous of her ring...more incredulous and thought it was almost sad she felt the need to "out-do" everyone around her. Could you imagine losing it or breaking off the engagement? I can honestly say that most westerner women are very competitive and showy when it comes to rings and marriage...not ALL, but most. Is there any of this in Turkish circles? It seems almost universal, but maybe not to the same extent...

I agree with you that a diamond ring or a silver ring will not make your marriage perfect! : )

But you know in America we have that kind of princess wedding dream which corrupts our lives... lol

In Turkey the diamonds are much more expensive than America.

For example a diamond ring of 1500$ may cost 2800$ in Turkey...

Quoting mey0722:

I did not know that! But I have heard that buying the actual band (without the diamond) is much better quality and price in Turkey. Is this true?

Quoting mey0722:

What kind of jewelry would be good to buy there if on a vacation? I'm talking about trinkets, things that aren't very expensive, such as necklaces, etc....anything unique and better priced I should look for while there?

Quoting Karine:

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We almost went beserk in the gold shop but lucky for him I don't like spending too much money

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Quoting teaschip1:

Quoting alameda: Well, I guess we all have our priorities...hmmm? Quoting teaschip1: Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting teaschip1: I happen to love diamonds and believe they are a girls best friend. You can never have too many! I strongly disagree.Not diamonds but laughter is the girl's best friend Give me a 2kt diamond and I'll show you laughter.

Quoting mey0722:

I am curious now...what is the most common type of ring in Turkey? Gold or silver or platinum, etc.? Assuming you are middle-class. From what I'm reading, it sounds like the engagement rings are also the wedding rings, which means they probably don't have diamonds, but are simple bands? Just curious...

Just a SIMPLE question, not looking for someone to oveanalyze it. I don't need a Wikipedia link, history of Greece, debate over diamonds, or anything of that nature(although those are interesting things to post!!). Just what's most common to wear. Here in the U.S. the trend these days is platinum. Gold is rarely worn unless it's white gold.

Quoting mey0722:

That sounds really great!!! I'm like you...I wouldn't want a diamond, but hey, if someone does, I think if that is what makes their heart happy that's totally up to them. Where is your land located in Turkey? How do you buy land in Turkey anyway? Maybe this is a stupid question, so I apologize upfront, but can you get loans for such a thing or do you have to pay cash? I ask because I've heard the mortgage business is a cash business there. Is that true?

Your story is really interesting!!!

Quoting Turk120807:

Wow, that is really nice!!!

Quoting alameda:

Quoting teaschip1: Quoting alameda: Well, I guess we all have our priorities...hmmm? Quoting teaschip1: Quoting kafesteki kus: Quoting teaschip1: I happen to love diamonds and believe they are a girls best friend. You can never have too many! I strongly disagree.Not diamonds but laughter is the girl's best friend Give me a 2kt diamond and I'll show you laughter. You must be a miserable old lady, with all of your sarcastic remarks.

Quoting Elisabeth:

Oh...I love Walmart....does that make me bad?

Quoting teaschip1:

Quoting teaschip1:

The diamonds are imported by the Jewish community here in New York from Amsterdam and you know what they say about Amsterdam now.

Quoting Elisabeth:

next you will be telling me there is NO SANTA!!

Quoting Trudy:

Quoting Trudy:

Quoting Elisabeth:

Now I am confused! What if you get a diamond ring for Christmas...does this mean Santa supports the illegal diamond trade? or does it mean that the elves are Chinese? Does he live on land stolen from the Indians?

Quoting Elisabeth:

Now I am confused! What if you get a diamond ring for Christmas...does this mean Santa supports the illegal diamond trade? or does it mean that the elves are Chinese? Does he live on land stolen from the Indians?

Quoting teaschip1:

Quoting teaschip1:

Did I mention Walmart sells diamonds?

Quoting teaschip1:

Let's see now, because a man proposes and gives you a diamond ring, this must mean your priorities are screwed up.



My point is: exactly what are you buying when you buy a diamond? A diamond is a form of carbon that crystallizes in the crystal system of highest symmetry known as the cubic system born hundreds of miles underneath the surface of the earth.

What are your priorities when you purchase one? Well usually the man purchases the diamond, so speaking for a man a symbol of love.


Could that money be put to better use? No.

Of course, there are some that are not so tainted, but do or are you able to discriminate which ones they are? Sure and they are worth thousands more, but then that would mean my priorties were even worse.

Do you care? No.

Getting personal? Yes.

You may not shop at Walmart, but I don't believe for a second you don't have Made in China items in your house.

Quoting catwoman:

Quoting alameda:

Quoting AlphaF:

Pls mind your language, when it comes to Santa Claus...

Santa is Turkish...

Quoting Elisabeth:

Now I am confused! What if you get a diamond ring for Christmas...does this mean Santa supports the illegal diamond trade? or does it mean that the elves are Chinese? Does he live on land stolen from the Indians?

Quoting alameda:

Quoting Elisabeth:

Quoting mey0722:

It's probably just better to "agree to disagree." Nobody wants to be judged here. Maybe just respect each other's differnet views and move on...because you're not going to change each other's minds and it will only turn into insults and attacks as postings intensify. Just my tiny thoughts on the subject and not trying to tell anyone what to do...just already seeing the potential for things to get nasty.

Quoting AEnigma III:

It's really not so difficult to be a responsible consumer. In fact, its never been easier. If you want to wear a diamond, and don't bother to check its origin, then I hope your conscience lets you sleep...

Anyway, diamonds are vulgar! The bigger the diamond, the more vulgar the wearer

Quoting AEnigma III:

It's really not so difficult to be a responsible consumer. In fact, its never been easier. If you want to wear a diamond, and don't bother to check its origin, then I hope your conscience lets you sleep...

Anyway, diamonds are vulgar! The bigger the diamond, the more vulgar the wearer

Quoting teaschip1:

Quoting teaschip1:

I take it you don't put gas or oil in your car, use public transportation or heat your home. Bloodshed over oil.. Let me guess it's because it's a necessatie?

Quoting teaschip1:

I take it you don't put gas or oil in your car, use public transportation or heat your home. Bloodshed over oil.. Let me guess it's because it's a necessatie?

Quoting AEnigma III: