Lyndie, I absolutely agree with you!

yes, Lyndie is absolutely right...

Do you think that this is a healthy type of love where you're completely possessed by another person? I'm not sure if you're talking about the first stage of 'being in love' with someone you don't actually know or about the actual feeling of loving someone - for who he/she is, DESPITE his/her flaws, which everybody has by the way. Thinking about someone, missing someone, caring about someone, needing someone, that someone being your priority...etc. is wonderful but being crazy, happy one minute and sad the next doesn't sound like a happy situation. And my WHOLE existence wouldn't be ruled by anyone else but me... I'm not trying to argue with you Lyndie, I know what you mean .

Yes, I'm talking about the 1st stages of 'being in love' - the next is less painful and then ...much more boring! heheheh

Well, if you're not with the right person then it's boring, but if you are with the right person then it's blissful and heavenly.

Of course i was speaking with 'tongue in cheek!' that is to say, I was been ironic!

Love by its very definition cannot be boring if it is real love. But its boring to talk about - once you reach that stage of blissful heavenliness who wants to talk about it?

Its that passionate, painful, heart wrenching time that gives us the most to talk about. This is the time that poets write about, that Ismail YK sings about, that all the great literature is about!

Samson & Delilah! Anthony & Cleopatra! Napolen & Josephine! Heathcliffe & Jayne Ayre (sorry about the English reference there), Would Sylvia Plath have written the 'Bell Jar' if she'd been in that state of bliss and heaven - No Catwoman, I'm thinking that only great passions and the heartbreaking ups and downs of 'being in love' are worth talking about and agonising over! L'amour in other words

I think that nobody talks about the state of bliss and heaven becasue noone really has it (maybe for that reason such momentary passion is so easily taken for the actual love). But this is what all the religions talk about and promise, becasue this is the ultimate state of happiness. For the most part we are not capable of creating such a state, we are weak and fragile, that's why we pray for forgiveness and ultimate acceptance to the world of bliss and joy.
No, I don't think that it's ONLY worth talking about the hearbraking ups and downs. Ups and downs are just moments, the bulk of life is behind them, after them, before them, and I bet you know that there's a lot going on there. But yes of course, those heartbreaking passions are well worth agonizing over, after all they are breaking our hearts!

So true...up's and down's are only moments. But what moments! You can be filled with such happiness one minute that its almost unbearable. Then plunged into the very depths of despair the next. Such intense emotions can disable you from normal living! These are the moments I am talking about. You can't eat, you don't want to sleep, because to do so will mean you can't be thinking about your love, everything becomes meaningless if it doesn't have some bearing on your love!

You listen to the same songs over and over again, because they have taken on some life of their own. The strangest things remind you of HIM/HER. Only you know about these and other people think you have gone mad! Those sudden memories that make you smile to yourself!

Attila! Still wish you'd been in love?

Oh yeah, no doubt about that! I think you know something about it .

lyndie, nice text