I would like to hear your story first.

I wouldn't do it simply because it's too risky and as sweet as it sounds to fall in love without physical contact, you may get negatively surprised when you end up meeting.
I do, however, admire those who have formed a genuine relationship via the internet. It takes a great deal of trust and courage.

I think it is possible to build a strong and successful relationshop (via internet) ONLY if you show yourself as you really are and are open , do not hide your true personality feeling secure as you are just in front of the pc screen...and if you do not meet personally at least share some pictures because if you think you ARE IN LOVE and you do not even know how he/she looks like what you have is a DREAM and as soon as you meet him/her face to face you will wake up...and what if you do not like "your love" at all??? what if you find him /her ugly/ UNFRIENDLY , COLD?? will you still feel you LOVE him/her as you thought when you exchanged love messages via internet??? I doubt it...

However as I said, there are thousands of successful stories which prove that internet love is not always doomed to failure! I think it is not a secure way to meet people though and prefer the usual ways , face to face meetings , talk to him IN PERSON because body language is so important (at least to me) e-mails , letters and love messages via msn can LIE but body language and a look CANNOT!!

But...but...I am in a weird situation now...there is someone I DONT EVEN KNOW fisically...what his face is like, how old he is...but I like how he express himself, I think he is clever , good sense of humor but I can not get to know him better , in spite of this I would like to know more about this man and I imagine how he looks like whenever I see him!!...on a website! just like this...

I want to hear your points of view now!
Dilara

one of my friends met this guy on the internet about 8-9 years ago.

they had been chatting for a few weeks, shared pictures. then they finally met, got on very well, liked each other. they got married last year.

back then it wasn't common to meet people on the internet and establish a relationship with them. it was often considered a bit risky. now as more people a logging online, it is a bit more accepted.

i myself wouldn't mind meeting a potential partner online, as long as we are both honest with each other, swapped pictures so we know what each other looks like, and there was a chance for us to meet in person and continue meeting in person.

on another note...maybe it's the cynic in me...but words to me don't really mean a whole lot by themselves. anyone can say anything to you, they can say what they think you want to hear, and mislead you.

to me actions speak louder than words.

i think that's one of the things we need to be careful about when meeting people on the internet. people can be whoever they want to be without you knowing. they can say whatever they want to say.

i think one of the pitfalls with the internet is that people (without knowing what the other person looks like, smells like, sounds like, moves like) can fall in love with the other person's words. being in love with their words is totally different from being in love with the person as a whole.

sometimes their words don't match up to who they really are.

i think the majority of the time 'cyber love' is a bunch of poppycock.

i was..hence 'the majority' means not always

I think the Internet is as good a place to meet a potential partner as any other, but if the two people live too far away from each other then it can constitute some problems.

Physical contact is crucial as it is impossible to "be" in a relationship without meeting the other person face to face and spending some time together to see how s/he interacts socially.

I know many examples of people who met online and got disappointed when it came to a real meeting, but, on the other hand, there are numerous cases when people who met online really fell in love and even got married.

The bottom line is that when you think things could work out, you should get to see each other. Otherwise this is just a virtual thing.

OK this story is a true story because I know the people extremely well.....anyway....

It's not cyber love but they met through a news paper, which has the same situations as cyber love because you don't really know who they are. Anyway they spent weeks on the phone to each other maybe months (not entirely sure how long) but they decided to meet, not knowing how each other looked like but only knowing their voice.

They decided to meet in a pub where they had a few drinks and got to know each other a little and where the woman's friends were secretly at another table to make sure the guy wasn't a weirdo or anyone like that lol.
After realizing he was a genuine guy the womans friends left and the man and woman got into their own cars and headed off to a restaurant to have a meal

After several meetings etc they told their family, they eventually moved in together, they got married (the man asked the woman to marry him on top of the empire state building - in New York ) and after more than 7 years from meeting eachother, they are still together and happily married!!!

i read the topics on the site cyberlove.com and i had the same story so i borrowed the lines:
I would like to talk about the IRC primarily. Initially I did not believe that a relationship could begin from this, how could I have come to know someone when all I saw were black letters on a screen and not even a voice to behold.

It was completely accidental, the way we met, we've never even knew of each other before. One night just out of boredom I connected to the net and went into a chat room. I initiated the conversation by clicking his nick because his nick seemed familiar to me. We began talking and he gave me his e-mail address and I gave mine too. My friends told me that love in the net is 100% lies and I didn’t believe them. Not telling what had happened next, we had it, but ended up easily. I think cyberlove comes instantly and gone instantly too.

I’m not saying all, maybe other chatters were lucky enough to find their partners in life thru this way. Well wishing them the best of bests.

For those lucky people, for you

I would like to share this poem i got from which i can no longer remember where:

Love On The Net
Author: Julia

Is this the fire we are playing with...
The one that people talk about?
If this is it..
I want it so bad

I don't ever want it to go out...
To see your name light up on the screen...
Is just the best feeling
I just want to scream...

It just warms my Heart to see that message flash
Knowing its a I miss you or I'll be right back
I know it is wrong...but I want it to last...
To last through the night and into a new day

To feel all your energy that you always portray
My Deep Friendship for you is so honest and true.
I want you to know this...I really do...
You make my mornings so bright and so clear...

I take a deep breathe and I think of you here
You are my soul mate.
Was I searching for you...
Maybe I was...is this all true.

I pinch myself to make sure this isn't a dream
It hurts...so it mustn't have been
I know its real.....as it feels so good
We are one you and me...

Living so far apart....
We may meet one day...
Just you and me
But time will tell

We'll just have to see.

I love the poem Pizza canım

You know what they say too?....You can find love in the strangest places, and at the strangest times

This is a follow-up to my sad story. I kept believing this: God heals the broken heart but He has to have all the pieces and God replaces the lost one with a better one. One day while i was on my official business trip (place withheld for privacy), my officemate gave me an msn address and she said he wants to know you and he gave me this. Well, without any interest and not to embarrass my friend, i opened my pc and opened my msn. There, i added the msn my friend gave me and wow, he was online and accepted asap my invitation. We chatted for almost the whole night. The next morning, while i was on my way back to the office, i had a visitor there and ummmpppp, my chatmate, i discovered that his office was just parallel to our office. To make long story short, well friends you know what i mean and yes up to now, we chat and my heart is slowly recovering from the pains from my past sad experience. Maybe meeting from the internet needs to be followed up by personal meeting