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turkish men and attitudes to women
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10.       SuiGeneris
3922 posts
 27 Nov 2005 Sun 03:01 pm

Quoting miss_ceyda:

Quoting lululy:

how about turkish guys of the new generation? are they more open-minded with some western ideas? letting their wives to work and have social life?



yes... some of them are almost american... its actually like tr is slowly losing its whole culture... which is good in some ways i suppose



you say losing culture is good in some ways? what could be a good way on losing in culture you live for your culture baby.. to make ppl know what kinda person you are your nationality...

and if you look at statistics.. lots of woman are in work places and traffic... this is not with culture this is with "mind"..
best wishes

11.       Nikki
51 posts
 27 Nov 2005 Sun 03:29 pm

For years society has needed the two wages to survive in Western Society.

Years ago the man got a bigger wage than a female. This was when the days were when he supported a wife. Now it is equal, therefore requiring two wages to live.

12.       xkirstyx
363 posts
 27 Nov 2005 Sun 05:29 pm

13.       Deli_kizin
6376 posts
 27 Nov 2005 Sun 06:10 pm

Now we still don't know that their attitude agaisnt women is, do we? Modern men, speak up!

14.       xkirstyx
363 posts
 27 Nov 2005 Sun 06:13 pm

AND BE HONEST!!!

15.       mltm
3690 posts
 27 Nov 2005 Sun 06:33 pm

Ermmm, it will be difficult to say something. I'll just try to generalize and explain what I've seen around. But you can meet a turkish man exactly opposite of this explanation.
Culture greatly influences men's behaviours to women and what they expect from them. And in Turkey there exists different cultures and traditions. The east, the west, the north, the south really changes. In some parts, men don't approve their women to work and behave like a western woman. But I suppose they're not for you and it's useless to tell about them. They're so unacceptable things for you and me.
So let's generalize the turkish men who have a high education and are modern and live in cities. They don't prevent their women from working and going out with her friends, but still they're quite jealous and don't like their women to come home late or not to ask them before giving their decisions. They don't like their women to wear very short things (ofcourse except summer places and beaches), they don't like them to go to discos or bars without them. They expect their women to dedicate themselves to them and do sacrificies for them. They like good housewives, you should know how to cook well and how to do houseworks. You should be a very good mother for your children. You should behave his mother as she's also your mother. You should respect his family very much. You should let him meet his male friends (their male friends are very important for turkish men), you should be very tolerant to him if he wants to watch a football match (most of them are football fans). You should make him feel as he is a real man, and you need him to protect you. You shouldn't look at other men and you shouldn't behave very closely to men other than him. You shouldn't wait him to be too gentilman like opening the doors for you all the time, having dinners in the candle lights ehehehe.

Are these a bit helpful? ehehehehee

16.       oludenizdollz
80 posts
 27 Nov 2005 Sun 07:04 pm

Oh - that would be no good for me-I like my man to cook and clean and sometimes I like to go out with my girlfriends and get very drunk and then come home late and demand that he wake up and satisfy my needs!!

This would not go down well with the Turkish male then????

17.       mltm
3690 posts
 27 Nov 2005 Sun 07:11 pm

Quoting oludenizdollz:

Oh - that would be no good for me-I like my man to cook and clean and sometimes I like to go out with my girlfriends and get very drunk and then come home late and demand that he wake up and satisfy my needs!!

This would not go down well with the Turkish male then????




oooooohhhhhhh Definitely not!

But maybe there would be still a hope. Maybe you can find one or two that would accept you as you're in the whole country lol
Or maybe you can find more if he just needs your money

But this could be the answer of "How to lose your Turkish boyfriend as soon as possible?"

18.       xkirstyx
363 posts
 27 Nov 2005 Sun 07:21 pm

well said mltm

19.       SuiGeneris
3922 posts
 27 Nov 2005 Sun 08:01 pm

Quoting oludenizdollz:

Oh - that would be no good for me-I like my man to cook and clean and sometimes I like to go out with my girlfriends and get very drunk and then come home late and demand that he wake up and satisfy my needs!!

This would not go down well with the Turkish male then????



why not if you click with eachother if you are soulmates... to me dont generalize its so subjective...

20.       Angela
75 posts
 27 Nov 2005 Sun 08:10 pm

If a Turkishman's wife worked, then she would have her independence. She would not be relying solely on her husband. This is where he would not feel the main provider. He would also not feel the respect of a male, that the stay at home housewife would give.

Personally, I think he would feel he would lose the macho husband image being protective and providing for his wife and family.

I don't think it would go down with the Turkish culture where they lived and he would probably feel inferior to his surroundings. The culture is very important to prove he can provide for wife and family. The male seemingly still has to some degree dominance in the household. And, as someone stipulates, what is expected is the wife, to be quiet and allow him to have his male friends.

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