I received a copy of the divorce decree from my fiance. My question is, would they put something down just to get the divorce granted quickly? It says he used "physical force from time to time heard by the neighbors". In the United States you would have to have a police report with the woman having marks or something for this to be in there. He said it is hard to get a divorce and they had to say something. Any Turkish lawyers here? Could this be true that they would only say that based on what her lawyer said? Either way this makes me ill...he wants me to believe him but....

Here is how he explained it exactly...thanks to MarioninTurkey.

When we get divorced we have to give a reason. It is very hard to get divorced without a reason. And also you have to get divorced quickly. So the lawyer wrote that letter himself just for us to separate quicker. In this way our reason for separating became a violent incompatibility. But this is not really true.

Sorry, I can't help, but this does sound odd... why didn't they put the real reasons for their incompatibility if this is not true? Domestic violence is a serious accusation, how can they use it just like that? In any case, I hope I'm wrong. Best of luck.

You may find this web site useful: Turkish Law Forum

Thanks for the website. There is very little activity there, but maybe someone can answer my basic questions. If this were a person in the U.S. I would be able to tell if they were 'bullshitting' me or not. I cannot do that in this case.

I would be very wary. Yes, you have to have a good reason, but why would he use THIS PARTICULAR reason for divorce - including the detail that it was "heard by the neighbours". He could have used a less damning reason for divorce if he chose.

I think only YOU can know the truth. If he is excessively jealous or possessive then its never a good sign.

I know real cases -not in Turkey though, but Romania- when at the reason of divorcing they had to put adultery or domestic violence since formerly these were reasons legally approved to get divorce.
I think it could be just a reason to get a divorce, in a country where legislation prohibits divorce on the common agreement of the parts, yes.