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Trust your instincts??
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 05:44 am |
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Quoting yarimturklass: Personally hobnob I would have mentioned to the hairdresser - perhaps he was trying it on to get some reaction - (even testing you for the b/f's sake which I think is sick as I know some turkish men wouldw do this!) I have had the same thing happen in a hairdresser - if women dont speak up then we will be treated as victims and men will take advantage more. I would have said something like 'shame on you' and personally insulted him, whether it was your boyfriend's friend or not. Then the ball is in his court, whether he would say to your b/f but I believe he would have probably been too embarassed to say to your b/f. We shouldnt sweep stuff like this under the carpet, its important we say how we feel. |
+1
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 06:38 am |
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For Carol:
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 11:01 am |
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Didn't realise my dilemma would draw so much attention!! I should just clarify a few things.... My boyfriend would definitely NOT 'test' me in anyway, especially like this. We are getting married next year but we're like a married couple now and the 'little test' days are well and truly over. Also, I know what the result would be if I told my boyfriend about this hairdresser- he would go straight round there and beat him up then end up in prison and no wedding  blah blah blah. Don't get me wrong- he's not an aggressive person but if he thinks someone's done something wrong (especially to me) he'll be straight round there.
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 11:23 am |
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Quoting lady in red: Quoting hobnob: Didn't realise my dilemma would draw so much attention!! I should just clarify a few things.... My boyfriend would definitely NOT 'test' me in anyway, especially like this. We are getting married next year but we're like a married couple now and the 'little test' days are well and truly over. Also, I know what the result would be if I told my boyfriend about this hairdresser- he would go straight round there and beat him up then end up in prison and no wedding blah blah blah. Don't get me wrong- he's not an aggressive person but if he thinks someone's done something wrong (especially to me) he'll be straight round there. |
Well you DID ask for feedback and this IS TC!! |
Really,these were well- brain storming. and some are good advises.
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 02:51 pm |
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Quoting hobnob: Didn't realise my dilemma would draw so much attention!! I should just clarify a few things.... My boyfriend would definitely NOT 'test' me in anyway, especially like this. We are getting married next year but we're like a married couple now and the 'little test' days are well and truly over. Also, I know what the result would be if I told my boyfriend about this hairdresser- he would go straight round there and beat him up then end up in prison and no wedding blah blah blah. Don't get me wrong- he's not an aggressive person but if he thinks someone's done something wrong (especially to me) he'll be straight round there. |
Hey! Did you realized that you are becoming a strict Turkish woman  Then I suggest you my wifes "woman" hairdresser at Ankara that only serves for womans and a sign at her door "MAN CAN NOT ENTER"
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 03:04 pm |
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Serhat,
I know you're joking but you hit a raw nerve! I hate all of these 'only for men' 'only for women' things. Signs on doors saying 'Men, do not enter', cafes only for men. I live so close to the sea but in this area, the only people you see swimming there is men and boys. GRRRRRRR. I'm sitting at home sweating away. The only way I could go down to the sea for a swim without people looking at me like a 'yabanci' would be if I swam in full clothes.
I wish I had said something to that stupid hairdresser. I know I can't singlehandedly change the perceptions of SOME men here about women but I shouldn't let myself be another victim....  
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 03:05 pm |
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Quoting hobnob: I hate all of these 'only for men' 'only for women' things. |
+1!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
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| 28. |
23 Jun 2008 Mon 03:43 pm |
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Since my first experience of a massage at a reputable hamam in Antalya I would never have a massage from a man again!
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 04:58 pm |
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Quoting sonunda: Since my first experience of a massage at a reputable hamam in Antalya I would never have a massage from a man again! |
Well? Don't just stop there.......???
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 05:02 pm |
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Quoting lady in red: Quoting sonunda: Since my first experience of a massage at a reputable hamam in Antalya I would never have a massage from a man again! |
Well? Don't just stop there.......??? |
Think wandering hands and use your imagination!
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