Welcome
Login:   Pass:     Register - Forgot Password - Resend Activation

Turkish Class Forums / Turkey

Turkey

Add reply to this discussion
Moderators: libralady, sonunda
Turkish weddings
(62 Messages in 7 pages - View all)
[1] 2 3 4 5 6 7
1.       pansi
94 posts
 24 Jul 2008 Thu 03:24 pm

Please share your experience or knowledge about turkish wedding ceremony, traditions and afterparty.For native speakers - please write in turkish - so i can learn a bit
thanks

2.       lady in red
6947 posts
 24 Jul 2008 Thu 03:40 pm

Quoting pansi:

Please share your experience or knowledge about turkish wedding ceremony, traditions and afterparty.For native speakers - please write in turkish - so i can learn a bit
thanks



Pansi - people shouldn´t write in Turkish here as the forum rules state:

The official language of all forums is English with the following exceptions and details: • The language ‘Teaching Turkish’ forum is Turkish only.
• ‘Language’ and ‘Turkish Translation’ forums can have Turkish texts according the nature of these boards.

However, if you google ´Turkish Wedding Traditions´ there is loads of information and maybe you can copy and paste something to the translation section then you can see it in English and Turkish!

3.       pansi
94 posts
 24 Jul 2008 Thu 03:44 pm

oops!

4.       caliptrix
3055 posts
 24 Jul 2008 Thu 04:00 pm

Quoting pansi:

Please share your experience or knowledge about turkish wedding ceremony, traditions and afterparty.For native speakers - please write in turkish - so i can learn a bit
thanks



Generally girl is wanted first as a tradition. Boy´s family come to the house of girl´s as a visiting. And then they "want" the girl to their boy, "in the order of god" etc. religious things. After girl´s family accept, they arrange the days for "promise","engagement" and "marriage". Söz kesmek ( = Promise) may not be necessary for some families. They directly make the engagement´s arrangement first. After that, they arrange the wedding time... It depends on the traditions of the family and the region they live. Details can be too many. There is a TV show here, our Turkish friends may know it: "Şoray Uzun Yolda", the speaker of the show travels in Turkey and visits different types of wedding parties and some other ceremonies. As far as I see, every single region has its own customs, details, symbols.

My experiences are little. I see that there is a special night before the wedding day. It is called "kına gecesi". Women do something themselves, and men never be with them at this whole night. As I am a guy, I have been always with the men, and we just sit and chat about the world, about the wedding, the people etc. If the family is religious some, then the chat topic is always religious and the wishes and prayers that god will help this "future" family; the guy and the girl.

Wedding party type is changing day by day. In past, as far as I remember, we used to go to a big open platform such as a free field, less houses or buildngs. There were some musicians, especially drummer and the player of "zurna". People sit down to the chairs, the owner of the wedding give a little dinner and/or some cake and drinks like cola etc. When the time come, music starts and people dance in a folkloric way generally.

In these years, there is no "open" wedding parties as far as I see. We go to the special wedding places like indoor concerts.

During this ceremony/party, there is a "takı takma" time. Guests of the ceremony come with their gifts, generally golds. If not gold, their gifts are money. In this "takı takma" time, people make a queue and give their gifts by attaching on the dress of bride and/or groom. "takı=ornament/affix" and "takmak= to attach".

I see these years, there are some families that make a ceremony without music, or the music may exist but without any type of dance. You just go to the wedding ceremony room, can be like a restaurant, and people eat the wedding dinner. There is a similar "takı takma". And then people leave the ceremony. This is generally preferred by the religious families. They don´t want people dance or listen to the music loudly. I attended one of this type wedding. It was the wedding of the sister of my friend. It was very nice indeed, very calm. No flashiness. Sure some people don´t like this type ceremonies, everyone has its type.

One of my observations about these ceremonies is that there are always some crazy people, no respect to the weddng family. They always bring alcohol even though wedding family warn people: "Our wedding don´t have alcohol". And this was always surprized for me: this freaks make a scene during the wedding, create a little scandal. And the owners of the wedding interfere and make them go out of the wedding, without another new "bitter" event.

I don´t know more what can be done in these parties or ceremonies. As I said, there may be many differnt customs, traditions, symbolic celebrations.

I didn´t write them all in Turkish because I have doubts that you are able to understand. I hope it helps.

5.       lady in red
6947 posts
 24 Jul 2008 Thu 04:09 pm

Quoting lady in red:

However, if you google ´Turkish Wedding Traditions´ there is loads of information.



Or alternatively - just ask Caliptrix!

6.       pansi
94 posts
 24 Jul 2008 Thu 04:12 pm


My experiences are little. I see that there is a special night before the wedding day. It is called "kına gecesi". Women do something themselves, and men never be with them at this whole night. As I am a guy, I have been always with the men, and we just sit and chat about the world, about the wedding, the people etc. If the family is religious some, then the chat topic is always religious and the wishes and prayers that god will help this "future" family; the guy and the girl.

QUOTE]

thank you very much
yeah, i heard about this girl night before marriage and as far i understood celebrating is in turkish bath with some dances and body art.
and also (i didnt check this rule before - my fault) you cannot write in turkish here anyway
and as far as i know there is also hand kissing - as showing respect to guests.true?

7.       pansi
94 posts
 24 Jul 2008 Thu 04:14 pm

Quoting lady in red:

Quoting lady in red:

However, if you google ´Turkish Wedding Traditions´ there is loads of information.



Or alternatively - just ask Caliptrix!



he was faster
of course i know that i can search in google but i thought that here i can get more individual experience and opinions without checking alot of websites - what is taking alot of time.

8.       caliptrix
3055 posts
 24 Jul 2008 Thu 04:16 pm

Quoting pansi:

thank you very much
yeah, i heard about this girl night before marriage and as far i understood celebrating is in turkish bath with some dances and body art.



I have never seen and never heard anything related to "tukish bath" and "body art" about this night.

Quote:

and as far as i know there is also hand kissing - as showing respect to guests.true?



Only to the elders enough, and depends on the situation.

9.       caliptrix
3055 posts
 24 Jul 2008 Thu 04:18 pm

AOW "body art"! sorry, yes kına!
but what is up with "Tukish bath"?

10.       pansi
94 posts
 24 Jul 2008 Thu 04:22 pm

Quoting caliptrix:

I have never seen and never heard anything related to "tukish bath" and "body art" about this night.

my turkish friends told about those turkish bath night and traditional henna drawing on hands (similar like in Ýndia).Maybe it is just some their tradition...

(62 Messages in 7 pages - View all)
[1] 2 3 4 5 6 7
Add reply to this discussion




Turkish Dictionary
Turkish Chat
Open mini chat
New in Forums
T-E
Sagredo: Rose Garden Make an effort to get into the rose garden. Because those...
TLC servers hacked, all user emails & pass...
admin: User sign in and ... are ... with security in mind. These are function...
E-T: It´s one of the things on my bu...
gokuyum: No. It doesnt make sense. You can say ... yapmak istediğim bi...
T-E
og2009: DÜNYA TOPLUMU VE FELSEFE ... okul ... felsefe ... ....
24 HOUR FLASH SALE for learning Turkish e-...
qdemir: ...
Grammar Textbook
qdemir: ...
E-T: I see you have done this before?
harp00n: Bunu ... daha önce de ... Bu konuda iyi olduğun ç...
T-E
og2009: ...
T-E
og2009: ...
coronavirus
og2009: ...
OUR FRIENDS
og2009: ...
Random Pictures of Turkey
Most liked