Please share your experience or knowledge about turkish wedding ceremony, traditions and afterparty.For native speakers - please write in turkish - so i can learn a bit
thanks

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My experiences are little. I see that there is a special night before the wedding day. It is called "kına gecesi". Women do something themselves, and men never be with them at this whole night. As I am a guy, I have been always with the men, and we just sit and chat about the world, about the wedding, the people etc. If the family is religious some, then the chat topic is always religious and the wishes and prayers that god will help this "future" family; the guy and the girl.

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thank you very much
yeah, i heard about this girl night before marriage and as far i understood celebrating is in turkish bath with some dances and body art.
and also (i didnt check this rule before - my fault) you cannot write in turkish here anyway
and as far as i know there is also hand kissing - as showing respect to guests.true?

AOW "body art"! sorry, yes kına!
but what is up with "Tukish bath"?

my turkish friends told about those turkish bath night and traditional henna drawing on hands (similar like in Ýndia).Maybe it is just some their tradition...

The best way to find out about Turkish weddings is to find yourself a Turkish waiter. You will quickly learn all about weddings, visas, how much money is coming out of your bank account and quicky divorces

Money and/or visa of course!
Particularly the poorest of tourist workers who even the Turkish girls don´t want!

so hard to be nice boy always,so no harm on an innocent cheekyness i think

I want ask only one question. I´m an Egyption man. When I got married with Turkish woman, I´ll got legal residence permit in Turkey due to Turkish laws?

 

Pleased so much for any help.

 You get residence, but not citizenship.  You have to be married at least 3 years for that

 in some other post i saw 2 years. sorry,i cann´t quote it here - do not remeber when and where saw it

 get new login, indicate your sex and some "nice" country and you will get many messages )

 UK? US? Belgium? Germany? The Netherlands? Is that enough choice?

hmmmmmmmm....

It is 3 years

 Well, you can´t sya for sure.  Though they have changed the citizenship rules, still it has to go to the parliament (Ithink) to be confirmed.. and they ask for sooo many documents..

Regarding the Turkish men,  I believe you can hardly meet someone serious and well educated in the holiday resorts.  Though they will be fun and sometimes well educated, and they make you feel you are very special and the only one, they most of the times don´t think so.

 Really, lot of thanks for both of you. Now I´m asking for the following question:

If I get Legal Residnce Permit based on marriage due to Turkish law, it will be easy to get also legal work permit?

Thx

Ahmed

Quoting AEnigmamagnadea

Money and/or visa of course! Particularly the poorest of tourist workers who even the Turkish girls don´t want!

This is a  derogatary statement. I am referring to "who even the Turkish girls" part. You are generalizing the matter and labelling tens of millions of people...

It took you so long to reply

Yes you are right - I would have normally written "who Turkish girls don´t want" but it was more fun to make you angry dimi?  

If I didn´t write that you would not reply - Admin pays me $10 an hour to keep number of "hits" on this website high

Well, well, well...

Quoting AEnigmamagnadea

Money and/or visa of course! Particularly the poorest of tourist workers who even the Turkish girls don´t want!

 i think your very rude wrtiting things like that on here... is it so hard to believe that somtimes two people from different countries just fall in love and want to be together.....if you are so cynical then leave these forums for genuine people who just need help and advise!!

 If you read all the translation requests, often desperate, yes, that is very hard to believe!

some english people steal.... does that make ALL english people theives?????  there are good and bad people from every country... have you seen facebook and bebo lately.... english men are just as dsesperate to use women too, i dont think that all turkish men should be stereotyped...its not fair!!

Let me guess: he just told you that you are special and he loves you? Great, I wish you all happiness there is. However, don´t be surprised if some people are just a little bit sarcastic after reading thousands of requests for translation, of stories ending ´not so happily ever after´, of betrayal and more. Fair or not fair, it´s the truth seen here on this site.

I don´t get involved in things like this at all, but seeing as perhaps I could be considered as one of the girls who requests some translations about my story not ending happily, I still have to say that I too don´t think it´s fair to stereotype. A member of my family has been with an English guy 10 years, just married him, they have two children, and he´s confessed to have had many affairs! I know many people who have been cheated on by English men in the same scenario, but I don´t tar them all with the same brush. And yes, I´m British.

I can see two sides of this, I realise the endless love messages may be tiring to read and yes, in resorts I too know that some people are conned, but love does exist in this world and although it´s right to be cynical to a point, maybe, just maybe ,some people mean these things when they say them. Nobody can know two people´s situation unless they are in it themself, however similar it may seem to another. And the recipients of the messages do have feelings, if they read things like this and sarcastic comments then how will they feel? Confused  and insecure, which could put a strain on their relationship to begin with! They come here to learn and to ask for help.

I too have seen on Facebook etc men of all nationalities who make lewd comments, who are desperately seeking anything other than ´love´, but I don´t discriminate against their race however many of them I see- it´s the individual whose behaviour I judge.

Sorry if I have offended anyone here- I must have drunk too much coffee and broke my silence. :S

well said carla louise... thankyou, you make perfect sense!   yes trudy he did tell me he loved me ect.... 6 long happy years ago and has done evry day since... you are obviously bitter for a reason and im sorry you experienced that but your comments are very hurtful to honest turkish men and their partners, we get judged and sterio typed from the general public... even friends and family.. so we look to sites like this for help and advise, not critisism and insults

Just be natural, warm, modest and respectful to elders....no big deal, you will make it !

When in doubt, consult your husband-to-be.

 Canim, you certainly didn´t offend me. Good that you ´broke the silence´. However, you too agree - at least that´s what I read in your message - that there are many con-situations? So, it´s not so strange at all people look suspiciously towards those love stories? Of course, not all people are the same, of course it happens everywhere, but I guess that the chance of getting betrayed with a guy from a resort (who sees loads of women every week) is at least slightly bigger than a John Doe from, let´s say, Nottinhham or Hastings?

Trudy, pls dont beat about the bush....pls tell us what ZAMAN thinks about the subject....Thanks to you, we are now addcted to their views.

 Having a cold turkey?

desperation is louder than hapinness...

 Well said Elif84.  I also commend Carla´s statement.  I know more than a few Turkish/American marriages.  Most have worked out quite well, and at least as well as American/American marriages, if not better.   As in everything, it depends on the particular people involved.

thankyou alameda, someone has to stick up for people in mixed race relationships... my daughter will grow up with dual heritage and i certainly dont want her to be hearing comments like that... somethin else you sceptics ought to think about!!!!  everyone is entitled to their opinion and yes, these forums are for people to express them but there is no reason to be hurtful x

Actually if you take it personal it will hurt, but if you are neutral you can see some rational seeds.

take it easy. you have your own opinion, others - the same. Words are just declaration, your deeds are the best proof