Yes I noticed that you called your self a "guy" but everyone was calling you "she"!!

    It seems that it´s unusual for a man to have any interest in these issues.

Isn´t this just how lots of men (of any background) behave (or would behave) if they can get away with it? In Britain, they even made a TV comedy out of it (Men behaving badly).  Lots of men choose not to behave like this, of course, but it all comes back to cultural attitudes which privilege boy children over girl children.

If we bring our sons up to think they´re little princes, they´re going to behave like it. And the people who benefit from this arrangement (males) will seek to perpetuate this attitude for as long as possible.

And let´s not  forget that it was only relatively recently even in Britain that a woman was considered the property of her husband or father, had no legal right to her own property etc. etc. 

It´s called patriarchy, whence sexism. England has only had equal pay legislation since 1976! 

Exactly my point. We are not talking about the average "dumbass" here, but specifically about Turkish boyfriends. All cultures have their share of idiot Macho men, but the "machoness´ seems endemic in Turkish culture. That coupled with the perception ( by Turks), that foreigners are inferior, makes for a pretty bad mix.  Have a look at the report I quoted earlier (schoolbooks). 

 Really??? 

 I don’t know what is so surprising about my comments.  Yes, we consistently see posts from women crying about their situations with dudu’s…..but we also consistently see women who are not taking responsibility for their own part in it.

If you go into a relationship and move to a country where you do not know the language and have to rely on your man to do everything for you…then you have to take responsibility for your isolation.   

We do not know, from the original message, what the entirety of the situation is.  To me, jumping to the conclusion that it is emotional abuse, based on the very limited amount of information....is quite a big leap.

I think you are missing a few points here..

First of all, being a macho man is not charactheristic of Turkish men  only but almost every men in the region of Middle East and most part of Asia..

Also being an islamic society has had its effects as well as far as the equality of women and men is concerned..

The other important part is the level of culture of the men you are dealing with..I am not going to go and try to prove that we are  a country NOT full of macho men but the when the level of the culture goes up, the abuse of women´s rights drops down (at least it should be the case ) so as the machoism at that respect..

And I will also challenge your conclusion about  Turkish men think that foreigners are inferior.. I am not entirely sure what sort of Turks you have been encountered so far but again it is a matter of culture of the men you are dealing with. Most of us wont think the same way..

And when it comes to the individual case you are talking about, excuse me asking this but is this girl having a low IQ?

What does she waiting for to finish that relationship?

He is showing every single indication that there is nothing between them, why is your friend not getting it?

And one more note, a real Turkish man would not accept that type of help you are giving, from any other man. 

If I were you, I would be quite careful about those helps.. Because most of the Turkish men would be quite picky about these things and will write off a relationship straight away  if they see the same man is turning up with help when necessary.

it seems like the elections made theH quite nationalistic today

 Oooooops Sorry  I suppose I was generalising - it is normally women who write these sort of things, and it is not unusual for a girl to call herself a guy - as in you guys (if I start to explain the hole gets bigger )

Ha ha..

LL you completely lost me here 

And you were not already lost ??