Yes, every dudu that comes to the US has a GPS chip implanted in his brain.  This is why you never see US women whining about disobedient dudus!  It is always the British girls who loose their dudus!

As for lurve being boring.....I think you are doing it wrong!

A cross-cultural relationship brings a lot extra to the relationship. Extra good and extra bad. I think a good point in this piece was that the girl was married very young, they were married before his army! So my guess is they also married rather fast. If she was a bit longer with this guy in a relationship she would have known what the custom is, that she was expected to live with his family. She could also have simply stayed in the other country where she came from, and this would be perfectly acceptable for her husbands family as well. Or, she could have sat down with his family and her husband and explain what is normal in her culture, and find a middle way.

The most important thing in any relationship is communication, but when two cultures are in one relationship this becomes EXTRA important. And some interest in eachother´s cultures also helps. I know that my partner has his mom on a pedastle. This I already knew from the beginning of our relationship, it´s a part of him. He also knows that my family is very important for me, although we do not live with eachother

Well it was a stupidity to get married and move to Turkey knowing he didnt finish his military duty. What was she expecting to do in Turkey not knowing the language alone while he was away??? Of course she had to stay with parents, some trustable people or if I was her I would go to my country to live for few months. I would die living with people with whom I cant communicate for several months. I could go straightly to madhouse after that   I cant stay even for few days, communication and understanding ech other is very important.

 It is definately a challenge to be around people who don´t speak your language.  I don´t think I would go mad but It would be difficult especially if you really needed something quickly (like if  you got sick).  My husbands family speaks very little English (and my Turkish is far from fluent), but I think over the years we have developed our own communication (half English, half Turkish but mostly sign language).  It takes a lot of patience!

What in the world is a dudu??  I have a sweetheart in Turkey, but I ´m waiting until he gets through his mili. It´s not THAT long after all, and he´s postponed it as long as possible. The girl should have taken language classes, because for one it would show goodwill to her  husband, and more importantly to his family. I come from a family that respects their elders, and parents are  very important. We have the same thing in Venezuela, live with the parents while husband is away if you don´t have your own home. That way the husband´s precious person is being cared for by trusted and loved people. 

A ´´dudu´ is a Turkish Class word for a Turkish resort worker who´s main aim in life is to extract as much as he can in the way of mobile phones, laptops, money and hopefully (if the he can find a willing English/Dutch girl)visa, from any gullible female tourist he comes across. Please note that in no way do we think that this is the behaviour of a typical Turkish man - it is definitely a ´resort´ thing!

Ý looked in dictionary... dudu can be translated as  ´parrot´...figurative speaking...

This was the thread that started it all:-

http://www.turkishclass.com/sfa/turkce/forumTitle_22242

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WOW, culturally, there are so many similarities; maybe it´s just a Middle-Eastern-ish thing?  Israelis also have conscription, and since my hubby and I are now both in America, he and I both served voluntarity in the Marines; now he´s still in and will be for 30 years if he can, and even though we´re both religiously the same, our cultures are so different I still can´t communicate with his family.  I agree with whomever said his military duty should have been finished first.  I eventually ived with my OWN family when he was deployed to Iraq and Afghanistan, and even that seemed foreign!  My father still won´t let me leave his house without him if my husband not present, can´t be alone at all.The couple should have discussed these difficulties prior to marriage since they sound more modern than my family.  The husband should have laid down the law to his parents, and expect the worst reaction from them.

 Someone needs to change this in the dictionary!  Dudu is a TC cultural phenomenon!