Hello Eveyone
I was in Turkey for 3 months and stayed with a traditional Turkish family. Now, my host mom didn´t wear the hijab nor did her friends and extended family, only my host dad´s mom wore a hijab. It did not seem to be a big social issue for men or women about wearing a hijab, which I liked alot, because it was the WOMAN´S CHOICE to wear a hijab or not. Wearing a hijab in Turkey does not make you less modern, less educated less anything amazing. Also women who don´t wear hijab are not frowned upon or hated. I realised it is a personal choice thing.
However, with regards to public institutions, women were forbidden to wear a hijab. I have close friends in Turkey, they felt that their rights were being ignored, because they wanted to wear a hijab when they go to class at university. I guess, it is the Turkish government trying to make Turkey more secular and preventing Turkey from becoming like most Muslim countries where the hijab features everywhere.
The last time I checked, the law might have changed, women might have gotten the right to wear a hijab in a public institute (school, office, hospitals). I am not sure, I stand corrected
I spoke to many Turkish guys, some say they want their wives to wear it, some say they REALLY DON´T want their wives to wear it and some say IT IS HER CHOICE.
At the end of the day, it is a woman´s choice, whenver she forced to do something, then it becomes oppression and Islam is NOT about oppression.
A man should be fine with the idea that his wife wants or doesn´t want to wear a hijab. It is not up to him to decide for her.
If the woman feels that wearing a hijab is a symbol of pure wisdom and faith in her religion, she should NOT be prohibited and disliked for it. The same, if a woman does not feel the need to wear one, she should not be frowned upon or regarded as "low" from others.
My idea of the hijab. At the end of the day, it is a piece of cloth, it does not cover a beautiful heart or a dirty heart. If it is so important for a man to chase a hijab, let him chase it, for he will discover that it does not even present the fraction of what is in that woman´s heart and mind.
I think people should focus less on the hijab and focus more about their innerselves. A hijab is part of our great religion Islam and Allah has asked of us to wear it, but we must focus more on things that REALLY matter, (eg peace, honesty, integrity, honor, chastity and most of all LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOUR.
Please this is my opinion, it is NOT the views of the religion. This is HOW I SEE it.
Thanks
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