I would like to know would you change your religion to muslim from another religion? is it possible to get married to a muslim without changing religion?

please discuss this issue. facts, personal experiences and why you change or why you didnt change...

im facing a dilemma where my gf wants me to become muslim and i dont want to. i like my life as it is. im half chinese and half british and im worried about if i change it will affect a lot of thing, since my parent are chinese thier main cuisine consist of pork, therefore if i change religion im not allow to eat pork? i would think that in this era that you would be fine marrying a muslim and a non muslim.

i love her dearly and she is my bitanem. but i perfer to stay the religion i am...

please discuss.
thanks

I want just to explain to you that a muslim girl can only marry a muslim man not other.
But a muslim man can marry either muslim, chrestian or jewish woman.

I believe there are a lot of couples where the girl is muslim and the man is not. I don't know exactly its place in Kuran, I've also heard that a man marrying a nonmuslim girl is much more tolerated, and such marriages are mush more common, maybe because they consider the children to be muslim if the father is muslim and the woman is more controllable.
But in this century, there're a lot of people who live more freely as they believe, and a family should be quite traditional and religious to ask such a thing. If the family and the girl insistingly are asking you to convert to İslam instead of respecting who you're, I think you should also consider your marriage again. It could be a signal of other serious problems in the future.
So, in conclusion in Türkiye, there's not such a thing like having to be both Muslim in order to get married, your religion is not even asked by the government. It's something about families, and therefore you can understand the family is conservative about religion.

Look, it's so simple: if you change the word Religion into Belief when you ask yourself about it. "Do i want to change my belief". Doesn't that sound quite funny? A belief can change within circumstances, things will happen which will make you maybe believe different things, but it's not something you can just 'change' whenever you 'want to' from 'day to day'. It's not like: "Hmm, i don't like the color of my cellphone, let's buy a new front". A belief is something strongly within you and it cannot be just put there like a chip in a computer. It's soemthing that comes from within, not from without.

If you would change your beliefs only for your love, you're not only unfair to your own 'real religion', you're also unfair against the ones who are really muslim, which means you will not be honest against your gf, and you won't be honest against yourself either.

If she keeps insisting on converting to Muslim, i would definitely reconsider your marriage and the girl. Please don't get me wrong or feel hurt, i don't want to judge your love. But religion should never be in the way of love.
Also, i heard that in conservative turkish families, you don't just marry the girl, but you marry her family, symbolically spoken. Please don't get me wrong again I don't want to label her family either and judge peole whom i don't even know. But i think you should think really carefully about it.

Religion is a part of your life. And so is love. If these two seem 'uncombinable', you will face a lot of problems in your life, as it might start to seem you have to choose between her and your religion/God, or that you feel she is choosing between you and Allah. This is a choice that shouldn't be made, even thinking of it, shouldn't exist. There should be space in both of your lives for religion and love. And if that space of her religion makes it more practical if you stop eating pork, then do so. But don't pretend to believe in a god of which you think for yourself isn't there, or is different in your own religion.

You should not ask us. I'm gonna tell you a huge cliché now, but just look in your heart. I believe it holds most answers of human kind.

Absolutely beautifully put Deli_Kizin. Really very wise and wonderful words from you.

Thanks for your comment class. what about the turkish parents? im guessing that they are quite traditional, they would want their daughter to marry another muslim. so im guessing that they wont accept me if im not a muslim?

Religion can be a problem here in Scotland as well.When my wife and I were getting married many years ago she being a Catholic wanted to be married in the local chapel.I was a Protestant and the only way we could be married in the chapel was that we had to agree to raise any children as catholics.It may have changed now though.

I believe that when you are in love with someone then nothing else should matter. If one person strongly believes in their religion and wants the other person to convert, then the other person should convert. This is because when two people with different religions get married and have children, then the children will be confused about what to follow or believe. It will even affect the types of holidays they would be able or want to celebrate. I think that its important for the couple that is getting married to be of the same faith because if one is Christian and one is Hindu then will they get married in a church or around a fire? Or both? Also, if one person is not very religious or doesn’t believe in any religion then that person cannot make a good life partner. This is because for a person to lead a balanced life, they should attain a good balance of their physical, emotional and spiritual needs. If one of them is imbalances then more problems will be created in their married life. My opinion is contradicting my initial statement that if you are in love then nothing else matters. But that only holds true for ‘the madly in love’ stage that every couple goes through in the beginning. Afterwards, everything starts to change and you realize that there are other things in life too such as your responsibilities, your family and relatives, and your friends. You are not going to spend the rest of your life with just your partner; you have to spend your time with other people too.
Religion is a belief that you should truly believe in. When two people have different beliefs then later on some of their ideas and thoughts might be against each others. This can create arguments that cannot be resolved easily. Their schedules would also be in conflict because one person is going to a church on Sunday and the other person is doing a pooja. If the couple is involved in the same type of activities then it allows them to spend more time with each other and keep that emotional bond strong. They would also not have disagreements over religion at least because there are many arguments to deal with in married life for example, who should be doing the dishes tonight or who should wake up in the middle of the night to feed the baby .
It can easily happen that you may fall in love with someone who believes in a different religion. In the beginning, such things do not seem to matter but they do later on. Therefore, it is my opinion that one of the person should convert for the sake of their married life and future kids. But conversion should happen with a clean heart and not just for the sake of marriage. Because converting just for getting married will definitely lead to resentment later on. If one person does not decide to change their religion then it would be beneficial to end the relationship earlier than wasting some months or years and end it after which will be more hurtful.