how will you handle a long distance relationship?

could you please give some advices how to keep the

love going on inspite of the distance?

Any relationship is built on trust. If you trsut someone enough then distance does not matter. it is difficult and lonely but rewarding in the end. If you love someone enough and truely feel all of yoursle fonly wants that person then you can stand the test of time, if of course the other person is willing to also.

I have found it difficult sometimes with my long distance relationship. I get sms messages usually every day but when I dont hear from him then I start to worry, he says the same. With a text message you can not say all you want to. I have recently been talking to him via the Hotmail MSN site which is great as it is like having a real conversation. It is difficult to phone due to the hours we both work, the last time I phoned it cost me a lot of money.
If you are like me you need constant reassurance that they still care for you. The imagination is a terrible thing sometimes brings lots of doubts into your head.
All I can say is keep writing and sending messages and always be honest and if two people care for each other enough it will work out. Good Luck

yup, you are right about that. it is really difficult to be faraway from your love. actually we are talking everyday over the phone. he is not that really faraway only about two hour drive from me. he is staying in ajman and im staying in abu dhabi. we only get the chance to meet every friday which both of us is off at work but not every week because he has to spend time with his family. he is living here in UAE (12 years now) with his Mom and sis. the hardest thing about our relationship is that his mom doesn't know about it so we have to meet in secret. but what is rewarding is that his sis is nice to me and she is supporting our relationship. him and his sis are worried about their mom because she is old and weak and they do not want to give her something to worry about. she is not yet accustomed to the fact that my bf is having relationship. i can understand, and i don't want him also for her mom to have worries because of me. but one thing that is bothering me is that even though she doesn't know me yet, she is already angry from me because she is thinking that i am taking his son away from her. i just hope that everything will turn out ok in the end. thanks for the advice.

hi cheeky...short but is says it all! thanks!!

hehe no probleM You know when you said ur only a few hours dirve away from each other, i wished i was you My bf is 20 hours plane ride But its worth it..i hope one day to be together in the same country, his or mine it wouldnt matter to me, I love him

dear cheeky,

i wish you all the best for you and your bf. so we are on the same sit then waiting for the time when we and our love are finally together. maybe next year he'll be free from his family coz they are planning to buy home there and his mom might stay there for good. meaning...he will be free for me!

i hope everything will go well with you and your guy!!!!

Ooooppppsss...he is from turkey by the way and is 12 years now staying here in United Arab Emirates. When I said they're planning to buy home it is in Turkey! Sorry I forgot!)

i live in pakistan and my canim lives in the netherlands we only went out for 3 months before i went abraod to study. the first 3 years went by fine we would call write mail sms and chat regularly but once that became less it has been one big struggle. especially since her family doesn't know about us and would be against it. my advice would be:
- be as open as you can be!
- have as much contact as possible without interfering in each others lives(dont expect the other person to stay up all night long just to talk to you)
- be romantic (send e-cards, poems ect)
- let the other person know you where thinking of him or her
- on valentines day go all out (send a package of goodies like choclate and what ever els you want to send, my girl ones send me socks! yes socks and i have to say that that was so sweet of her because it told me that she was worried about me and wanted to take care of me)
- on aneversaries call (there are some really cheap calling cards you could buy)
- keep eachother updated on all the major events in live
- most important trust each other, the second you think he or she is cheating call the other person and find out how much you guys love each other trust me if you dont it will only build up and consume you.

well hope that helps you. this is my 6th year away from my canim and inshallah it will be my last. kendine iyi bak selam

ohhh and since you are a lady let the man know how horrible and empty you feel without him. selam

I totally agree with Dr. Amin. My long-distance-relationship is actually built on the same things he said.
It's indeed not easy, because you live 2 different lives and you cant put them together tho that is waht you long for. My boyfriend and i just made several times a day that we spent together. We drink tea together And sometimes we both rent the same film and go watch it together with the webcam on msn. It's funny. You just see another dimension of relationships. Next year i will move in with him, after i passed my exams. Then we will see the other dimension of the relationship like most people have, but i think with a different point of view: we prooved our love by our patience and we know we can fight for what we aim for.

Im not saying distance-love is more precious than other loves when they work out,because each love is precious in its own way. But when you handle the right way and a big love grows and stays, you have a strong base to rely on for the rest of your life!

k

Try google talk. It is free.

Hi guys! My babe sent me this song and it really made me feel better after reading.. check this out and maybe you can also send to your love ones from a distance!


Here Without You
by:3 Doors Down

A hundred days had made me older since the last time that I saw your pretty face
A thousand lights had made me colder and I don’t think I can look at this the same
But all the miles had separate
They disappeared now when I’m dreaming of your face

I’m here without you baby but your still on my lonely mind
I think about you baby and I dream about you all the time
I’m here without you baby but your still with me in my dreams
And tonight it’s only you and me

The miles just keep rolling as the people either way to say hello
I hear this life is overrated but I hope it gets better as we go

I’m here without you baby but your still on my lonely mind
I think about you baby and I dream about you all the time
I’m here without you baby but your still with me in my dreams
And tonight girl it’s only you and me

Everything I know, and anywhere I go
it gets hard but it won’t take away my love
And when the last one falls, when it’s all said and done
it get hard but it won’t take away my love

I’m here without you baby but your still on my lonely mind
I think about you baby and I dream about you all the time
I’m here without you baby but your still with me in my dreams
And tonight girl it’s only you and me

I’m here without you baby but your still on my lonely mind
I think about you baby and I dream about you all the time
I’m here without you baby but your still with me in my dreams
but tonight girl it’s only you and me

MERHABA AND THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING WHAT A BEAUTIFULL

SONG! I AM HAPPY FOR YOU TO FIND SUCH A NICE GUY.

TAKE CARE AND THANKS AGAIN DOLL.

BYESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS




Peace & Love
& Happiness
2 Both of you,

Tsarevna Stacia

Kelley

Hi classmates..maybe this could help us more in taking care of our long distance relationships.

Whoever first said that absence makes the heart grow fonder never contended with the weekend airport rush. Here are some ways to hold on to your long-distance lover - and your sanity.




Steps:
1. Keep in touch daily. If large phone bills are a concern, send e-mail, letters, cards and even faxes.

2. Plan reunions to keep both of you pleased about the relationship. If your partner needs closeness, set up plans to meet often. Having a date to look forward to can help you through the rough times.

3. Reaffirm your love and commitment to one another. Try not to assume that the relationship is thriving. Listen to your partner's concerns and communicate your own before they become bigger problems.

4. Keep your partner informed about your life. You may live separately, but sharing information about your activities and friends is still important.

5. Trust in one another. Suspicion will only break the relationship down.

6. Keep the relationship a high priority. Avoid canceling reunions or putting off a phone call.

7. Focus on the future. Make plans to live in the same city eventually.


Tips:
Plan a reunion in a city other than the ones you live in. Having a weekend getaway or vacation together can help recharge the relationship and reinforce your commitment.

Find ways to reduce the costs of travel and phone calls so you can meet and talk more often.

Surprise your loved one with an unexpected visit or a bouquet of flowers to keep the passion alive.

Be patient - it may take time for long-term plans to work out.

Consider other creative means of expressing your devotion: Scrawl confessions on a mirror, fan or piece of cloth. Fire off a quick succession of postcards.

It is a lovely song, very meaning indeed. Long distance is definitely not easy as I am in one too, and I miss him very much

dear mag,

ei gurl, sshhhh...it will be ok! love conquers all so don't worry!

Guys, this is my song for my babe...it is also about being faraway from your love...like the first song it is really touching!


Here by Me
by: 3 Doors Down


I hope you’re doing fine out there without me
‘Cause I’m not doing so good without you
The things I thought you’d never know about me
Were the things I guess you always understood

So how could I have been so blind for all these years?
Guess I only see the truth through all this fear,
And living without you…

And everything I had in this world
And all that I’ll ever be
It could all fall down around me.
Just as long as I have you,
Right here by me.

I can’t take another day without you
‘Cause baby, I could never make it on my own
I’ve been waiting so long, just to hold you
And be back in your arms where I belong

Sorry I can’t always find the words to say
But everything I’ve ever know gets swept away
Inside of your love…

And everything I had in this world
And all that I’ll ever be
It could all fall down around me.
Just as long as I have you,
Right here by me.

As the days grow long I see
That time is standing still for me
When you’re not here

Sorry I can’t always find the words to say
Everything I’ve ever known gets swept away
Inside of your love

And everything I had in this world
And all that I’ll ever be
It could all fall down around me.
Just as long as I have you,
Right here by me.

And everything I had in this world
And all that I’ll ever be
It could all fall down around me.
Just as long as I have you,
Right here by me.

That song is beautiful,it's a song so many can relate to.

yeah, the songs are really touching and sentimental. Try to download and listen to it, it might make u cry!! Actually if you will notive my babe's song for me is "HERE WITHOUT YOU" and my song for him is "HERE BY ME", hehe! sort of contradicting from title but the content...to good!