Hi interested in your replies, my male friend (to old to call a bf) he is Turkish and divorced. He married an English girl but she was not happy living in Turkey and he did not want to live in England so their marriage did not work.
There are modern men in Turkey, my friend does still have some old fashioned ideas and can be very bossy but he respects me when I stand up for myself.

Best of luck to every one with a Turkish love.

Hi, Cheeky!
I think that being honest is the best way in this situation. Trust is very important in a relationship, and it is better if the person hears it from you about your past, than later on to learn accidently about it from somebody else. Then he might feel that you lied to him, and not trust you. And also you should see for yourself how he would react to it now, rather then later on when your relationship has become more serious. If that person cannot accept you with your past, then maybe you are not for each other, and you should find somebody that would not have a problem with it. Again, the best way, in my opinion, is to to be honest and tell him, and then you will know where you both stand, and if you have a future.
Good luck to you!

Btw, it will be interesting to hear what the turkish guys from this site think about that. None of them have commented anything on this topic...

HI Cheeky.Im a divorced woman (with two teenagers) and met a turkish man 3 years ago.He has never had a problem with me being divorced.He had to return to Turkey 18 months ago,and we hope to be together one day,eventually.It's so difficult when children are involved,and i miss him sooooo much.We text 4 to 5 times every day and phone often.He was also married to a Turkish lady,they're now seperated.He has 3 children.Im going to Antalya next month and cant wait to see him.
I also know of 2 other Turkish men who have married divorced women,so I wouldn't be that worried about telling him.Depends how strict his upbringing has been I guess.Anyway,honesty is best policy I think.Good luck.

I have my own rules in that I never make the mistake of revealing any of my past whatsoever to a new man in my life. What is my past is my past and nothing to do with his future with me. I reveal only on a 'need to know' basis, if he doesn't need to know it then don't volunteer any information. I have damaged relationships in my life by revealing too much about my past when it was not necessary to do so, now I know different.

Thnakyou all very much. inshaallah all goes well and he is understanding, afterall it is our happiness and love together that would keep things moving along. Whilst honesty is the best policy, I am not lying about anything at the moment, we havent discussed our past and by right i think this is a good thing...after all why would u want to know about past mistakes aslong as you can makes things better this time round inshaallah. I love him, he loves me, and inshaallah it will be fine.

dear friend,
I'm greek and I my knoglidge of Turkish society is poor.
And of turkish men(as a companion) even smaller...But!
I do know some of them and they made me feel sooo very welcome and so free, that I'm now trying to cope with turkish language!

My hamble idvice is that trouth saves!

Should you feel that you have something more with this guy, somthing real and love-based!
Go for It!
Spil it out!
I know the fear of losing someone you like is imprisoning you!
But then again this would be the only way to find out how far you can go with him!
Socializing with you aloneis a giant step anyhow!
All in all as far as I'm concerned,Its a mater of character and sentiment and not a matter of desent or national idintity!
Take the risk!There is no other way!

I sincerarly hope he would prove to be the progressive type!
And really really hope that this would work for you!

Wish I could have seen this topic on monday so I'm a few days late, but let me just say that the first thing to know is this..... the question isn't going to be answered by hm but by his family, the first thing to find out is.... how is is family going to react??? My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years and are still struggling to keep it together, his family is pretty modern and not not real religous but will never accept me because I am divorced and have a son. However the main thing is the son part, so if she doesnt have any children I really think the best advice is to keep the old marriage out of the picture no need to stir trouble when its a thing of the past and she has no ties to the ex. Sometimes its an impulsive urge to tell the person you love everything about your past but some things are just better left unsaid. Just my little opinion

Divorce is more and more common in Turkey all the time. So its not like its unheard of. Every situation will be different I think on what the families will think. But I don't think that she can hide it from her bf/future husband uch longer. At whatever belediyesi she would get married at, the paperwork would not only show if she was previously married, but who she was married to. This isn't something you can hide forever. Good Luck!!