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Private Message spamming
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09 May 2007 Wed 02:37 am |
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Quoting femme_fatal:
you are mod here, arent you? and you dont know what spam is or you're pretending again?
google it! |
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10 May 2007 Thu 12:17 am |
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Quoting mltm: Quoting femme_fatal:
you are mod here, arent you? and you dont know what spam is or you're pretending again?
google it! |
You're always picking on me.
Are you jealous of me?  |
mltm mod, you're spamming it!
ye, im jealous, of your hips! 
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17 May 2007 Thu 06:14 pm |
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Quoting femme_fatal: Quoting mltm: Quoting femme_fatal:
you are mod here, arent you? and you dont know what spam is or you're pretending again?
google it! |
You're always picking on me.
Are you jealous of me? |
mltm mod, you're spamming it!
ye, im jealous, of your hips! |
I still think that the messages who are supposed to know someone are not always spam. If Someone look at your pic and decides to message you or just would like to know you and send you a message, he is not spamming.
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17 May 2007 Thu 06:25 pm |
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Quote: I still think that the messages who are supposed to know someone are not always spam. If Someone look at your pic and decides to message you or just would like to know you and send you a message, he is not spamming. |
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17 May 2007 Thu 09:15 pm |
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Quoting mltm: I still think that the messages who are supposed to know someone are not always spam. If Someone look at your pic and decides to message you or just would like to know you and send you a message, he is not spamming. |
You don't consider a message with only 'hi, how are you?' - no name, no personal information, no explanation why - as spam?
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17 May 2007 Thu 09:55 pm |
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Obviously that's spamming Trudy! He might be as good as to introduce himself first eh?  Else it's quite clear what he wants from you
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17 May 2007 Thu 09:56 pm |
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It's hard to know who to trust over the internet and private messages from "unknown, anonymous friends" are almost always not welcome. With men, it often leads to sexual invitations (over web cam, for example - as it happened to a few people here), invitations to meet (when on vacation) for purely sexual reasons of the guy, or financial exploits.
When a guy writes a "hi, how are you" message, he clearly is not a mature, serious type, but - a player or somebody with hidden intentions. It's easy to fool women over the internet that each of them is the only one that he talks to, but obviously, that's a lie 99% of the time. So some women don't realize that they should stay away from such men.
And lastly, unwanted messages from men is a way of harassment and we will not allow that on this web site to the extent that we can of course. If mltm doesn't consider it spam, it's her choice, but all the other women who don't enjoy spam, they can help us get rid of spammers if they want to. From my observation, the numbers decreased after we implemented the "report spam" option and published the names of deleted members. The web site became a better environment.
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17 May 2007 Thu 10:16 pm |
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I'm not talking about harassement, it's another thing, but you cannot know if someone intends to harass you, if he just says to you hi, and wants to know you. I think if he continues to do it after he gets a negative reply or he does not get a response at all, we can call it a harassement. Why do women always tend to see themselves victims of harassement? It's enough sexist to think that a man who wants to know you just wants to have sex, I think this mentality is leading to that more.
And as I understood well, as long as it's a man who says "hi, how are you", you call it at once a harassement and his mail a spam, but the other way around (if it's a woman), you don't see it as harassement. It's a double standard, no?
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17 May 2007 Thu 10:23 pm |
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Quoting Trudy: Quoting mltm: I still think that the messages who are supposed to know someone are not always spam. If Someone look at your pic and decides to message you or just would like to know you and send you a message, he is not spamming. |
You don't consider a message with only 'hi, how are you?' - no name, no personal information, no explanation why - as spam? |
So, you wouldn't consider it a spam if he added his personal details? 
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17 May 2007 Thu 10:42 pm |
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Quoting mltm: I'm not talking about harassement, it's another thing, but you cannot know if someone intends to harass you, if he just says to you hi, and wants to know you. I think if he continues to do it after he gets a negative reply or he does not get a response at all, we can call it a harassement. Why do women always tend to see themselves victims of harassement? It's enough sexist to think that a man who wants to know you just wants to have sex, I think this mentality is leading to that more.
And as I understood well, as long as it's a man who says "hi, how are you", you call it at once a harassement and his mail a spam, but the other way around (if it's a woman), you don't see it as harassement. It's a double standard, no? |
there are people who don't want to get such messages at all! people who consider it meaningless and unwelcome to be getting stupid "hi, how are you" messages. this can only come from one type of men (or women for that matter!!!). nobody who has anything serious in mind will write "hi how are you", and from EXTENSIVE experience it is known what those guys have in mind most of the time and that they write it to multiple women at the same time (same exact message). some people are ok with getting one message and consider it spam if that person keeps insisting (stalking), and that's up to you.
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17 May 2007 Thu 11:04 pm |
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OK, if you say so. You're far more experienced than me 
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