I wish any non turkish woman the best of luck with a turkish guy. i am in a very serious relationship with turkish guy who is without a doubt the best thing that has ever happend to me. Let me tell you something. The mother is a very important factor when it comes to any possible future (and by future i mean a CHANCE to spend the rest of our lives together). if your lucky to be in good terms with the mother then you pretty much have earned the equivalent to a medal of honour for bravery. turkish families are quite strict about upholding traditions and sadly but truly most turkish families (again the mother playing a large factor in this) do not think that any woman other than a turkish woman is good enough for their son. i think i read that one of you were inquiring about rules that a turkish man may one day ask you for and believe you me they very much exsist and they will make of break your relationship. there will be rules that are easier to follow then others and some will truly test how much you are willing to sacrifice but the one thing that i will say with a heavy heart is that sometimes, despite your best efforts, you will begin to sacrifice yourself and who you are for someone who most likely are not willing to sacrifice for you. i hope i havent discouraged anyone because no one can define the limit when it comes to love.

Leyla

why do girls think that turkish men are very jealous?
it is better to say protective
isnt it?

Maybee they have bad experience with turkish guys
Protective , hm , i do not know ... can we call it like that ...
Maybee possesive is better!? What u think ?
Anyway , we talking about turkish guys , trying to learn more about culture , turkish language , and all things , that means we like it ...
And again , what i want to say is,love can fight with all troubles ...
Is normal if his family (read mom)wants the best for his son ,so if she has opinion that the best for him is Turkish girl, i do not see nothing bad in it ...
But the question is,what he think about it ?
I mean if u love somebody u do not care what other thinks about ur darling ...
u will leave all u have to be with ur love .
Isnt it true ?
I will do it all for really love , it doesnt matter is he white,black,Turk ,moslim,christian,if i love him.
My mom cant decide what is , and who is good for me.
She can , but it doesnt meen that is last word for me ...
That is my life and i will spend it with my darling not with my mom.
I do not know , maybee i am wrong , i just writing what i can sacrifice for love , i do not know for others ...

i don't have much experience with turkish guys - i met just two in real, but i have quite a lot of online friends. what always surprised me was how helpless they are when it comes to household chores. i mean, they seem so self-confident and mature (well, most of them) but they'd die of starvation if their mom is not home to cook something for them moreover, once my friend, he's 25, told me that it was his mother who tidies his room
needless to say - i was shocked! i'm sure it later influences the roles they play in their marriages.

I'm not suprised reading this. However I've met also turkish guys who can even cook! I have turkish friend who always says that he cooked fantastic spaghetti and I should learn how to cook turkish dishes. When I told him I hate cooking and I'm absolutely not talented it this subject he told me it's not a problem, because he can learn it for me if only I help him cutting onion I was shocked! What is more, those friends live in eastern Turkey which is thought to be move traditional and consevatistic. Men I met for example in Istanbul were much more lazy helpless and useless...

Hehehe this is good one
Check this out, one girl has a good idea , how to live with turkish guy ... this is what she wrote :

"pander to him let him think he's boss but all us woman know whos is the real boss ha"

Yes is true they like to see self like a boss, like somebody who has control...

I think everything was said here can be said about all men.Color, culture and other things do not count here.I believe that all men somehow are possesive.I don't say jelous, because , I think, if you love sombody and trust him/her, you can't be jelous.And that's right, duskahvesi, they are protective.
Aren't we, girls, same? It is human's nature - "He/she is mine"....

Hey Girls

i met a wonderful turkish man, and ive read all of what others have said here...but still not sure on what the man is really like. He's from Antalya....hmmm...any ideas? I heard from some that its the party capital?

Do you think turkish men are
1) Possesive of their women?
2) Free going with anyone?
3) say sweet thing easily?

Hi Cheekygirl,

I'm not an expert at answering these questions, but I think we all suffer these emotions.

For instance a mother's tears for her child is no different in any country.

Our boys hold back a lot of emotions as considered a weakness. They tend to be more reserved in this field.

I do know when I take messages to my bosses from their wives or girlfriends it is the most important and happy time in the day when they receive their phone call. They will stop whatever they are doing no matter how busy they are, and important their work is, at the time.

Angela

All,

I have just come back from Altinkum a few weeks ago.

I was in a large group with colleagues, where we met up occasionally. Although my friend and I had no relationships and I was there seeing to private business.
Two of our colleagues had boyfriends, one from the time previous, would be texting her and she was excited about going out to meet him.

He asked her for a mobile phone costing over £300, she bought a one and gave it to him around £100, she gave it to him on the first night and didn't see much of him after that. She said he was jealous of her funning with others in the complex, and he had blown her out because of this? He knew she had quite a good wage as she was managerial.

If you read ANDREA's write up. Her friend and her had disastrous experience of guys in same resort. It did not surprise me. We were forewarned that you have to be careful of Turkish guys, 80% of them want paid. I said, "older women"; and my agent said "no any age". This was advice from a Turk.

In May we were sitting at a restaurant and a Welsh lady often sat with us. She had been married to a Turkish man. She said, she even wore the long dress and veil, like a muslim woman. He was lovely to her and after 5 weeks of marriage he hit her. His mother said to her, you are lucky, "my husband broke my fingers with a stick".

I'm only putting this foreward, so be aware of these kind of men. I'm sure they are not all the same.

Aman tanrim...
This was really horrible story. I've also heard about such men,but I know not only Turkish men behave like that.It happens all over the world...
Again, read Lyndie's essay about Tourist industry in Turkey, maybe it will help you to understand why so many Turks in touristic places behave in that way.