I *HAD* a Turkish boyfriend (hence like so many other females, i joined this site!), but he turned out to be a cowardly fool. In the beggining he swept me off my feet though... he was charming, SWEET, romantic and really knew how to use his words, even though English was his 2nd language. And i never found those qualities in an English man. Thats my guess as to why so many western women fall for Turkish men. I even found myself starting to like another turkish guy recently... but, as it turns out, he wasnt the man of my dreams either, just another guy. I think Turkish men treat their woman differently to English men.

I dont want to jump on the bandwagon and make you feel sad, but i have to agree with everyone else. Ofcourse theres a chance he did really like you, and maybe it could be more, but i doubt it. I had a similar experience... and say, save yourself any heartache, dont waste your time and money. Anything you were feeling at the time was possibly more intense because subconciously, you knew you only had a limited amount of time to spend with this guy. Had you of met him in a different setting, you may not feel the same/as strongly as you feel for him now.

Try to forget.

Sorry

Hello, a random person sent me a message, so im not sure of the context...apolosgies if it is rude in some way

Haha! Thank you very much

Hello, can anyone help me please? I know its regarding my aunties...but thats about all i could decipher!

´teyzelerime goz mu diktiniz lan hoop wermem kiskanirim´

Many thanks!

Merhaba,

Ahh, thank you so much! Now i can get a rough idea about the meanings of the songs!

Im listening to some Ajda, and would like to know the meaning of a few of the song titles. Help muchly appreciated!

kimler geldi kimler gecti

hos gor sen

haram olsun

uykusuz her gece

haykiracak nefesim kalmasa bile (angry?)

ne tadi var bu dunyanin

Tessekur ederim!

Merhaba!

Can anyone share their experiences of life after military service in Turkey? Or experience of someone you know having changed after military, e.g their personality? Any insight to this subject would be mch appreciated, wether you served yourself in the military, or wether your brother/boyfriend/uncle´s kopek served

And also, is there some kind of psychology assesment for soldiers after the military, wether they served for just 5 months or a longer period of time?

Many thanks in advance,

Katerina

Congratulations to Istanbul, a beautiful city

In London, there is a HUGE Billboard advertising Istanbul as the City Of Culture, with a beautiful picture of Istanbul itself. Athough, the picture is nothing compared to actually seeing the place with your own eyes.

Thats it haha, i just wanted to tell you all about the massive billboard!

OEINCE:

I have to remind you that the ratio of happy ended relations between Turkish and non Turkish people is not so high...

But WHY? Why is this? I am more understanding now towards the idea of meeting his mother/father etc. I spoke to a Turkish friend and she advised me that in his mind, he probabaly thinks ´why would i introduce her, i am not about to marry her yet´ So i completely understand why i wouldnt be introduced, and i am happy with that. However, i have recently been informed that his mother is NOT happy about our relationship because she had high hopes for him and his ex girlfriend...and also, she doesnt think good things of English girls at all.

Interesting subject, i am intruiged to to see posts from some of you...

 ´I followed my heart, since i just HAD to know...´

Thats exactly how i feel. I simply cant NOT go to Turkey to see him, my father doesnt think its a good idea, telling me to be careful etc, but i just HAVE to know where this could lead...i´d go crazy in the future wondering about all the ´what if´s?´. I dont know many people who have had long distance relationships, just two. Both with Turkish men. And both failed. But i cant let that stop me....im following my heart, and i´ll try not to leave my brain at home! Although even when its with me, its not much good anyway!!!

Barba_mama, how long were you with your guy when he propsed to you? And how did he do it, do Turkish men traditionaly get down on one knee? I am clueless

 Hi, congratulations! Did you get married in Turkey, if so what was your wedding like? Do tell!

Katerina

This wasnt my post, but i´d just like to say you have helped me. You explain things really well!

And if you are a beginner, then i do not wish to think what i am!

Muz (banana)

p.s, im so pleased i could join in, even with my limited Turkish vocabulary, woo hoo!

Mutlu.....something something something? I am no help, sorry, i am just starting to learn! But thats a good question, i´d like to know the answer to this too

 How long have you been in a relationship with him? Visa´s complicate things slightly, but nothing is impossible! I am the same. My family know about my boyfriend, but he is reluctant to tell his family. I felt at first, maybe he was keeping me a secret, because i am not turkish/muslim/i dont know. But eventually he told his Father, but he didnt tell his mother or sister. It bothered me ALOT, but what can i do? I think maybe he is a private person, and as i am not in Turkey, it is difficult. I dont really have any advice for you, i wish i did, as i could take my own advice!

 I am visiting him in 7 weeks, and i am hoping to be introduced to his mother and his friends. Have you met any of your boyfriends family/friends? Because for me, meeting his family/friends will be the key in knowing how serious he is about me.

What kind of step will you be taking once he finished the military?

It is nice to speak to someone in a similar situation!

Brilliant, thanks for your reply. I hate needles Not that ive even been proposed to, but a girl can dream...

 I am impatiently awaiting Febuary, so i can hop onto an ucak over to Istanbul to be re-united with him! Then i shall see for certain. Thank you for your comment, this is one of the comments i will remember

 But i never felt special before i met him. I guess i will learn, in time, confidence growing etc.

Oh and, im going to try and remember your moto

 ...explaining everything and asking for your 2nd bank card details...

Ive been reading over lots of posts in these forums regarding relationships with Turkish men and i have to say i am quite dissapointed. I am in my first relationship with a Turkish man, and i regard him to be the sweetest man i have ever met. Ive always said how he is so romantic with his words...and he told me he loved me after three days together. I thought this was because i simply swept him off his feet, but it appears that most Turkish men are quick to share their feelings of love for a woman. I have realised im probabaly not that special, its just in his/Turkish mens nature.

What you say is very true, i don´t doubt it for one second. Its such a shame so many silly girls fall for these men. They dont understand its part of their job.

 Haha, yes, i indeed fell in love with a Turkish Romeo. But im not the stereotypical drunken holiday maker who fell in love with a Waiter in Marmaris I have fallen in love with a respectable friend of my family´s. Well, so far he´s been respectable!

Merhaba!

Very stereotypical of me, but...

A hundred English girls holiday in Turkey, and fall in love Turkish men. But I never hear of English boys going over to Turkey and falling hoplessly in love with Turkish girls? I suppose it does happen, but i presume it is rare, because i never hear of it? Why is that?

Is it because Turkish men are "romeo´s", and generally more romantic than English men? Or is it because Turkish girls are not available? Or...??

What are your thoughts? Opinions?

Katerina

Turkishcobra....im not sure about the balloon...i´d love to see Istanbull from high up, but maybe i´ll stick to looking out of the plane window on arrival!

Thank you for your list! I have been to many of the places you have mentioned...but i guess i can go again, as they are wonderful places to visit!

 Yes, ive been to the basilica cistern, it was very damp! But amazing all the same!

Oh, ofcourse! I have visited some this year...but i was hopping for some fresh ideas...maybe some hidden gems which arent noted in tour guide books etc. I think i will visit Topkapai palace, as alot of the rooms were shut when i was there due to maintenance

Merhaba!

Geliyorum Istanbul soon for 2 weeks! I will be spending the majority of my days alone, so i need some activites to keep me busy! Suggestions? I plan to buy a book, but i´d like some non-text book things to do also!

What is something you absoultely love to do in Istanbul? Cafes/Resturants i MUST go to? Any hidden treasures? I need ideas...

Katerina

This may sound really ignorant...

But why do you need a blood test to get married in Turkey? I am confused.

Katerina

My boyfriend is currently serving in the Turkish army. He usualy gets one day off per week, but has to be back at the base at like 4pm. He´s not allowed to use his mobile. I think there would be a punishment if he was caught with it...

He told me once that him and his army friends went to the kitchens and took some bread...unfortunately they were caught, and had to peel three large boxes of onions as punishment!! Quite funny really... They didnt do it again.

I miss him very much, but will see him in 9 weeks when he gets out!!

Yes, these are attributes my lovely Turkish boyfriend posseses! Hands off, you´re not marrying him

I guess if you´re that set on finding a Turkish husband, the only way to go about it is to move there. Although i cant understand how you can simply tell yourself you´re going to marry a Turkish man. You could fall in love with a Chinese man tomorrow, you just dont know what the future holds for you!

Wow! I didnt expect such a wide and varied response, and from so many! Thank you to all, really, its very appreciated! I am still none the wiser, but i guess its just different for each individual.

Yilgun-2010...Ofcourse other nationalities can mix with Turkish people! I believe you are wrong  What ever gave you the idea that they can´t mix well?? My father is Greek Cypriot (born in Cyprus, grew up in England) and he married a Turkish woman, and they have been married for ten years so far! There must be thousands and thousands of Turkish people all over the world married to people with different cultures/beliefs....!

Kestane - Chestnut

Merhaba!

I would like to know, traditionaly (and non traditionaly), how long a couple would wait before introducing their boyfriend/girlfriend to their family?

I have heard that its not ´important´ to introduce girlfriends/boyfriends to families untill maybe after 1-2 years of dating. Is this typically true?

I know its probably different for different people/scenarios, but any insight into this subject would be much appreciated.

Tesekkurler

Katerina

Mehaba!

Cocuklar kitap istiyorum

I would like to buy some basic childrens books to practise reading Turkish. I have found ´Elma the Elphant´ on Amazon.co.uk

Does anyone know of any other good sites to buy kids books from?

Tesekurler