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A Turkish husband
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02 Feb 2009 Mon 04:03 pm |
The planning of that wedding seems to take forever. Just get it overwith already 
Relationships, in which the wedding is the most important day, often don´t last long.
What a whining, self absorbed daughter in law. No wonder she doesn´t get along with the family.
Are you talking about the woman in the article?
If so -
I am not sure what makes you think this woman is self absorbed because I could actually relate to some of the things she said. Being married to a Turk when you are a Non-Turk can be very frustrating when it comes to things like the wedding and children. I don´t think its too much to ask that your traditions are honored as well....after all, compromise is a big part of marriage and in my culture, mother-in-laws mind their own business (but are usually happy to do so ).
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02 Feb 2009 Mon 04:09 pm |
hehehe!!! nice choice i think... your right turkish guy is good and very loving and easy to be with... thats the quality of my turkish boyfriend....but turkish language is really hard to speakup maybe if you are in turkey you can easily learn it... hope you find the right turkish men... good luck
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02 Feb 2009 Mon 04:26 pm |
not everyone is as "good" as you 
her marriage is a huge mistake or she should digest everything and sacrifice herself to turkishness and refuse being a free woman, maybe just like you, azade?
Femme are you the lurker sitting in my tree at night, trying to catch a glimpse at my Atatürk style niqab? Shame on you, being a defenceless woman, I will immidiately report it to the bureau of turkishness!
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02 Feb 2009 Mon 04:36 pm |
Are you talking about the woman in the article?
If so -
I am not sure what makes you think this woman is self absorbed because I could actually relate to some of the things she said. Being married to a Turk when you are a Non-Turk can be very frustrating when it comes to things like the wedding and children. I don´t think its too much to ask that your traditions are honored as well....after all, compromise is a big part of marriage and in my culture, mother-in-laws mind their own business (but are usually happy to do so ).
Yes I´m referring to that woman. The first couple of articles were interesting, but it seems like the only topic she can write about is how she´s afraid of losing her culture and her intrusive future mother-in-law. Why doesn´t she set the lines straight to the m-i-l so she can start to feel confortable with her life.
I agree with you that compromising is very important (for any marriage), but from what she writes I get the picture that she´s immature about it. Perhaps if the expressed her feelings to the fiance´s family instead of the internet, they could come to a better solution.
Perhaps the teyze wants to take care of everything because it´s taking too long time Well I don´t know. It just seems like they don´t even communicate well with eachother.
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02 Feb 2009 Mon 05:02 pm |
Perrhaps the teyze wants to take care of everything because it´s taking too long time Well I don´t know. It just seems like they don´t even communicate well with eachother.
Just had a funny thought......maybe the fiance is waiting for translations on the tranlation forum??!!
I guess I am somewhat lucky that my Turkish mother-in-law doesn´t interfere too much but I am always surprised at how easily she gives her opinions. I usually just thank her for her ideas (then do what I want ) If she doesn´t like me, she does a very good job of hiding it - so we are all happy!
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02 Feb 2009 Mon 05:07 pm |
If she doesn´t like me, she does a very good job of hiding it - so we are all happy!
Maybe she is biding her time..... 
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02 Feb 2009 Mon 05:14 pm |
Maybe she is biding her time..... 
Well, I guess anything is possible. But I doubt any Turkish mother-in-law could wait 5 years to kick up a fuss.
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02 Feb 2009 Mon 05:16 pm |
you wish! im not into women even if you are under your beautiful burka!
Femme are you the lurker sitting in my tree at night, trying to catch a glimpse at my Atatürk style niqab? Shame on you, being a defenceless woman, I will immidiately report it to the bureau of turkishness!
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02 Feb 2009 Mon 05:17 pm |
you are lucky you are far away. 
Just had a funny thought......maybe the fiance is waiting for translations on the tranlation forum??!!
I guess I am somewhat lucky that my Turkish mother-in-law doesn´t interfere too much but I am always surprised at how easily she gives her opinions. I usually just thank her for her ideas (then do what I want ) If she doesn´t like me, she does a very good job of hiding it - so we are all happy!
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02 Feb 2009 Mon 05:20 pm |
you are lucky you are far away. 
Maybe she is the luck one...
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02 Feb 2009 Mon 06:13 pm |
oh, you naughty gelin 
Maybe she is the luck one...
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