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Turkish Boyfriends and Girlfriends.
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07 Sep 2010 Tue 11:16 pm |
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I met my friend on a social network last year, and since then have taken our conversations to msn. We talk anywhere from 4-12 hours daily, depending on the time zone. I´m finally going to Turkey and he´s meeting me at the airport, taking a 5 hour train to get there. We will spend three days in Ankara. After that we will go stay with his elder brother and new wife for one week, and then home to meet his parents and other relatives. At the beginning of our special friendship we spoke of love, and I admit that I do love him very much. Now he says we are "two good friends". Is it customary for "two good friends" to stay with his elder brother and new wife, and then home to the parents? I´m so confused. And does the one good friend always ask "where are you?" "what are you doing?" "Are you home?" "When will you be home?" I thought those kinds of questions in a Turkish guy were reserved for more intimate relationships.
Sorry to dissapoint you, but the situation does not sound promising..
When did he start to say you are "two good friends"? Before making all those arrangements -meeting his parents specially- or after? Something does not sound right ..
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07 Sep 2010 Tue 11:23 pm |
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After. He did tell a mutual male friend that his parents and brother knew he loved me. Why the discrepancy I don´t know.
Edited (9/7/2010) by Annette Faye
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08 Sep 2010 Wed 02:19 pm |
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Alarm bells are ringing. It is highly unusual for a normal friend to stay with somebody´s family like that. I don´t think you´ll be introduced as "my foreign friend" but as "my foreign fiancé."
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08 Sep 2010 Wed 08:24 pm |
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@ barba_mama- You could be right. I am also a Muslim girl, and in my background it is not customary to stay with the family of a friend of the opposite sex unless marriage is contemplated. I just did not know if it was any different in Turkey. My family is pretty modern, but even so, if I brought over a male friend who was traveling a long distance to visit only me, eyebrows would indeed be raised. However, his parents are anxious to meet me, as well as his brothers. He is, after all, my best friend.
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09 Sep 2010 Thu 10:57 pm |
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What a lovely topic. I have never never seen anything like this discussed on this site before. Well done..... 
(Could not find a yawn smiley) 
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09 Sep 2010 Thu 11:01 pm |
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What a lovely topic. I have never never seen anything like this discussed on this site before. Well done.....
(Could not find a yawn smiley)
Hibernation is over..... 
and yes, it is quite a surprising topic - new one on me 
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09 Sep 2010 Thu 11:05 pm |
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Hibernation is over.....
and yes, it is quite a surprising topic - new one on me
I love dudus - especially in an economic recession. I might feel driven to write a limerick about them soon 
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09 Sep 2010 Thu 11:09 pm |
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T- E what does this mean? Onda isim ciktiydi okadar yazdim. Sadece nezle olmusun
thankyou!
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09 Sep 2010 Thu 11:10 pm |
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I love dudus - especially in an economic recession. I might feel driven to write a limerick about them soon
Oim quivering with anticipation 
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09 Sep 2010 Thu 11:13 pm |
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T- E what does this mean? Onda isim ciktiydi okadar yazdim. Sadece nezle olmusun
thankyou!
Please post this in the translation forum. thanks
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09 Sep 2010 Thu 11:15 pm |
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Even in the US, when a friend of the opposite sex is introduced to family, eyes are raised and the introduction is taken as a sign of something very serious........
I FINALLY realised something.. either:-
- You live in an Amish community
- You SHOULD live in an Amish community
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