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In that case it´s just generally degrading Pfff...marrying somebody of, like you want to get rid of them, like a nasty cold. As if a person isn´t anything on their own.

Well, it´s nice to see you have remembered me too, and deemed it worth commenting on my post.

Do you have a problem with the Amish? Actually, I admire the Amish.....they walk the walk.

Anyway, welcome back Aenigma.....

You are probably correct. This is just what I have noticed.

wait! isn`t that so backwards? I love this attitude of "I show more flesh and I have more sex so I`m moderner than thou"

Edited (9/12/2010) by Arafta

Maybe you didn´t hear it before but it´s a perfectly legitimate English espression and not sexist at all.

Quoting Arafta

wait! isn`t that so backwards? I love this attitude of "I show more flesh and I have more sex so I`m moderner than thou"

Where did I say anything about having sex? I meant that a woman may have male friends and not be romantically involved with them. And the fact that you have male friends doesn´t mean you have to marry them or sleep with them.

I consider it backwards to think that if you introduce a friend of the opposite sex to your family, it must mean you are planning marriage.

If I introduce a friend of the opposite sex in my family, I´ll have to say that he´s a friend, otherwise they´ll just assume otherwise. This is not backward. It´s just because I don´t hang out with my friends at grandma´s place! So if she meets one of my friends, that friend must be very very special. And it is a normal assumption that if I only introduce one male guy friend to my family (I mean extended family, not just my parents) they can think he is a love interest.

When a male friend is introduced to my siblings and parents, no assumptions are made. But the girl one here talked about an uncle. Don´t tell me that all of your friends meet your aunts and uncles.

Well, BM, I think it should have been made clear from the start whom we mean saying family. My grandma met a few male friends of mine if we happened to run into her in the street or if I went to her and had a friend with me because later we were going somewhere. It was pretty normal.I was just brought up in such a manner that you introduce people who are with you when you meet somebody from your family. And it doesn´t mean you´re getting married.

As for proper (official) introductions, I´ve never done that. Even though I´ve been married for 9.5 years I still haven´t met most of my husband´s family and he hasn´t met a huge part of mine. We´ve decided it would be weird to have a tour of the family. We know the ones we see (or used to see) quite often and it suits me just fine.

I don´t have to say we didn´t ask for blessings or permission when we decided to get married, do I?

 We will be staying for one week with his uncle and aunt, a 4 hour trip by train from my point of arrival, and then we will take a 9 hour train ride to meet his parents and stay 4 days with them before taking a 5 hour ride to my point of departure. A lot of time spent on wheels

We weren´t talking about running into somebody. It was about especially going to somebody and visiting them. My partner met all my uncles and aunts at a family party. You don´t normally bring your friends to family parties (like a wedding, aniversy, etc.) so if you would bring "just a friend" there you would say, in my case "this is my friend Soandso" and not "this is Soandso"... the latter would make my family think he´s my love interest. I don´t appreciate my family being called backwards for that assumption.