Quoting Leann: Hello evrybody,am new member in here,i really found that alot interesting forum posted here and i spent alot time to read all the forum.
First of all,i just would like to share with all of u my amazing love story with a Turkish man.I am 23 Asian Chinese who live in Kuala Lumpur,Malaysia and grow up in a typical and Buddist family.I met my husband in Mirc chat,the 1st day we chatted and that time is my husband had his military service holiday.of coz we cant chat evryday so that we exchange our msn address and decided to chat at msn is much more easy.We spent alot time to chat and Our feeling start become serious more than evryday.Here come to the time we exchange our pictures,guess what i lie him and sent him a Asian artist pictures to him,then he thought is me and since that time she start to talk with me with alot of sweet words as u guys knows After that we go on our date on net evry night until he had to went back his military service.That is the most suffer time for me,we cant chat online everyday,so we just sent mail to each other and due to his family relationship with the major in military,sometimes he allow to use mobile,so that i called him always.I worried and prayed everyday when he went for his duty,and his health problem when he did his military service and spent 2 months to stay in hospital...18 months is past for us,my husband finish his military service and he start to ask me visit him in Turkey.
I start to afraid and worried coz i lie him the truth of me,and i sure that if my family found out,sure they won't let me go Turkey.So i decided to tell him the truth that i lie him about the picture,he so mad by that time and asked me to buy a webcam by tomorrow coz he want to see my real faceif i didnt buy it,he ll give out our relationship.
Oh god..i have to show him my real face tomorrow,once i buy a webcam,and i chat with him online by using a webcam,thanks god he forgive me and told me that i look preety than the Asian artist i showed himAt the other side,he did sent me some money once he get his salary when he worked(he is a woman hair stylist in Istanbul)Our relationship almost 2 year,So he asked me to visit him in Turkey,he cant really be patient to have a long distance relationship anymore.We fought alot in phone coz i keep on delayed the time to visit him,i did tell him alot of different excuse like i cant apply my holiday from university,some more my dad keep my passport,how i going to get it from my dad?Than he decided to broke out with me..at that moment,i feel like i cant breath,it is the last day for me..i cant believe i lost him and i cant let it happend to me..
so i decided to tell my family about my husband,they so mad and get shocked and keep on asking me how i can meet a man which from middle east country(my famly think that Turkey is middle east country like those Arab country)I cant tell them we know from Mirc chat,and they wont understand about it.so i lie my family that i know my husband i university coz he study in Malaysia.And i tell them that i want to study at Turkey.My family not allow me to study in a "middle east" country,they ask me to study at Australia or UK,I cried everyday and fought with them evryday coz i want go Turkey to see my husband,if not my husband ll broke up with me..of coz i not tell them the truth,i tell them i want go istanbul to research the university at there and then i ll decide whether i want study at there or not.
As a parents,they cant see their daughter cried evryday and actually they can feel that i just want to go Istanbul to see my husband,and i think to study at there is just because i want to stay close with thim.Finally my dad allow me to go,and i went to Istanbul last October 2004
huh..12 hours flight to Turkey and i never meet this guy before,we just see each other pictures in internet..during the journey to Turkey,my heart beating so fast and worried whether this Turkish man ll treat me so bad or not...
Ahamduillah..once i reach Istanbul airport,i so nervous and feel lost coz cant find the exit door to go out and cant recognize which is the man i going to meet,once i go out,my husband and his brother waiting at the exit door.By that time i feel extreamly different that a Turkish man holding my hand while on the way go back his house.Turkish man is really so romantic and lovely,i see that some woman sell some rose on the street,couple beside the seaside..etc
When i reach my husband house,then only i realize he not tell his dad about me,my husband just tell his mom and his other sister and brother about me.HIs mom and his other sisters welcome me in front the door by greet "Hoş Geldiniz"(welcome) and kissed my cheek.It really can feel Turkish people are so lovely and their hospitality.6 days i spent in Istanbul,i loved and enjoyed Turkish food that Anne (mom)cook,i stayed in my husband's brother house.They are married and my husband's sister in law is just 18.I visited his(uncle's house ,work places,seaside,cafe,bar...etc)My husband family are really so lovely,religious,funny...even they dont know english,they ll talk with me by using a Turkish-English dictionaryand find each of evry words.
Oh ya,lets talk about baba(my father in law),he is a gentleman,serious and polite man.Even though he dont know english,he went to ask from their neighbour help which the woman is a english teacher to talk with me and want to know more about me.How lovely they are...When the time i went to Turkey,my husband and his mom thought i ll stay in Turkey and ll study at one of the university at there.I not tell my husband that my dad is already bought me a return ticket back to Malaysia,i hide this until the 2nd last day i back to Malaysia.
My husband bought me a lot sweather,shoes and some daily use things coz he thought i ll stay at there and wont back to my country.When the time he saw my return flight ticket,he so mad and think to give up this relationship again.He tell his family about this and his mom advice him to understand my situation.
Then i back to my country and think about whether i ll study at Istanbul or my husband ll come Malaysia to work.We did argue alot about this..At the end my husband decided come to Malaysia to start a new life with me until i graduate then we ll back to Turkey.All his family and friends dont like and think that he is so stupid to come Malaysia is just because a girl.
When the time he decided to come Malaysia,because he cant stay together with me,i did rent a house for him and get prepare evrything for him to stay in Malaysia.
He not listen what his family and friends said,he follow his heart and come to Malaysia,he come here with his pocket money left 50USD we decided to get married,my husband is a religious muslim,he want me to understand about islam then only think to convert,is not because of him then only i convert to be muslim.Before that,i had a muslim boyfriend,he did teach me about Islam,dunno y..the feeling for Islam is so different for me,i always think that i have always connect with Islam,for example:my dad business is all about deal with muslim people,i always like to search some information about Islam and read Quran..Alhamduillah,i am a muslim now.After he come to Malaysia,we decided to get married but cant let my family know because i not yet graduate,once they find out,they ll not pay my school fees and ll have alot of problem happen.(my family dont like muslim and they ll do some bad thing for my husband)unless i have to graduate from my university then i ll let them know.
We faced alot problems,for example,the process apply visa,process when i convert to be muslim,process when we get married,no financial support,find a job for my husband...
Almost 1 year now,my husband knows alot of turkish who had their own business in Malaysia,One fo the Turkish man help my husband to open a Hair saloon,the business is almost 4 months now,we still face some problems now..Insallah..evrything ll be fine soon..
I just feel that i so lucky that i had a Turkish husband in my life and so proud of him.For Turkish man,their wife is their "honour",they can sacrify themselves to protect their "honour".In their life,once they get married,they ll earn money for the family,to give a good life for their family.As a wife,you have to respect him and not allow to talk with any strangers in public places.Oh ya,u have to follow his intruction and not talk so much or ask him alot of question when he asked u to do so..
For me,as a foreign wife and daughter in law,because of different culture,language,lifestyle...i have to learn alot..
Insallah i can learn more about Islam,Turkish language,Turkish culture in order for me to communicate with my husband family when we stay in Turkey.
I really so proud to be a wife of Turkish man and have a lovely turkish family.Turkey is the most amazing country i ever met and i really wish to stay and start a new life in Turkey.Insallah..
Wish all couple have a happy life with their partner. |
