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Breaking up at Christmas
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25 Dec 2006 Mon 04:00 am |
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Have you ever passed through such a painful and sad experience?How did you cope with it?When did you eat and sleep normally again?
Why people get separated more and more recently..or is it because its happening with me and everywhere around me seems to me so?
I didnt mean to spoil the beautiful Christmas evening of all TC members,sorry guys.Just in case somebody is in the same boat I would be happy if you share some experience.Thank you.and again sorry for the gloomy topic,just cant help..
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25 Dec 2006 Mon 04:22 am |
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omg derya,i'm so sorry to hear this
My heart is with you Canım.
But think about it this way,if it was going to happen,then better it happen early than later.
And if it happened,then he is not the right one for you,and thank your lucky star it happened,so you can join with your one.
There is one there,some where,is waiting for you to be whole,and to make you whole too.
Maybe sound like a fairy tale thing,but its not.
There is one really for you Canım,for everyone of us.
Some don't meet at all,and think its just a fairy tale,
Some are more lucky,meet but either in the wrong time,or in the wrong place.
But at least they pass in each other life some how.
Others,are the luckiest,and they meet in the suitable time,and the suitable place.
İ know its painful,but as they say, when ever HE close a door,HE open a window.
So be sure there is one Canım,just find your right window.
Thank your lucky star,and pray to ALLAH,you be one of the luckiest ones.
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25 Dec 2006 Mon 04:29 am |
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Thank you VERY VERY much,my friend,with all my heart.Your reply found me crying.You are right in every single word you said.Maybe its not the best time of the year but better end of the torture than a torturous end.
We all find our way in life and I hope that he will find his one too.As for me I will get by somehow..thank you so much,you are giving me strength to be a survivor!
I appreciate a lot,CANLI!
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25 Dec 2006 Mon 04:41 am |
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No need to thank Canım,we here are friends,somehow we are,even we didn't meet,but we share.
Friendship,somehow same like love,is about sharing to some extent.
So cry Canım,as much as you want,crying wash your sorrow away by the time,and will give you peace.
But cry with a believe that everything inşallah will going to be fine,and everything is going to the best.
And just pray to ALLAH,we say,ALLAH is god of hearts,and he knows what is inside each one heart,and give us for what is in our hearts.
So pray for HİM,and be sure,you inşallah will find peace,and will find your window too 
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25 Dec 2006 Mon 08:34 am |
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Quoting derya:
Have you ever passed through such a painful and sad experience?How did you cope with it?When did you eat and sleep normally again?
Why people get separated more and more recently..or is it because its happening with me and everywhere around me seems to me so?
I didnt mean to spoil the beautiful Christmas evening of all TC members,sorry guys.Just in case somebody is in the same boat I would be happy if you share some experience.Thank you.and again sorry for the gloomy topic,just cant help.. |
Derya, why don't you say the real reasons? Why did he break up with you? Why don't you tell them that he did this cause you are a liar? Why don't you explain these? Why don't you tell them you cheated him with another guy?
But CANLI is right,YOU ARE NOT THE RIGHT PERSON FOR HIM.How can you ask that 'why its happening with me' answer is clear,you have psychological problems,yes you are sick.Some people say greed,some say dissatisfaction or disloyalty or deceit for this sickness. And you know what,there is no cure for this!
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25 Dec 2006 Mon 10:41 am |
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Quoting derya:
Have you ever passed through such a painful and sad experience?How did you cope with it?When did you eat and sleep normally again?
Why people get separated more and more recently..or is it because its happening with me and everywhere around me seems to me so?
I didnt mean to spoil the beautiful Christmas evening of all TC members,sorry guys.Just in case somebody is in the same boat I would be happy if you share some experience.Thank you.and again sorry for the gloomy topic,just cant help.. |
Well I didn't break up at Christmas, but I was left one and a half year ago, so even not that recent. Do I miss my ex? No way, I hardly think about that creep. But I just miss someone around, that arm around my shoulder, especially these days when everybody is getting together. Yesterday I watched a romantic television show called 'All you need is love' (I know I shouldn't have done that) where lovers from all over the world are reunited for Christmas at the expense of the broadcasting company (and they take the hassle of visa as well!). It made me weep. Dark days in December are perfectly for being cosy together, like I always did when I was together and now? Yes, Derya I recognise your feelings! Wish you strenght.
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25 Dec 2006 Mon 11:29 am |
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Thank you all for giving me your support.Surely I did some mistakes,I had and still have some problems.As hexagon00 said maybe I am a sick person.Maybe he is right.But its not the place and the time when I should explain details about the way things are.The only thing I will say is that yes,I lied,but I didnt cheat because my heart is loving. But I have never been rude or evil to anybody.I didnt want things to end up like this.But eventually they ended so the only thing one can do is NOT to nurture bad feelings and keep the good memories.
In this beautiful Christmas day I asked God to forgive me and to make me wiser.and my soul is at rest,because I know that God forgives.
Merry Christmas to everybody and thank you for being so nice and responding to people`s trouble!
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25 Dec 2006 Mon 11:38 am |
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Nehir kendi mecrasında akar.
Said by the most wise man i know,and its so true.
Wish you both patience,and wish from ALLAH,to calm the winds,and the volcano which is boiling inside .
And find the peace,which may lead to forgivingness,and understanding,if there is any !
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25 Dec 2006 Mon 12:02 pm |
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Quoting derya: Thank you all for giving me your support.Surely I did some mistakes,I had and still have some problems.As hexagon00 said maybe I am a sick person.Maybe he is right.But its not the place and the time when I should explain details about the way things are.The only thing I will say is that yes,I lied,but I didnt cheat because my heart is loving. But I have never been rude or evil to anybody.I didnt want things to end up like this.But eventually they ended so the only thing one can do is NOT to nurture bad feelings and keep the good memories.
In this beautiful Christmas day I asked God to forgive me and to make me wiser.and my soul is at rest,because I know that God forgives.
Merry Christmas to everybody and thank you for being so nice and responding to people`s trouble!
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Can you explain to me what is the meaning of cheating for you?
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25 Dec 2006 Mon 12:55 pm |
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is hexagon not the same guy in derya's pictures :-S..neway derya these are for you  and if hexagon is the guy then these are for him too
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25 Dec 2006 Mon 01:22 pm |
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Quoting robyn  : is hexagon not the same guy in derya's pictures :-S..neway derya these are for you and if hexagon is the guy then these are for him too |
I am sure both people will be so happy you pointed this out to everyone.... 
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26 Dec 2006 Tue 06:05 pm |
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Quoting robyn : neway |
Can't find this word in the dictionary :-S
As for the breakup - perhaps this is not the place to air all the details , but aside that hope it all works out anyway
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26 Dec 2006 Tue 06:30 pm |
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Quoting libralady: Quoting robyn : neway |
Can't find this word in the dictionary :-S |
It's English slang for "anyway" 
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26 Dec 2006 Tue 07:41 pm |
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yeh it is.sorry i do have an odd moment or two
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26 Dec 2006 Tue 11:39 pm |
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Quoting kai
It's English slang for "anyway" [/QUOTE:
I was being facetious!!
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26 Dec 2006 Tue 11:41 pm |
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Quoting Capoeira: Quoting robyn : yeh it is.sorry i do have an odd moment or two |
Canim...only one or two odd moments?!?!?!?!    |
of course my dear
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28 Dec 2006 Thu 11:28 pm |
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I think I'm a few days late for this post. But I know from experience breaking up is hard to do for whatever the reasons maybe. Sounds like Derya you have admitted to some of the fault, however don't be so hard on yourself. Things happen for a purpose, I believe God has a plan for everyone. No one is perfect and you admitted to your faults, so just pick yourself up and time will heal everything. The key is to learn from your mistakes, so in the future you will be much wiser. Good Luck and Happy New Year!
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28 Dec 2006 Thu 11:38 pm |
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Quoting teaschip: Things happen for a purpose, I believe God has a plan for everyone. |
Not to interfere too much or sway off topic, but according to the modern understanding of God, he does NOT control us or have any plans for us, other then letting us live the way we choose to. The only thing that might have happened for a purpose would be letting us come to existence as part of a bigger plan, but our mortality is governed by physical laws, with the only purpose being what WE set these laws to.
Sorry Derya about your break-up. This must be a great disappointment for you, as I remember you saying that he was your love and your best friend and he was saying that you were his babe.
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29 Dec 2006 Fri 12:28 am |
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Quoting catwoman: Quoting teaschip: Things happen for a purpose, I believe God has a plan for everyone. |
Not to interfere too much or sway off topic, but according to the modern understanding of God, he does NOT control us or have any plans for us, other then letting us live the way we choose to. The only thing that might have happened for a purpose would be letting us come to existence as part of a bigger plan, but our mortality is governed by physical laws, with the only purpose being what WE set these laws to.
Sorry Derya about your break-up. This must be a great disappointment for you, as I remember you saying that he was your love and your best friend and he was saying that you were his babe. |
Sorry catwoman I don't agree with this at all. I do believe there is a plan and I also believe in faith. Let me raise these questions to you then. "Do you believe people are born with God gifted talents? For instance, Einstein, Michael Angelo,Beethoven,Famous athletes etc..? Do you not think that God had a purpose for these people with extradornary talents and abilities or was this luck for them? What about when a child or baby dies, when there is no scientific reason or logic. Is this not in God's plan or just bad luck?
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29 Dec 2006 Fri 01:08 am |
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Quoting teaschip: Sorry catwoman I don't agree with this at all. I do believe there is a plan and I also believe in faith. Let me raise these questions to you then. "Do you believe people are born with God gifted talents? For instance, Einstein, Michael Angelo,Beethoven,Famous athletes etc..? Do you not think that God had a purpose for these people with extradornary talents and abilities or was this luck for them? What about when a child or baby dies, when there is no scientific reason or logic. Is this not in God's plan or just bad luck? |
Teaschip... this is not the time or place for this debate.
If you want to continue this discussion, let's do it somewhere else or pm me.
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29 Dec 2006 Fri 01:14 am |
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Quoting catwoman: But, don't answer me these questions with "faith" or "because someone/something said so", that's an insult to my mind and there's no point talking.
If you want to continue this discussion, let's do it somewhere else or pm me. |
Catwoman, I have no firm religious belief so have no views on this. However, I do think its unfair when you post something which is very controversial to some people and do not allow them to reply in the same forum, only by PM.
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29 Dec 2006 Fri 01:20 am |
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Quoting aenigma x: Catwoman, I have no firm religious belief so have no views on this. However, I do think its unfair when you post something which is very controversial to some people and do not allow them to reply in the same forum, only by PM. |
Why Aenigma? Do you consider this a fight and want to see who gave the last punch? This place is not appropriate for such discussions to begin with, I made a mistake initiating it.
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29 Dec 2006 Fri 01:22 am |
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Quoting catwoman: Why Aenigma? Do you consider this a fight and want to see who gave the last punch? This place is not appropriate for such discussions to begin with, I made a mistake initiating it. |
No I don't consider it a fight at all, but if you question someone's faith I think they should be allowed to reply. Dont worry I won't post on this further.
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29 Dec 2006 Fri 01:24 am |
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Quoting catwoman: Do you consider this a fight and want to see who gave the last punch? |
just wanted to say what a perfect question! not only in discussions but also in daily life... people love to have the "Last Word"
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29 Dec 2006 Fri 01:25 am |
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İ guess fair enough to give her the chance to state her opinion too.
İts not fight,its a debate,and got nothing to do with the differences between religions so we can consider it talking about religions,its about the idea of being.
So i guess its fair to give her the chance to reply too.
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29 Dec 2006 Fri 01:32 am |
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Quoting aenigma x: Quoting catwoman: But, don't answer me these questions with "faith" or "because someone/something said so", that's an insult to my mind and there's no point talking.
If you want to continue this discussion, let's do it somewhere else or pm me. |
Catwoman, I have no firm religious belief so have no views on this. However, I do think its unfair when you post something which is very controversial to some people and do not allow them to reply in the same forum, only by PM. |
however, i do think here Aenigma is quite right... lets admit that we are going always offtopic in every topic easily... so why not here...
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29 Dec 2006 Fri 01:36 am |
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Quoting SuiGeneris: Quoting aenigma x: Quoting catwoman: But, don't answer me these questions with "faith" or "because someone/something said so", that's an insult to my mind and there's no point talking.
If you want to continue this discussion, let's do it somewhere else or pm me. |
Catwoman, I have no firm religious belief so have no views on this. However, I do think its unfair when you post something which is very controversial to some people and do not allow them to reply in the same forum, only by PM. |
however, i do think here Aenigma is quite right... lets admit that we are going always offtopic in every topic easily... so why not here... |
maybe she doesn't believe in religion..it seems that posts slating(negatively discussing) religion are always welcomed but those supporting religion are stopped..just my opinion..
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29 Dec 2006 Fri 01:40 am |
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I deleted my reply to Teaschip and she has the last word now. It was wrong to start this topic, sorry about it.
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29 Dec 2006 Fri 01:40 am |
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Quoting robyn :
maybe she doesn't believe in religion..it seems that posts slating(negatively discussing) religion are always welcomed but those supporting religion are stopped..just my opinion.. |
oh come on, where did she(teaschip) say that... "lets go to church or budha temple and pray"
teaschip just stated her opinion... about "destiny"
and catwoman said about hers about that...
and where is "freedom of speech"???
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29 Dec 2006 Fri 01:50 am |
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Quoting SuiGeneris: Quoting robyn :
maybe she doesn't believe in religion..it seems that posts slating(negatively discussing) religion are always welcomed but those supporting religion are stopped..just my opinion.. |
oh come on, where did she(teaschip) say that... "lets go to church or budha temple and pray"
teaschip just stated her opinion... about "destiny"
and catwoman said about hers about that...
and where is "freedom of speech"??? |
u misunderstood my post..i meant that posts supporeting religion such as that by teaschip are stopped whereas others discussing religion in a negative manner are continued..neyse iyi geceler kendinize iyi bakin...
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29 Dec 2006 Fri 01:52 am |
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Quoting robyn : Quoting SuiGeneris: Quoting robyn :
maybe she doesn't believe in religion..it seems that posts slating(negatively discussing) religion are always welcomed but those supporting religion are stopped..just my opinion.. |
oh come on, where did she(teaschip) say that... "lets go to church or budha temple and pray"
teaschip just stated her opinion... about "destiny"
and catwoman said about hers about that...
and where is "freedom of speech"??? |
u misunderstood my post..i meant that posts supporeting religion such as that by teaschip are stopped whereas others discussing religion in a negative manner are continued..neyse iyi geceler kendinize iyi bakin... |
Yes I did notice you were both arguing for the same point ! Anyway (neways ) shall we drop this subject now?
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29 Dec 2006 Fri 02:38 am |
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Quoting robyn : u misunderstood my post..i meant that posts supporeting religion such as that by teaschip are stopped whereas others discussing religion in a negative manner are continued..neyse iyi geceler kendinize iyi bakin... |
you are right "propaganda and support" are different...
i understood it like supporting a football team i guess...
as i am not a strong believer about religion though there is sth looking us above energy or god or how you call it...
however, talking about religion is not a problem... some support some dont... this shouldnt block talking
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08 Jan 2007 Mon 12:46 pm |
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Hi dear members,
just wanted to say big thanks for everybody who replied and supported me in that hard moment. I dont fancy the idea about revealing facts from my personal life either but I needed to break free this turmoil of emotions piling up in me.
The only thing I will say is that we were together at New Years Eve and talked a lot about the problems.I guess we managed to work it out.It was a good lesson for me and somehow this gave a brush up to our relationship.And I am his happily grinning babe againMagic happens everyday..I am not that kind of supersticous apprehensive girl but it feels so good wright now that I just cant help saying Allah nazardan saklasın! Thank you to all!
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