There is nothing in this world as wonderful as falling in love, but when we let ourselves fall in love without knowing the other person - we only open up for making ourselves hurt. And that have so very little to do with the other person being good or bad, I believe.

I don´t believe in love at first sight... I think that I only sense a huge attraction at first...which can be physical or psychological and respond to many things in me. To fall in love for real requires a knowledge about the person I fall in love with...if not I will only fall in love with my own reflection and my own desire - and my own wish to fall in love.

I think that it is easy to get confused by a normal (maybe inmense) attraction and want it to be love...since falling in love is so wonderful! I don´t know about you in this case...so I am not the one to give advices...but I can recognize being in similar situations in the past...

My advice is: Really be careful about the job and money thing. How old is he? Why doesn't he have a job, and looking for a winter job? You know if you're not educated enough or don't have enough qualities, finding a proper and stable job stand always as a very big problem. His mother ofcourse wants him to get married, every mother does, but maybe you're seen as an opportunity for them. Don't look at the situation just as a love issue, alas sometimes people do things to have a better life (especially when you're living in an socially unbalanced country). I think you're wise enough to protect yourself, and when you go to see him in february I think all the things will be clearer, and you will be able to make up your mind better.

Thank you mltm (and for your past translations!). Believe me, I am NOT a fool. All through this relationship I have questioned everything to myself and been VERY cautious with him. I do not even know yet if I will go to see him in February. My concern is for the past week or so - this sudden wish to marry me does seem to coincide with his sudden lack of money! Also, I am not a very young girl (I am not OLD, but you know what I mean) and we stayed in a very good hotel, so he knows I have a good career and money. I think it is a shame, because despite all, I was very attracted to him and we had fun together.

Hi class mates!!!! I am soo lost. I really need help in learning how to use this site...

It seems to be an interesting site. But how would I learn Turkish?? Where do I have to go in this site? I am a new user..


Thank you

Kelebek

He doesn't have money at the moment (for me it means he will not have money in the future, too) because he doesn't have a stable job. If you have a career, it means that you have some high education and I suspect if he has one. It's a social wound, but there are millions of people like him here.I don't see these people lower than me, you can find them attractive too but I can never think of having a relation with one of them. It's sad but it's the realty. Believe that in Turkey no woman like you with a career and money would get married to him, so why would you get married?
Anyway don't leave him now, stay in contact. Be sure that he isn't for you.
(this is what I think

Thank you again mtlm. I don't wish to get married, TO ANYONE, for years! I am not looking for a husband, so he won't persuade me otherwise! You have helped me very much with your comments though - I don't want to hurt him, but I don't feel the same way as he "says" he feels about me. I hope this will end without problems...

Oh, then good. I thought you were looking for someone to marry. Then it will be very easy, you will just let him know that you won't marry someone in the next ten years every time he mentions marriage So, he'll understand that he won't get anything he wants to get from you (if he wants) and he will start to search for someone else.

I think all my first instincts are confirmed by you all. Instincts like those are easily hidden by romantic words, but my head must rule my heart. I think I will end this before it becomes a problem.

Every day on this site I read messages from girls (never boys you notice!) and all the messages are the same. They are all invited out to visit...there is a proposal..and so on. I want to scream at them "you fools"!! But I am so stupid I didn't notice that I am exactly the same!

It makes me so sad though. Not so sad for the loss of this man, or of love (love is everywhere!) as for my sadness of losing my faith in people's integrity. I loved Turkey so much I can shut my eyes and smell it's rich scent and hear it's melody but right now this man represents Turkey and it has deceived me. I am not a fool, and yet we English appear to be thought of as such because we believe people are being honest. It is very sad.

i think that u should just sit down and talk it all through with him... he is definitely going to fast.. and if u let him kno that he could lose u if he carries on this way.. im sure he will understand that its time to slow down...
dont just leave him straight away..! u should always fight for things in life... cant u just see how it goes? he obviosuly truely loves u very much, otherwise wouldnt want to marry you and start a family eh?

Chris,
This is for you and all of us I think.

MADNESS

To hate all roses
Because you got scratched with one thorn...
To give up on your dreams
Because one didn't come true...
To lose faith in prayers
Because one was not answered...
To give up on your efforts
Because one of them failed...
To condemn all your friends
Because one betrayed you...
Not belive in love
Because someone was unfaitful or didn't love you back...
To throw away all your chances to be happy
Because you did not succeed on the first attemt...
I hope as you go on your way
You don't give in to madness
Remembering always...
Another chance may come up
Another friend
A new LOVE
A renewed strength
Be persistent
Look for happiness in every day.

The sure path to failure is to give up!
It is often through failure that future success comes -
KEEP TRYING!

In your case , Chris I will say in russian "Svet klinom na nem ne soshelsya" - The world did not stop on him. Search!
Good luck!

thats a very touching piece bliss... thanks for sharing that!