thats a very touching piece bliss... thanks for sharing that!

I have a little saying: "Love that comes quickly, goes quickly."

Bliss, thank you very much for this poem... Very touching, indeed.

i can relate with your situation chris. i went through the same when me and my turkish bf were starting our relationship. you see, i think it is typical for tutkish guys to treat their gf's or wives as their possession. a lot of time he is telling me that i belong to him. at first i don't mind, it even give me feeling of security. but in the latter days of our relationship, i started to loose confidence in myself. it's making me feel that i am making mistakes all the time, i could no longer think properly, my work is getting affected too. ia m keeping it all by myself because i don't want him to feel bad and i am trying to be patient and understanding all the time. but it is not good for me, he is thinking that everything is ok while all those time i am suffering. one day, maybe i reached the limit of my patience, i opened up everything to him. i told him everything that's been bothering me and how it is making me unhappy with the relationship. i even told him that because of this suffocation i am considering breaking up with him. that confrontation made him realized that in a relationship it has to be mutual. give and take. after everything gets along well for both of us. we learned to compromise. remember in a relationship it's your lives not as individuals but as a couple. try to think things over gurl!
good luck!!!

Yes, you are right annalovesmed.

True Love is "WE" instead of "ME".

Look here: http://www.turkishclass.com/forumTitle_23_487
We have poem here regarding this.

Chris123: I'm pleased you treat this man with reservations.
You got good advice from a Turk following your question. He obviously knows how they think.

I walked along the street a few years in Gumbet and you know the hassle outside the shops and bars. The boys that stood there and said their girlfriend was English and she was pregnant. They seemed very pleased about this. By the time I got to the other end. Alarm bells started to ring, were they getting them pregnant purposely. This was one way of having them. A lot have been got married and it hasn't worked out. Does this mean they have dual passport, I think, yes. Not sure of legal procedure.

Then I started thinking, do they get the Turkish girls pregnant, does this happen, is it to this extent!

Something I notice, because of buying properties, they are very, very nice, to get the business, and when asking for money in advance. Once they have your money, they can become a bit intimidating and in charge. As you know, our system is quite different. The customer is always right.

Having been a lot of times. I can say I am more wary now than I've ever been. I always look for the underlying motive.

hiya Chris123. im in a really similar situation to you.met a nice turkish man in May and we spent two weeks together.i like him but was just taking it all with a typical english laid back attitude and the next thing i know he is sending me texts proposing marriage,talking of meeting parents and true love...its all too much too soon i am scared to death!im only 23 and wouldnt consider marrying someone until i had known them for quite a long time.i am considering ending it,but finding it hard to pluck up the courage to do it getting a lot of texts saying .."i hope you are not cheating on me" i know how you are feeling. its confusing.good luck in whatever you decide love Charlotte XXX

I had decided not to come back to this website again(!) but have just read all your posts and think you are all wonderful!!! Have to go now, but will be back!