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a foreign wife for a turkish man
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:05 pm |
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Quoting Melnikaite: Quoting robyn  :
i did..i'm not living in turkey with him, we live here, men are men no matter where they come from and just because my husband acts in certain ways doesnt mean othe turkish men would do the same..do you see what i am trying to say now? |
Robin, your case is differnt i guess. He( your husband) has to ged adopted to british life not you to turkish. He has to behave according to british life style. U mentioned once that your kid isnt even muslim. But I guess if you move to Turkey, u will be not so much independent.Correct me if im wrong. |
yes you are wrong im afraid.he hasnt adapted to britiash lifestyle at all,he has no chance as he eats, drinks,works and socialises with only turkish ppl.n im not that indeoendent here either..i find it sad that you are in a relationship with a turkish man whilst trying to uhold these stereotypes..just my opinion and i dont mean to offend but being with any man(not just turkish) does not mean that you have to lose your independence. i just hope u realise that, we are not property or here to be told what to or not to as i am begininning to realise,
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:07 pm |
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Quoting aenigma x: Quoting robyn : ...men are men no matter where they come from ... |
What a sexist comment!!! Men are all different and have different qualities from eachother. |
thats not what i meant..i mean why should problems with my husband be taken as problems for all turkish men..i hope thats apparent now..
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:11 pm |
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As for me, the hardest point of being a foreifn wife for a turkish family - is dependence on my future husband..lack of work and lack of turkish.Knowing English isnt a priority..
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:12 pm |
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Quoting robyn : Quoting aenigma x: Quoting robyn : ...men are men no matter where they come from ... |
What a sexist comment!!! Men are all different and have different qualities from eachother. |
thats not what i meant..i mean why should problems with my husband be taken as problems for all turkish men..i hope thats apparent now.. |
That's not what you said though 
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:16 pm |
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I do agree that there is a basic cultural difference which needs to be thought through very careful before you would consider marriage.
In general, from what I have seen, there is a very different attitude to what is expected of a wife in Turkey compared to the UK. In the UK it is very much an equal partership where you agree on your shared goals, whether you want children and who will take care of them (many of my friends husbands are house-husbands and take care of the house and children - unheard of in Turkey as far as I am aware!!!)
In Turkey (while I hate to generalise) I think there are certain things which would "expected" of you.
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:17 pm |
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Quoting aenigma x: Quoting robyn : Quoting aenigma x: Quoting robyn : ...men are men no matter where they come from ... |
What a sexist comment!!! Men are all different and have different qualities from eachother. |
thats not what i meant..i mean why should problems with my husband be taken as problems for all turkish men..i hope thats apparent now.. |
That's not what you said though |
it depends upon the viewpoint u adopt when u r reading the sentence.. i guess with ur critical,analytical mind u just look for things to criticise 
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:17 pm |
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Quoting aenigma x: Quoting robyn : Quoting aenigma x: Quoting robyn : ...men are men no matter where they come from ... |
What a sexist comment!!! Men are all different and have different qualities from eachother. |
thats not what i meant..i mean why should problems with my husband be taken as problems for all turkish men..i hope thats apparent now.. |
That's not what you said though |
it depends upon the viewpoint u adopt when u r reading the sentence.. i guess with ur critical,analytical mind u just look for things to criticise
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:19 pm |
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Quoting robyn : it depends upon the viewpoint u adopt when u r reading the sentence.. i guess with ur critical,analytical mind u just look for things to criticise |
Thank you for the compliment
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:24 pm |
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Quoting aenigma x: Quoting robyn : it depends upon the viewpoint u adopt when u r reading the sentence.. i guess with ur critical,analytical mind u just look for things to criticise |
Thank you for the compliment |
no problems
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:32 pm |
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Quoting robyn : Quoting Melnikaite: Quoting robyn :
i just hope u realise that, we are not property or here to be told what to or not to as i am begininning to realise, |
Robin, i didnt mean that marriage is losing right..but u have to admit that while taking a decison the husband"s opinion counts more. An i impled that wizout knwing turkish language, wizout having a job how can u be that independent..even if u love a person..Im not 18y.o..I scared that one day he will reject my request for something( like visting my parents or calling home regulary) |
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:37 pm |
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Quoting Melnikaite: Quoting robyn : Quoting Melnikaite: Quoting robyn :
i just hope u realise that, we are not property or here to be told what to or not to as i am begininning to realise, |
Robin, i didnt mean that marriage is losing right..but u have to admit that while taking a decison the husband"s opinion counts more. An i impled that wizout knwing turkish language, wizout having a job how can u be that independent..even if u love a person..Im not 18y.o..I scared that one day he will reject my request for something( like visting my parents or calling home regulary) |
i dont request things like that..a marriage should be equal and i am now learning that my opinion matters to so even if okkes disagrees with something i will do it .if i really want to do something i will do it, and for your information i also supported him when was out of work, if i want money i take it because we r equal. and soon i will work whilst he looks after our daughter..so thats your answerif he rejects a request 2 visit your family then he is not concerned enough about you in my opinion.
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