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a foreign wife for a turkish man
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 08:24 am |
I would like to know the ideas of foreign women married to turkisn men. what problems they faced or still facing?So interesting to share opinions wiz females living in Istanbul. I am from Belarus and soon coming to Turkey. Thanx in advance.
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 09:07 am |
Quoting Melnikaite: I would like to know the ideas of foreign women married to turkisn men. what problems they faced or still facing?So interesting to share opinions wiz females living in Istanbul. I am from Belarus and soon coming to Turkey. Thanx in advance.
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the usual problems that men bring with them..
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 09:14 am |
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 09:35 am |
Actually i expected to hear experince of the ladies who moved to Turkey their first months of staying.just replying to a new topic in forum is nice but if you add something from your experience i would appreciate it much.
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 09:49 am |
Quoting Melnikaite: Actually i expected to hear experince of the ladies who moved to Turkey their first months of staying.just replying to a new topic in forum is nice but if you add something from your experience i would appreciate it much. |
i did..i'm not living in turkey with him, we live here, men are men no matter where they come from and just because my husband acts in certain ways doesnt mean othe turkish men would do the same..do you see what i am trying to say now?
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 09:49 am |
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 11:59 am |
Quoting robyn :
i did..i'm not living in turkey with him, we live here, men are men no matter where they come from and just because my husband acts in certain ways doesnt mean othe turkish men would do the same..do you see what i am trying to say now? |
Robin, your case is differnt i guess. He( your husband) has to ged adopted to british life not you to turkish. He has to behave according to british life style. U mentioned once that your kid isnt even muslim. But I guess if you move to Turkey, u will be not so much independent.Correct me if im wrong.
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:04 pm |
Quoting robyn : ...men are men no matter where they come from ... |
What a sexist comment!!! Men are all different and have different qualities from eachother.
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:05 pm |
Quoting susie k: The best advice really is to get friendly with some Turkish girls - who must be recommended by your partner - then they will explain their customs and ways to you, it can be very upsetting otherwise because people may disapprove of you for doing something completely natural!
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Susie k, thanx for reply. Do you really belive that it is possible to get friendly wiz turkish girls?We, foreign wives, are supposed to steal "good turks" from the turkish girls? Did u manage to become friendly wiz any turkish female? especially single? I managed but only wiz married one |
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:05 pm |
Quoting Melnikaite: Quoting robyn :
i did..i'm not living in turkey with him, we live here, men are men no matter where they come from and just because my husband acts in certain ways doesnt mean othe turkish men would do the same..do you see what i am trying to say now? |
Robin, your case is differnt i guess. He( your husband) has to ged adopted to british life not you to turkish. He has to behave according to british life style. U mentioned once that your kid isnt even muslim. But I guess if you move to Turkey, u will be not so much independent.Correct me if im wrong. |
yes you are wrong im afraid.he hasnt adapted to britiash lifestyle at all,he has no chance as he eats, drinks,works and socialises with only turkish ppl.n im not that indeoendent here either..i find it sad that you are in a relationship with a turkish man whilst trying to uhold these stereotypes..just my opinion and i dont mean to offend but being with any man(not just turkish) does not mean that you have to lose your independence. i just hope u realise that, we are not property or here to be told what to or not to as i am begininning to realise,
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:07 pm |
Quoting aenigma x: Quoting robyn : ...men are men no matter where they come from ... |
What a sexist comment!!! Men are all different and have different qualities from eachother. |
thats not what i meant..i mean why should problems with my husband be taken as problems for all turkish men..i hope thats apparent now..
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:11 pm |
As for me, the hardest point of being a foreifn wife for a turkish family - is dependence on my future husband..lack of work and lack of turkish.Knowing English isnt a priority..
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:12 pm |
Quoting robyn : Quoting aenigma x: Quoting robyn : ...men are men no matter where they come from ... |
What a sexist comment!!! Men are all different and have different qualities from eachother. |
thats not what i meant..i mean why should problems with my husband be taken as problems for all turkish men..i hope thats apparent now.. |
That's not what you said though
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:16 pm |
I do agree that there is a basic cultural difference which needs to be thought through very careful before you would consider marriage.
In general, from what I have seen, there is a very different attitude to what is expected of a wife in Turkey compared to the UK. In the UK it is very much an equal partership where you agree on your shared goals, whether you want children and who will take care of them (many of my friends husbands are house-husbands and take care of the house and children - unheard of in Turkey as far as I am aware!!!)
In Turkey (while I hate to generalise) I think there are certain things which would "expected" of you.
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:17 pm |
Quoting aenigma x: Quoting robyn : Quoting aenigma x: Quoting robyn : ...men are men no matter where they come from ... |
What a sexist comment!!! Men are all different and have different qualities from eachother. |
thats not what i meant..i mean why should problems with my husband be taken as problems for all turkish men..i hope thats apparent now.. |
That's not what you said though |
it depends upon the viewpoint u adopt when u r reading the sentence.. i guess with ur critical,analytical mind u just look for things to criticise
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:17 pm |
Quoting aenigma x: Quoting robyn : Quoting aenigma x: Quoting robyn : ...men are men no matter where they come from ... |
What a sexist comment!!! Men are all different and have different qualities from eachother. |
thats not what i meant..i mean why should problems with my husband be taken as problems for all turkish men..i hope thats apparent now.. |
That's not what you said though |
it depends upon the viewpoint u adopt when u r reading the sentence.. i guess with ur critical,analytical mind u just look for things to criticise
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:19 pm |
Quoting robyn : it depends upon the viewpoint u adopt when u r reading the sentence.. i guess with ur critical,analytical mind u just look for things to criticise |
Thank you for the compliment
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:24 pm |
Quoting aenigma x: Quoting robyn : it depends upon the viewpoint u adopt when u r reading the sentence.. i guess with ur critical,analytical mind u just look for things to criticise |
Thank you for the compliment |
no problems
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:32 pm |
Quoting robyn : Quoting Melnikaite: Quoting robyn :
i just hope u realise that, we are not property or here to be told what to or not to as i am begininning to realise, |
Robin, i didnt mean that marriage is losing right..but u have to admit that while taking a decison the husband"s opinion counts more. An i impled that wizout knwing turkish language, wizout having a job how can u be that independent..even if u love a person..Im not 18y.o..I scared that one day he will reject my request for something( like visting my parents or calling home regulary) |
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:37 pm |
Quoting Melnikaite: Quoting robyn : Quoting Melnikaite: Quoting robyn :
i just hope u realise that, we are not property or here to be told what to or not to as i am begininning to realise, |
Robin, i didnt mean that marriage is losing right..but u have to admit that while taking a decison the husband"s opinion counts more. An i impled that wizout knwing turkish language, wizout having a job how can u be that independent..even if u love a person..Im not 18y.o..I scared that one day he will reject my request for something( like visting my parents or calling home regulary) |
i dont request things like that..a marriage should be equal and i am now learning that my opinion matters to so even if okkes disagrees with something i will do it .if i really want to do something i will do it, and for your information i also supported him when was out of work, if i want money i take it because we r equal. and soon i will work whilst he looks after our daughter..so thats your answerif he rejects a request 2 visit your family then he is not concerned enough about you in my opinion.
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:42 pm |
Quoting aenigma x: I In the UK it is very much an equal partership where you agree on your shared goals, whether you want children and who will take care of them (many of my friends husbands are house-husbands and take care of the house and children - unheard of in Turkey as far as I am aware!!!)
In Turkey (while I hate to generalise) I think there are certain things which would "expected" of you.
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torally agree wiz u Aenigma. Just a sample. I asekde A female turkish friend of mine: Are you gonna buy a new digi-cam? The girl replies( they r just engaged not married): My husband says we dont need it now...The couple is abt 30 years old.
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:50 pm |
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i dont request things like that..a marriage should be equal and i am now learning that my opinion matters to so even if okkes disagrees with something i will do it .if i really want to do something i will do it, and for your information i also supported him when was out of work, if i want money i take it because we r equal. and soon i will work whilst he looks after our daughter..so thats your answerif he rejects a request 2 visit your family then he is not concerned enough about you in my opinion.
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Can i ask u, how many times did ur husband visit his family in Turkey?I have many samples when girls got married to turkish men and afterwards for years cant visit their parents or cant attend courses of turkish just using spoken turkish..Coz their men claim : Honey, we cant afford it..And the most surprising GIRLS ACCEPT IT
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:51 pm |
Quoting Melnikaite: torally agree wiz u Aenigma. Just a sample. I asekde A female turkish friend of mine: Are you gonna buy a new digi-cam? The girl replies( they r just engaged not married): My husband says we dont need it now...The couple is abt 30 years old. |
OMG!! Now THAT is the kind of thing I would not be able to cope with!
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 12:55 pm |
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i dont request things like that..a marriage should be equal and i am now learning that my opinion matters to so even if okkes disagrees with something i will do it .if i really want to do something i will do it, and for your information i also supported him when was out of work, if i want money i take it because we r equal. and soon i will work whilst he looks after our daughter..so thats your answerif he rejects a request 2 visit your family then he is not concerned enough about you in my opinion.
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Can i ask u, how many times did ur husband visit his family in Turkey?I have many samples when girls got married to turkish men and afterwards for years cant visit their parents or cant attend courses of turkish just using spoken turkish..Coz their men claim : Honey, we cant afford it..And the most surprising GIRLS ACCEPT IT |
we have never gone to turkey together,only been together 2 years,he has uncles and aunts here who i met very quickly and we are going to turkey for the first time this summer.and i have no interest in attending a turkish course as i simply dont have the time when i start my new job not to mention the fact they are not available in my area.
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 01:07 pm |
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 01:15 pm |
"I feel like I have to change my personality to be accepted here. I just want to be myself.†I was listening to my European friend complaining that yet again her bubbly personality had got her into difficulties with strangers. What had upset her most was that her Turkish girlfriends weren’t sympathetic to her plight. Laughter liberates and laughter uplifts. When we learn to laugh at our mistakes, and learn from them, nothing is too difficult. Many of our bookstore customers express how frustrating it is to learn the language. If they have time I share with them some of the mistakes I have made while learning Turkish. One example is: I wanted to get out of the dolmuş in Şişli and I meant to say the standard phrase, “İnecek var!†(Literally: There is a person who wants to get out.) Instead, to the bewilderment of the driver and my fellow passengers I called out, “İnek var!†(There is a cow!)
Have you noticed that Turkish people usually do not tend to shout or talk loudly in public like some nationalities?
A group of friends in a tea-house or restaurant will enjoy sharing a good joke, sometimes at each other’s expense. Turks will enjoy a comedy program on TV, pulling the leg of a friend, or sharing a joke on their cell phone. But uproarious laughter is not commonly seen in public: e.g., in shopping malls, on the ferry, walking down the street.
This is hard for many foreigners who are used to smiling when they walk down the street or having a good laugh anywhere when something funny strikes them.
It is important to make some adjustments in life to fit in to our new culture: This may include being a bit more serious when walking down the street. Tip: to avoid unwanted attention, it is best not to smile and not speak in a loud voice. Watch what Turks do; particularly if you are a woman, watch how Turkish women behave. This may be very important to help you avoid a problem. For example, a woman walking down the street smiling, especially if she is alone, may unwittingly send the wrong signals to the opposite sex.
It is important to laugh in certain settings:
If jokes are being told and have been translated from one language to another, if at all possible, try to laugh at the punch line, even if the Turkish joke hasn’t “made it†when told in English!
Don’t be too hard on yourself. Laugh when you make mistakes. When in another culture, we are learners.
When a situation arises, and it is out of your control, try to see the humor.
The other day, I had an appointment at a school. I arrived at the school on time but I could not get pass the security gate because there had been an electric cut and the gate would not go up so vehicles could pass. School buses were lined up inside the parking lot, with children to be taken to other campuses, and could not get out. Cars began to line up behind me needing to go in to the parking lot. Not to be any later, some children who were brought by their drivers or parents, just jumped out of the cars and ran towards the school building. Yes, there is lots of modern technology around, but electricity is still the power supply and needed.
Instead of fuming or getting frustrated, try to find the humor!"
by Charlotte McPherson, "Laughter- not in public", Today`s Zaman, 05.01.2006
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 01:20 pm |
Quoting juliacernat: "I feel like I have to change my personality to be accepted here. I just want to be myself.†I was listening to my European friend complaining that yet again her bubbly personality had got her into difficulties with strangers. What had upset her most was that her Turkish girlfriends weren’t sympathetic to her plight. Laughter liberates and laughter uplifts. When we learn to laugh at our mistakes, and learn from them, nothing is too difficult. Many of our bookstore customers express how frustrating it is to learn the language. If they have time I share with them some of the mistakes I have made while learning Turkish. One example is: I wanted to get out of the dolmuş in Şişli and I meant to say the standard phrase, “İnecek var!†(Literally: There is a person who wants to get out.) Instead, to the bewilderment of the driver and my fellow passengers I called out, “İnek var!†(There is a cow!)
Have you noticed that Turkish people usually do not tend to shout or talk loudly in public like some nationalities?
A group of friends in a tea-house or restaurant will enjoy sharing a good joke, sometimes at each other’s expense. Turks will enjoy a comedy program on TV, pulling the leg of a friend, or sharing a joke on their cell phone. But uproarious laughter is not commonly seen in public: e.g., in shopping malls, on the ferry, walking down the street.
This is hard for many foreigners who are used to smiling when they walk down the street or having a good laugh anywhere when something funny strikes them.
It is important to make some adjustments in life to fit in to our new culture: This may include being a bit more serious when walking down the street. Tip: to avoid unwanted attention, it is best not to smile and not speak in a loud voice. Watch what Turks do; particularly if you are a woman, watch how Turkish women behave. This may be very important to help you avoid a problem. For example, a woman walking down the street smiling, especially if she is alone, may unwittingly send the wrong signals to the opposite sex.
It is important to laugh in certain settings:
If jokes are being told and have been translated from one language to another, if at all possible, try to laugh at the punch line, even if the Turkish joke hasn’t “made it†when told in English!
Don’t be too hard on yourself. Laugh when you make mistakes. When in another culture, we are learners.
When a situation arises, and it is out of your control, try to see the humor.
The other day, I had an appointment at a school. I arrived at the school on time but I could not get pass the security gate because there had been an electric cut and the gate would not go up so vehicles could pass. School buses were lined up inside the parking lot, with children to be taken to other campuses, and could not get out. Cars began to line up behind me needing to go in to the parking lot. Not to be any later, some children who were brought by their drivers or parents, just jumped out of the cars and ran towards the school building. Yes, there is lots of modern technology around, but electricity is still the power supply and needed.
Instead of fuming or getting frustrated, try to find the humor!"
by Charlotte McPherson, "Laughter- not in public", Today`s Zaman, 05.01.2006
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i always criticised for laughing too much by his family..but i'd rather laugh and smile than be a sourfaced cow..i've givemn up trying to appease them by appearing or acting in a certain way..don't get me wrong i wouldn't go to visit them in a miniskirt or with my boobs hanging out,but i don't do that in my evereyday life anyway so its not pretending to be something i'm not.
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 01:20 pm |
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 01:21 pm |
Quoting susie k: That's why you have to be careful who you make friends with, those Turkish girls should try to understand, any girls I am friends with, will FIRST laugh with me when I tell them and then aftewards explain why I shouldn't have done it!
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although in reality do we really care if people think it's wrong or right?
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 01:21 pm |
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 01:32 pm |
"Lorna, a British lady from Istanbul, observes:
When I go out to the park with my young daughter, I feel awkward and embarrassed when a man is very friendly with my 2 year old -- patting her head, pinching her cheek and chatting to her -- but completely ignores me. Often they don’t even look at me. I want to say ‘thank you’ for them being kind to my child, but talking with them seems to make them uncomfortable.
Turks LOVE children! All children -- even an ugly child -- are fussed over by shopkeepers, neighbors and people in the street. Back home we may be used to butch teenage boys thinking it will be an affront to their manhood to notice a child. Here a group of youths are excited to see a little baby and will coo and aahh over him or her as much as an elderly aunt will. And if your child has blonde hair… she will defnitely be thought beautiful and in need of cuddles and attention.
If she has blue eyes… well, then she definitely is gorgeous, and all the Turks you meet will have their day brightened by an encounter with her.But as you are a married woman, it is inappropriate for a Turkish man who has not been introduced to you to talk to you. If you are out in the park, or doing errands, without your husband then your child’s new friend is showing respect to you by not looking you in the face, and not chatting as freely with you as he is with your daughter. I don’t have kids, but I get something similar when out walking my cocker spaniel, Kila! He will feel that talking in a friendly way to you would be an infringement of your privacy, and could make you feel that he is interested in more than just a casual acquaintance.
In Turkey the boundary between formality and intimacy in male-female relationships is drawn in a different place. Many actions and attitudes that we view as still fairly formal are considered as intimate in this society.
For example, if one of your husband’s friends asked him how you are, it could be misconstrued if he said, “How’s Lorna?†He would normally recognize that you belong to your husband by asking, “How is your wife?†If he really wanted to underline that his concern for your welfare is as a family friend, he may even say “How is my brother’s wife?†-- that way he emphasizes to your husband he sees him as a brother, as is only concerned for you as an extension of his concern for your husband.
So, please don’t feel awkward that the Turkish man you have just met in the park is ignoring you: he is showing you respect and honor by doing this. If you want to let him know you appreciate his care for your child then thank him and give him a cheery “Goodbye†when you move on …. Of course, use “İyi Günler†-- good day, not “GörüşÃ¼rüz†-- see you later!"
by Charlotte McPherson, "Don`t talk to strangers?", Today`s Zaman, 22.01.2007
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 01:35 pm |
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 01:43 pm |
Thanks for posting that wonderful article Juliacernat It was really informative and very endearing
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 02:42 pm |
Quoting Melnikaite: Susie k, thanx for reply. Do you really belive that it is possible to get friendly wiz turkish girls?We, foreign wives, are supposed to steal "good turks" from the turkish girls? Did u manage to become friendly wiz any turkish female? especially single? I managed but only wiz married one |
I have never heard of anything that silly (I am sorry, I couldn't just help saying silly)
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 03:18 pm |
Quoting qdemir:
I have never heard of anything that silly (I am sorry, I couldn't just help saying silly)
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Qdemir, u r a male.. how can u know what concern women? u have a foregn gf? u just dont know but in reality turkish girls women dislike foreign girls.. Once i was called "Rus dusmanby a woman in nikah salon!!!!
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 03:20 pm |
you're talking about very interesting things here...
well, since i have no personal experience with turkish people & society (except for 6-7 friends of mine who come from the Muslim Minority of Thrace, thus adopt easily to the "greek" environment), i would like to ask:
* do Turkish parents always want their chilren to live with them even when they get married?
* isn't a wife allowed to do not even a small job (lets say teaching foreign languages to small groups of children or something like that). i guess i'd be very difficult from a Turkish man to give his consent for his wife to work as a doctor or something, wouldn't it?
* apart from the character, personality and the education the indvidual has received, does it play an important role the place he grew up (lets say whether he was raised in Western or in East Turkey, e.g in Istanbul, Izmir, Gaziantep or Kirikkale?)
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 03:27 pm |
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 03:32 pm |
As far as i know, u r not necessary to live wiz your parents after marraige if only you cant rent flat. by the way a question to one who might know I that true - to rent a flat in Istanbul some real estate agencies require marraige certificate?
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 03:55 pm |
Quoting susie k: Quoting Melnikaite: Quoting qdemir:
I have never heard of anything that silly (I am sorry, I couldn't just help saying silly)
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Qdemir, u r a male.. how can u know what concern women? u have a foregn gf? u just dont know but in reality turkish girls women dislike foreign girls.. Once i was called "Rus dusmanby a woman in nikah salon!!!! |
Qdemir obviously doesn't have much experiance of women! |
You either have a lot of experience of men or don't have any at all.
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 04:05 pm |
Qdemir, you act like a teen, repeating the sentences and just replacing some words
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 04:22 pm |
Quoting Melnikaite: Qdemir, you act like a teen, repeating the sentences and just replacing some words |
Me!?, or you?
Both my sentences say a lot. I think somebody on here might say what they exactly say.
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 04:28 pm |
You have chosen a hard mission then
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 05:23 pm |
Quoting Melnikaite: You have chosen a hard mission then |
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 11:07 pm |
How do people get the idea that the (foreign) women always bend for their (turkish) husbands?
Mine is from the farthest south east corner of Turkey and I don't think I could find a nicer partner anywhere. We have stayed in Turkey for the most part of our relationship, just 2x3 months in my home country. Sure we have had to adjust to many things but he never never treats me unfairly. If he did and if he didn't have any respect for me we wouldn't be together. He is sometimes protective of me but that's simply because I'm not 100% competent in Turkey yet. He always listen to what I have to say and vice versa becfore we make any big decisions.
And of course one of the partners have to give in to the other sometimes, that's just how marriage work (and life for that matter). I think one of the reason the divorce rate is so high some places is because people are so individual. If you can't be acceptable of each others needs you certaintly can't have a healthy or lifelong relationship with someone who comes from a different cultural background.
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 11:27 pm |
Just read the messages women on this forum need translated to Turk! Watch their situations change over time.
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 11:29 pm |
ofcourse cultural differences very important,but thats mainly personality matter not nationalty i think ,and not all Turkish men copied each other aswell on everywhere
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05 Feb 2007 Mon 11:38 pm |
Quoting longinotti1: Just read the messages women on this forum need translated to Turk! Watch their situations change over time. |
Allahımyarabim(sp?) that's just stereotyping. What do you base it on?
I'll personally be happy to prove the odds wrong 10 or even 50 years from now
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 12:26 am |
Quoting azade: Quoting longinotti1: Just read the messages women on this forum need translated to Turk! Watch their situations change over time. |
Allahımyarabim(sp?) that's just stereotyping. What do you base it on?
I'll personally be happy to prove the odds wrong 10 or even 50 years from now |
Woops, sent to wrong post, so I deleted
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 01:03 am |
Quoting azade: Quoting longinotti1: Just read the messages women on this forum.....Watch them change |
Allah?myarabim(sp?) that's just stereotyping. What do you base it on?
I'll personally be happy to prove the odds wrong 10 or even 50 years from now |
I sincerely hope you do.
I should have be clear that I meant change for better or worse.
But how is what I said "stereotyping", are you saying that the translation requests are "MADE UP" by some screen writier?
Iyi Günler
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 01:39 am |
Quoting longinotti1: But how is what I said "stereotyping", are you saying that the translation requests are "MADE UP" by some screen writier?
Iyi Günler |
Nice thought, but not even a screen writer could come up with some of their bizarre stories! Truth is stranger than fiction eh?
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 01:47 am |
Quoting Melnikaite: Quoting robyn : Quoting Melnikaite: Quoting robyn :
i just hope u realise that, we are not property or here to be told what to or not to as i am begininning to realise, |
Robin, i didnt mean that marriage is losing right..but u have to admit that while taking a decison the husband"s opinion counts more. An i impled that wizout knwing turkish language, wizout having a job how can u be that independent..even if u love a person..Im not 18y.o..I scared that one day he will reject my request for something( like visting my parents or calling home regulary) |
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 02:08 am |
Quoting Melnikaite: Quoting robyn : Quoting Melnikaite: Quoting robyn :
i just hope u realise that, we are not property or here to be told what to or not to as i am begininning to realise, |
Robin, i didnt mean that marriage is losing right..but u have to admit that while taking a decison the husband"s opinion counts more. An i impled that wizout knwing turkish language, wizout having a job how can u be that independent..even if u love a person..Im not 18y.o..I scared that one day he will reject my request for something( like visting my parents or calling home regulary) |
Before my husband and i got marrried we talk about what we expect from each other and things that are important to me and to him. Mine is my family(parent& siblings),my religion. I call my family every week and send them money. I told him that and i wont stop doing it even after the marriage.
Ira, just a suggestion. Why don't you talk to your future husband now and tell him your fears, apprehensions , expectations when you stay in turkey. This way you will be less afraid of the future. Thats what i did with my husband. I'm moving to Istanbul in August and I too have a lot of doubts/fears and i told my husband about it. It helped. A lot.
Good luck!
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 09:20 am |
Quoting longinotti1: Quoting azade: Quoting longinotti1: Just read the messages women on this forum.....Watch them change |
Allah?myarabim(sp?) that's just stereotyping. What do you base it on?
I'll personally be happy to prove the odds wrong 10 or even 50 years from now |
I sincerely hope you do.
I should have be clear that I meant change for better or worse.
But how is what I said "stereotyping", are you saying that the translation requests are "MADE UP" by some screen writier?
Iyi Günler |
I think I have misundestood your previous post.
Sana da iyi günler
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 09:22 am |
Quoting Melnikaite: Quoting qdemir:
I have never heard of anything that silly (I am sorry, I couldn't just help saying silly)
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Qdemir, u r a male.. how can u know what concern women? u have a foregn gf? u just dont know but in reality turkish girls women dislike foreign girls.. Once i was called "Rus dusmanby a woman in nikah salon!!!! |
no turkish girls i have met have EVER been rude and if anything are some of the friendliest welcoming girls you could ever meet..i think you and some others may have had some bad experiences..or maybe i was helped by the fact they didnt realise i was english until i opened my mouth
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 09:25 am |
Quoting sofia-gr: you're talking about very interesting things here...
well, since i have no personal experience with turkish people & society (except for 6-7 friends of mine who come from the Muslim Minority of Thrace, thus adopt easily to the "greek" environment), i would like to ask:
* do Turkish parents always want their chilren to live with them even when they get married?
* isn't a wife allowed to do not even a small job (lets say teaching foreign languages to small groups of children or something like that). i guess i'd be very difficult from a Turkish man to give his consent for his wife to work as a doctor or something, wouldn't it?
* apart from the character, personality and the education the indvidual has received, does it play an important role the place he grew up (lets say whether he was raised in Western or in East Turkey, e.g in Istanbul, Izmir, Gaziantep or Kirikkale?) |
okkes is from maras(kahramanmaras) in south east turkey..as i said before i will soon be working whilst he stays at home and he doesn't care if i work part time because we are making the best possible life for our daughter and also helping his family by sending money there.
so technically, he should be more traditional, but he's not really.not to a severe extent and it's waning off more and more
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 10:23 am |
Quoting robyn : okkes is from maras(kahramanmaras) in south east turkey..as i said before i will soon be working whilst he stays at home and he doesn't care if i work part time because we are making the best possible life for our daughter and also helping his family by sending money there. |
So you will work part time soon and he wont work at all???
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 10:47 am |
Quoting aenigma x: Quoting robyn : okkes is from maras(kahramanmaras) in south east turkey..as i said before i will soon be working whilst he stays at home and he doesn't care if i work part time because we are making the best possible life for our daughter and also helping his family by sending money there. |
So you will work part time soon and he wont work at all??? |
no soon i will work fulltime..but if that doesnt work out i could get a part time hob easily as i've had a few offers from old employers and yes he will give up work to look after baby ..what a change..
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 12:22 pm |
robin!! kahramanmaras is not in soouth east turkey..it is in mediterranean region..eastern mediterranean...and bears the features of medieterranean climate at lesat in the city center...sorry for a different subject..
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 12:36 pm |
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 02:03 pm |
As being a man, I have a wider vocabulary of insults than you do. However I won't do that (even if you have deserved) because I have respect for all women, no matter how well behaved or polite they are as being a woman, or how much self respect they have for their womanhood.
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 02:18 pm |
Quoting qdemir:
As being a man, I have a wider vocabulary of insults than you do. However I won't do that (even if you have deserved) because I have respect for all women, no matter how well behaved or polite they are as being a woman, or how much self respect they have for their womanhood. |
It doesn't have anything to do with insults Qdemir, nor vocabulary. It has to do with self and general respect and level of intelligence. Sadly, some people lack them both. Not you anyway
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 05:07 pm |
Quoting sophie: Quoting qdemir:
As being a man, I have a wider vocabulary of insults than you do. However I won't do that (even if you have deserved) because I have respect for all women, no matter how well behaved or polite they are as being a woman, or how much self respect they have for their womanhood. |
It doesn't have anything to do with insults Qdemir, nor vocabulary. It has to do with self and general respect and level of intelligence. Sadly, some people lack them both. Not you anyway
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+1 How rude to come right out and call someone stupid!!?? Its amazing the bravery people have when hiding behind a keyboard. The last time I checked a 2 year relationship didnt qualify someone as a relationship expert.
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 05:13 pm |
Quoting qdemir: Quoting Melnikaite: Susie k, thanx for reply. Do you really belive that it is possible to get friendly wiz turkish girls?We, foreign wives, are supposed to steal "good turks" from the turkish girls? Did u manage to become friendly wiz any turkish female? especially single? I managed but only wiz married one |
I have never heard of anything that silly (I am sorry, I couldn't just help saying silly) |
i cant hold myself to agree with Qdemir here...
Quoting Melnikaite: Qdemir, u r a male.. how can u know what concern women? u have a foregn gf? u just dont know but in reality turkish girls women dislike foreign girls.. Once i was called "Rus dusman" by a woman in nikah salon!!!! |
The only thing they called you like that is not that they think you are stealing Turkish men... its just the way they think a Turkish girl would be more suitable for their son... nothing else... and its up to you to change their mind about this...
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 05:17 pm |
Quoting karekin04: +1 How rude to come right out and call someone stupid!!?? Its amazing the bravery people have when hiding behind a keyboard. The last time I checked a 2 year relationship didnt qualify someone as a relationship expert. |
What?? 2 years???
the life time of humanbeing wouldnt be enough to understand the mental structure man or woman kind, else they would have produced the "happy relationship" pills
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 05:17 pm |
Quoting SuiGeneris: The only thing they called you like that is not that they think you are stealing Turkish men... its just the way they think a Turkish girl would be more suitable for their son... nothing else... and its up to you to change their mind about this...
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I completely agree (Well it is a Tuesday - I am allowed to agree with you occasionally )
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 05:24 pm |
Quoting aenigma x: Quoting SuiGeneris: The only thing they called you like that is not that they think you are stealing Turkish men... its just the way they think a Turkish girl would be more suitable for their son... nothing else... and its up to you to change their mind about this...
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I completely agree (Well it is a Tuesday - I am allowed to agree with you occasionally ) |
That was a surprising comment from official Miss Debate of Turkish Class
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 05:31 pm |
Quoting SuiGeneris: What?? 2 years???
the life time of humanbeing wouldnt be enough to understand the mental structure man or woman kind, else they would have produced the "happy relationship" pills
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Who needs "happy relationship" pills? If a relationship is "right" (or "rite" for Libralady )you only need pills to calm you down hehe!
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 05:36 pm |
Quoting aenigma x: Quoting SuiGeneris: What?? 2 years???
the life time of humanbeing wouldnt be enough to understand the mental structure man or woman kind, else they would have produced the "happy relationship" pills
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Who needs "happy relationship" pills? If a relationship is "right" you only need pills to calm you down hehe! |
lets say if you have a relationship else i am sure there will be "12 millions" pages of discussion about:
-what is right relationship?
-who decides this?
ahhh aaahhh :tired_smiley:
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 05:41 pm |
Quoting SuiGeneris: what is right relationship?
-who decides this?
ahhh aaahhh :tired_smiley: |
I guess "right" means unproblematic and happy. I think I am repeating myself when I say this, but basically a relationship is the "best" it will be in the first year. If you have problems in the first year, then it will NEVER get better.
Bored of this too now Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 05:43 pm |
Quoting aenigma x: Quoting SuiGeneris: what is right relationship?
-who decides this?
ahhh aaahhh :tired_smiley: |
I guess "right" means unproblematic and happy. I think I am repeating myself when I say this, but basically a relationship is the "best" it will be in the first year. If you have problems in the first year, then it will NEVER get better.
Bored of this too now Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz |
here we started
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06 Feb 2007 Tue 05:44 pm |
Quote: Quoting SuiGeneris: Bored of this too now Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz |
here we started |
Nah! Going back to sleep now! Ouh no...going home from work now! Yesssss!
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07 Feb 2007 Wed 11:18 am |
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07 Feb 2007 Wed 11:24 am |
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07 Feb 2007 Wed 11:41 am |
Quoting susie k:
OH here we go again! Karekin why do you hassle me so much!!! Do you feel threatened by me?
I said that I have been married for 2 and a half years and that my husband is happy! I didn't claim to be an expert at anything! Myself and Qdemir are talking about him calling someone silly because she is worried about Turkish girls being angry with her for being with one of their men.
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This is not true... Qdemir just called the thought of foreing girls stealing the turkish man silly... and this is different... and i explained why they had called "Rus Dusman"...
Please lets move on and stop this nonsense... i dont even think that the person get the answer to her question in her first post "difficulties for a foreign wife in Istanbul"...
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07 Feb 2007 Wed 04:32 pm |
Quote:
OH here we go again! Karekin why do you hassle me so much!!! Do you feel threatened by me?
I said that I have been married for 2 and a half years and that my husband is happy! I didn't claim to be an expert at anything! Myself and Qdemir are talking about him calling someone silly because she is worried about Turkish girls being angry with her for being with one of their men.
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oh my goodness Susiek, I am not hasseling you, I think I have only commented on a post of yours ONCE before and it was actually because of a comment you made to me first. Frankly I think you are being paranoid. Threatened??? no way! as a matter of fact some of your posts that I read are very witty and actually make me giggle. You have posted things about me several times and I have only said something to you once. Why is it ok for everyone else to post comments but when I do you call me out. It is a little rediculous that you think I cannot be involved in a post just because you have made a comment.
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07 Feb 2007 Wed 04:34 pm |
I shouldn't bother explaining Karekin I have given up too...
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07 Feb 2007 Wed 04:37 pm |
Quoting aenigma x:
I shouldn't bother explaining Karekin I have given up too... |
Aenigma, I don't know wich one of us is the "minnie me' but always nice to have a role model also wrong place but right time. "Lets Stay Together" is my favourite song too.
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07 Feb 2007 Wed 04:41 pm |
Quote: Quoting karekin04: I shouldn't bother explaining Karekin I have given up too... |
Aenigma, I don't know wich one of us is the "minnie me' but always nice to have a role model also wrong place but right time. "Lets Stay Together" is my favourite song too. |
Awwwwwwwww marry me (ouuuh no - I am not a lesbian )
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07 Feb 2007 Wed 04:51 pm |
Ha ha ha, me either, but if I was you'd be my first choice
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07 Feb 2007 Wed 04:54 pm |
Chief Bridesmaid please...?
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07 Feb 2007 Wed 05:01 pm |
Quoting reBooped: Chief Bridesmaid please...? |
Oh goodness, I knew her comment would start something
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07 Feb 2007 Wed 08:28 pm |
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07 Feb 2007 Wed 08:30 pm |
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07 Feb 2007 Wed 11:22 pm |
Quoting SuiGeneris:
Please lets move on and stop this nonsense... i dont even think that the person get the answer to her question in her first post 'difficulties for a foreign wife in Istanbul'... |
Very true - does any thread started ever get the answers they are looking for? In my experience no!!
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07 Feb 2007 Wed 11:37 pm |
Quote: OK fair play to you! I must have read you wrongly, it was because of the pms my back was up
Lets just start again and forget it all
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That sounds fine. Best thing I've heard all day. Truce?
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 12:51 am |
may i say that a foreign wife is more interesting and lovely to a turkish man...
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 01:28 am |
Quoting nastica: may i say that a foreign wife is more interesting and lovely to a turkish man... |
No. You may not say that.
You are talking about women/human not about goods/properties. A man can love a woman and start a relation only after meeting and knowing her. How can someone say that a woman is more interesting (native or foreign) before he met her.
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 01:54 am |
Quoting metehan2001: Quoting nastica: may i say that a foreign wife is more interesting and lovely to a turkish man... |
No. You may not say that.
You are talking about women/human not about goods/properties. A man can love a woman and start a relation only after meeting and knowing her. How can someone say that a woman is more interesting (native or foreign) before he met her. |
+1 Well said Metehan - I totally agree!
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 02:02 am |
Quoting metehan2001: Quoting nastica: may i say that a foreign wife is more interesting and lovely to a turkish man... |
No. You may not say that.
You are talking about women/human not about goods/properties. A man can love a woman and start a relation only after meeting and knowing her. How can someone say that a woman is more interesting (native or foreign) before he met her. |
+1 metehan, its true that some people are intrigued by people different then themselves, obviously I am but not right to say "all" turkish men. I'm sure nastica your comment will upset any turkish woman on here. oops jinx, sorry Aenigma
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 02:07 am |
Quoting nastica: may i say that a foreign wife is more interesting and lovely to a turkish man... |
OHHHH... I DETEST this mentality! Why is a foreign wife more interesting and lovely? This is soooo prejudicial against Turkish ladies. You should be ashamed of yourself. Have you been to Turkey? Have you seen those fine, drop-dead gorgeous, intelligent, and sweet ladies there? Please honey. Being foreign does NOT make a woman more beautiful, interesting or attractive to Turkish men! Maybe for a few but to put all turkish men into one category and then define their tastes....is a sure sign of immaturity!!!! Sorry, if I am rude...but I cannot stand by and watch somebody slander Turkish men, women and foreign women!
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 02:15 am |
It may be a problem=different culture, different social structure, different understanding.In my opinin it is good if a bride accepts turkish tradition.
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 02:16 am |
Quoting niobe: It may be a problem=different culture, different social structure, different understanding.In my opinin it is good if a bride accepts turkish tradition. |
Or, presumably, if a husband accepts his wife's traditions? Or did I fall asleep and wake up in 1951??
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 02:28 am |
According to Turkish Culture, these are turkish proverbs =
-TARLANI DÃœZ AL, KADINI KIZ AL
-TAŞ TAŞ ÃœSTÃœNE OLUR, EV EV ÃœSTÃœNE OLMAZ
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 02:34 am |
Quoting niobe: According to Turkish Culture, these are turkish proverbs =
-TARLANI DÃœZ AL, KADINI KIZ AL
-TAŞ TAŞ ÃœSTÃœNE OLUR, EV EV ÃœSTÃœNE OLMAZ
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Ok...I know this is Turkish Language Class...but could you translate these proverbs? I am curious...Tesekkur ederim (see i've learned some Turkish!!!! )
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 02:36 am |
Quoting Capoeira: Quoting niobe: According to Turkish Culture, these are turkish proverbs =
-TARLANI DÃœZ AL, KADINI KIZ AL
-TAŞ TAŞ ÃœSTÃœNE OLUR, EV EV ÃœSTÃœNE OLMAZ
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Ok...I know this is Turkish Language Class...but could you translate these proverbs? I am curious...Tesekkur ederim (see i've learned some Turkish!!!! ) |
+1 sorry my dear brother, i, too, dont understand that turkish proverb
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 02:37 am |
Quoting niobe: According to Turkish Culture, these are turkish proverbs =
-TARLANI DÃœZ AL, KADINI KIZ AL
-TAŞ TAŞ ÃœSTÃœNE OLUR, EV EV ÃœSTÃœNE OLMAZ
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- take smooth fields, take woman girl
- it is ok above from stone to stone, it's not ok above from house to house
ok, i messed it up...
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 02:38 am |
My proverb?
"Never marry a man who wants a "wife".
Marry him because he wants YOU "
Aenigma, February 2007
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 02:39 am |
Quoting gezbelle: Quoting niobe: According to Turkish Culture, these are turkish proverbs =
-TARLANI DÃœZ AL, KADINI KIZ AL
-TAŞ TAŞ ÃœSTÃœNE OLUR, EV EV ÃœSTÃœNE OLMAZ
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- take smooth fields, take woman girl
- it is ok above from stone to stone, it's not ok above from house to house
ok, i messed it up... |
great sis tsk
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 02:40 am |
Quoting Pizza: Quoting gezbelle: Quoting niobe: According to Turkish Culture, these are turkish proverbs =
-TARLANI DÃœZ AL, KADINI KIZ AL
-TAŞ TAŞ ÃœSTÃœNE OLUR, EV EV ÃœSTÃœNE OLMAZ
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- take smooth fields, take woman girl
- it is ok above from stone to stone, it's not ok above from house to house
ok, i messed it up... |
great sis tsk |
no worries canım, but i think i got it wrong...
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 02:42 am |
Quoting gezbelle: Quoting Pizza: Quoting gezbelle: Quoting niobe: According to Turkish Culture, these are turkish proverbs =
-TARLANI DÃœZ AL, KADINI KIZ AL
-TAŞ TAŞ ÃœSTÃœNE OLUR, EV EV ÃœSTÃœNE OLMAZ
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- take smooth fields, take woman girl
- it is ok above from stone to stone, it's not ok above from house to house
ok, i messed it up... |
great sis tsk |
no worries canım, but i think i got it wrong... |
at least i got the idea sis by the way, nasilsin?
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 02:43 am |
Quoting aenigma x: My proverb?
"Never marry a man who wants a "wife".
Marry him because he wants YOU "
Aenigma, February 2007
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+1
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 02:47 am |
Quoting Capoeira: Quoting aenigma x: My proverb?
"Never marry a man who wants a "wife".
Marry him because he wants YOU "
Aenigma, February 2007
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+1 |
+100
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 06:57 am |
Marrying a foreigner in many countries has distinct issues to be understood, problems to be solved and Turkey is not an expection. People are prejudiced (very common around the world), have different values, life style and blah, blah, besides they have many misconceptions regarding certain nationalities.
I've met and good and some silly Turkish men, but last case can't be a single aproach to describe whole nation. Turkish people (be them girls or guys) are great in many ways.
Anyhow, if two (a foreign wife and a turkish husband) are not interrupted continuosly by others - family, friends, overall society, deal with own problems by themselves (within one family) and try to understand each others' culture, customs, religion, then everything should be at least okay...
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 08:13 am |
Quoting Capoeira: Quoting nastica: may i say that a foreign wife is more interesting and lovely to a turkish man... |
OHHHH... I DETEST this mentality! Why is a foreign wife more interesting and lovely? This is soooo prejudicial against Turkish ladies. You should be ashamed of yourself. Have you been to Turkey? Have you seen those fine, drop-dead gorgeous, intelligent, and sweet ladies there? Please honey. Being foreign does NOT make a woman more beautiful, interesting or attractive to Turkish men! Maybe for a few but to put all turkish men into one category and then define their tastes....is a sure sign of immaturity!!!! Sorry, if I am rude...but I cannot stand by and watch somebody slander Turkish men, women and foreign women! |
this sentence was special for Capoeira
Very sensible person at jokes
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 08:37 am |
Quoting nastica: Quoting Capoeira: Quoting nastica: may i say that a foreign wife is more interesting and lovely to a turkish man... |
OHHHH... I DETEST this mentality! Why is a foreign wife more interesting and lovely? This is soooo prejudicial against Turkish ladies. You should be ashamed of yourself. Have you been to Turkey? Have you seen those fine, drop-dead gorgeous, intelligent, and sweet ladies there? Please honey. Being foreign does NOT make a woman more beautiful, interesting or attractive to Turkish men! Maybe for a few but to put all turkish men into one category and then define their tastes....is a sure sign of immaturity!!!! Sorry, if I am rude...but I cannot stand by and watch somebody slander Turkish men, women and foreign women! |
this sentence was special for Capoeira
Very sensible person at jokes |
Can I just ask you a serious question??? Are you crazy?? You make bizarre comments that are slightly offensive and then try and joke them off. I'm assuming that since you are "moldavian" you know exactly what turkish men think of you. Yet you post that weird question for what reason... then you throw this one in here obviously thinking turkish men find YOU more interesting.... perhaps "interesting" is not the right word you should be using. I think, and its only my opinion that because you have gotten attention you think they think you are so much hotter. I am certain you are no ones wife at this point? so how could you make such a judgement? And again just to reiterate that comment was very slanderous to turkish women and you should be ashamed!
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 09:21 am |
Quoting karekin04: Quoting nastica: Quoting Capoeira: Quoting nastica: may i say that a foreign wife is more interesting and lovely to a turkish man... |
OHHHH... I DETEST this mentality! Why is a foreign wife more interesting and lovely? This is soooo prejudicial against Turkish ladies. You should be ashamed of yourself. Have you been to Turkey? Have you seen those fine, drop-dead gorgeous, intelligent, and sweet ladies there? Please honey. Being foreign does NOT make a woman more beautiful, interesting or attractive to Turkish men! Maybe for a few but to put all turkish men into one category and then define their tastes....is a sure sign of immaturity!!!! Sorry, if I am rude...but I cannot stand by and watch somebody slander Turkish men, women and foreign women! |
this sentence was special for Capoeira
Very sensible person at jokes |
Can I just ask you a serious question??? Are you crazy?? You make bizarre comments that are slightly offensive and then try and joke them off. I'm assuming that since you are "moldavian" you know exactly what turkish men think of you. Yet you post that weird question for what reason... then you throw this one in here obviously thinking turkish men find YOU more interesting.... perhaps "interesting" is not the right word you should be using. I think, and its only my opinion that because you have gotten attention you think they think you are so much hotter. I am certain you are no ones wife at this point? so how could you make such a judgement? And again just to reiterate that comment was very slanderous to turkish women and you should be ashamed! |
Do you think i look for attention of turkish men
From i began the post of thoughts i had never answered to the private messages that were coming, except one person(full of wisdom)... Don't judge me
Hey women of Turkey it was a joke
No matter east or west men choose their wife for heart!!
Others for appearence ? This question must be given to boys!!!
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 10:16 am |
Quoting nastica: Quoting Capoeira: Quoting nastica: may i say that a foreign wife is more interesting and lovely to a turkish man... |
OHHHH... I DETEST this mentality! Why is a foreign wife more interesting and lovely? This is soooo prejudicial against Turkish ladies. You should be ashamed of yourself. Have you been to Turkey? Have you seen those fine, drop-dead gorgeous, intelligent, and sweet ladies there? Please honey. Being foreign does NOT make a woman more beautiful, interesting or attractive to Turkish men! Maybe for a few but to put all turkish men into one category and then define their tastes....is a sure sign of immaturity!!!! Sorry, if I am rude...but I cannot stand by and watch somebody slander Turkish men, women and foreign women! |
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Very sensible person at jokes |
Oh this was a joke? It was inappropriate.
GROW UP!
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08 Feb 2007 Thu 10:25 am |
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