awww i am so sorry to hear that
that is so sad
are you ok?
and i think hes right he doesnt deserve a girl like you especially if he is going to do that
im so sorry

yea i think he will regret it
and i think its horrible what he did to you
but you will be ok in the end
i know its hard now but you will find someone
someone who you deserve. you deserve alot more than what your ex bf could ever give you. and i know he felt like your best friend mum bf ect.. but you deserve alot more
he never deserved a girl like you in the first place

I don't know but sometimes boys do such silly things. They say that they love you, which you believe so much, you give your heart, but then suddenly without any real reason, he changes and acts as if he was not the one that told you he loved you. And you are left like a fool. I just don't understand this as well, what suddenly makes them change so much? Weird... I think they have a lot of things in their heads.

hey everobody.....play according to players not according to rules......and be happy.....take care

dis is rule of smiling

tell me bout it
my ex said he loved me and that i was the only girl for him and he would always love me and then he left me for another girl
i dont know
why do they do this to us it wrong
i would never do that to anyone
well atleast ive found someone now that casn trust and who i know for a fact loves me
and would never leave me for another girl

thanks and i feel so sorry for you and i hope it all works out for you in the end
take care
bye

i dont think we should start with blaming him..
sometimes it just doesnt work.. and it doesnt have to be someones fault.. i am sure Kelebek is a nice girl.. and her boyfriend too.. but thats life..
maybe he is scared of where this relationship is going.. maybe he just felt like he need more experience in life.. or maybe its just sex he wants for now.. i dont know.. but there is a always a reason.. it may not seem very clear all the time.. but can you blame a person for these reasons?
i dont think he started seeing that woman thinking that she is a slut.. sorry to say this, but sometimes some people have this need of trying different things.. noone can say that the other woman has less than Kelebek.. comparing people by which is better and which is worse is not always possible..
there is a common idea that men like the dirty girls more.. but its not always true.. its about what you want to experience.. what makes you feel happy or fulfilled..
but according to my opinion, when a man says that he is not good enough for you, that means wants something more that he thinks he can not ask you to.. sometimes its a nice way to say, "i want different things".. and sometimes it is coming from the motive to protect you and keep you clean as your image in his head..
but you re still young Kelebek.. and mostly it doesnt work with your first love.. because people are curious.. and they wonder if there is more outside than what they have now..
this may look cruel to you, but when you find some other man to love, you ll get recovered.. and think how lucky you are..

we got it

i dont understand wad u mean but...just remember rule....and smile

lol i know

Kelebek: we have all experienced this sort of love and the man has played away, when we were in our teens.

The good thing is, you are very young, and there are plenty of young single men, who would only be too willing to love and cherish you, for the person you are.

It will be his loss, and he will regret it. As he has not appreciated the love you gave him.

He might be feeling he wants a taste of the high life, then will probably settle down easily later as they usually do. He is still very young and needs a life at the moment.

Try and find it in your heart to move on, and explore new horizons. Don't dwell on him too much. If you meet someone else, he might be devastated. Go out and meet new persons. This will be the best direction.

Kelebek, both of you are very young and can't know what the future will bring you. You are also still changing as a person as you're growing up and becoming more and more mature, and remember that men mature much later then we do!

It might have been true love, but your ex bf is not a man yet, he's just a boy, so it's hard to expect from him to be stronger and deeper in his thoughts. Unfortunately, it looks like his life went the wrong way... .

why do u always care about ages.. of course it could be when a girl who is 20 year old is dating with a man of 50 but.. if the difference is uner 7-8 years of age it's not a big problem... i can understand you had a good relation which is important 4 u and because of that u have a such opinion and u ask a 21 year old boy whether if he can go out with aged 27.. this is love nobody know what can happen...

kelebek honey please do me favor ok.......dont beg him to come back dont tell him you will change, dont let him tell you he will change....listen gods honest truth we all have that one true love that one soul mate that will be with us forever.............the one who breathes new life in us and makes us see the world differently. That is the greates gift any of us who have experienced it know about. My exhusband was and will always be my one true love my soulmate BUT.......if he hurt you knowing that his behavior has changed and he has moved on then most likely he will continue this path for a while. Does it make him a bad person? Yes for hurting you no because we are all human and we all make stupid mistakes....whether Turkish, Italian, Polish, or American we all know the joy and pain of love....he obviously lost the best thing that has happened to him,eventually he will figure this out....but please feel the hurt feel the loss but dont wait and dont see if he will change.......keep busy, find things to do.....your heart will feel broken, you rsoul with feel empty and the tears which you cry could create your own river BUT then comes new life and new hope and new friends like I have met here and although I have been alone for 4 years now it is better than the pain of wondering if he ever was coming back, if he ever was telling the truth and all the what if's that went along with it. You are an amazing girl you are young and you have a lot to give in life..........like i am told on a daily basis there is someone else out there for us....sometimes it doesnt make that pain any easier and the void from the hurt smaller but it is a sparkel of hope and just as we thank Allah every night for bringing us that special someone , there is a reason that someone is not in our life anymore either. I now am starting my own business, coming to Turkey this February to venture out, and ready to find new love again when it is the right time....Know this: you are a good person and you have a big heart and believe it or not there is always room for more love to give and to get. Be patient and be strong and Allah will be with you always. Opiyorum Milly

and for the age issue.
there's a quite big difference even for a single year during the teens. After 20, the difference decreases but I think up to 5 years don't make a big difference over 30s. Because you're really a mature then, only the experiences make the difference.
And when the older one is the female in the relationships under 30, it's really much worse.
So for me, in this situation, where male is 22 and female is 27, these 5 years do make a big difference, and it's not really a healthy relationship. For me these partners are in this relation because of either they have some psychological problems or they want sex.

Hi so interested to read all your posts and would like to add something. I was married for 23 years (such a very long time)I belived I loved my husband and that he loved me but I found out that he had been with other women more than once, the first time I forgave him because I thought I loved him. Our relationship contuned for another six years and then on Valentines day he said he was moveing out to live with a friend (male) and he said there was no other woman in his life. He had become very miserable and I said if he was unhappy and if he felt that moving out for a while would help him sort himself out I said OK do it and we will see what happens. After a few days I found out that he had spent the last six months lying to me and he had been seeing another woman. I was blinded by love and I am not sure if you ever knbow someone.

My story does have a happy ending and I have the best of both worlds now, I have a Turkish man in my life and I have the best of both worlds, I live in England and visit him three or four times a year. He is many years younger than
me (he is over 30, he has been married to an English girl but is now divorced)but he says it doesn't matter and I honestly do not care what other people think. He makes me feel good, he tells me I am beautiful (although I know that sometimes I look my age, he is gentle and kind. He asked me to go and live with him but I think the relationship we have is for the best I can visit him in the winter when he has time for me. I have no illusions regarding his possible behaviour during the summer, I have watched the Turkish men and how they flatter the tourist women, it is no wonder we all fall for them. He says he is faithfull but from my experience most men do not turn down what is offered. To have the feeling of being loved is the most wonderful experience any woman can have no matter how old they are.
My man makes me feel like a teenager when I am with him and when I go back home I return to be the middle aged woman that looks after her grown up children and holds down a full time job.

But I have never been so happy and I agree grasp every opportunity that comes your way and never say IF ONLY,IF ONLY

this is true.. of course the attitudes r different between a tenageer and an adult.. but in adults it's not important if the diffence is under or about 10