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TURKISH PEOPLE VIEWS ON DIVORCE
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10 May 2007 Thu 01:04 am |
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Hi I was just wondering what Turkish peoples views on divorce are...Im a young English woman who is married to a 24 year old Turkish man..we have been together 5 years married 3 and half years and have a young child together. We met in the Uk and were very happy until recently we started to have a few arguments over the amount of time he was spending away from home..and for the fact he booked a holiday to go to turkey to see his family without taking me and our child..I was not happy about this and told him that if he went it would hurt me so much because he had not included me in his plans..however he went not for the week that he told me but for almost 3 weeks..he didnt ring once whilst he was there..when he finally arrived back in england he told me our marriage was over..since then he hasnt been home ..and is going to see a solicitor to divorce I am very confused and would just like to know what turkish peoples views on divorce are. Thank you
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10 May 2007 Thu 01:22 am |
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i am not turkish and i have no idea about it , but i hope u will work this out without getting divorce at least for your little angel. good luck.
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10 May 2007 Thu 01:37 am |
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Yes I also would like to know their views on this too and do PLEASE ENLIGHTEN US on this matter!
Well of course I'am not turkish either, but I had a very similar experience as you did!
My ex-husband did the same and we knew each other for more then 3 yrs before we married too and lived in the USA after marriage for 2 yrs, after a while he also said he wanted to go back home to visit his mom and friends. He said he be back within a month, but instead stayed out there for 4 months!!! Of course we started to also have problems when he got back and after an arguement one night he admitted to having an affair with some turkish woman he met through one of his 'so called friends' whom had introduced them knowing he was married because he knew that this woman liked him! He friends were also the problem, they encouraged him to fool around since 'the wife is not around and so far away!'
Now I don't want anyone here giving me their 2 cents on how 'not all turkish men are like this' but until you have been in my shoes I don't want to hear anyone tell me different about how I should feel about turkish men!!!
Seem to me that marrying and divorcing a foreign woman comes SO EASILY to them then it would be if they were married to a turkish woman, of course that would be a whole different matter! 
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10 May 2007 Thu 01:41 am |
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Exactly these last few months we have been apart ..I have tried my best to explain to his family just how much i love him and care for him but not once did they ever reply to me i cant help but thinkin that they would have something to say if i was a turkish girl..im absoloutely devastated by what he has done to me and our child and to him a divorce is nothing he just doesnt care at all
I have also found that his male cousins whom he works worth also have an impact on his behaviour since he started working with them his attitude towards me changed
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10 May 2007 Thu 01:50 am |
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I wonder what the other side's story might be.
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10 May 2007 Thu 01:56 am |
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well exactly..i would love to know that aswell just the fact that he says he doent want to be with me any longer
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10 May 2007 Thu 02:40 am |
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I just wonder why almost every case like that happen when they married in another country.... then they go back home....
I am not turkish and I am not judding turkish men.... I am just talking about what happen in Brazil... many arabic men get married over there and after having all their "papers" they decide to go back their country and marry somebody from there... or maybe not marry...
Religion is another conflict in cases like that.... Some families are always asking for a man to marry somebody with same religion...
and finally, in my opinion, some men and it doesn't deppend on where they are from, just don't have enough personality and when they got back to their families they get involved and decide to do what they say....
I hope everybody can understand my opinion...
I am just talking about what I have seen...
but as somebody said before, it's always fair to know the other side...
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10 May 2007 Thu 04:12 am |
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10 May 2007 Thu 04:17 am |
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hahahahah thanks for the reply but the posts from a year ago are not discussing the same person its other peope im glad to say
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10 May 2007 Thu 04:19 am |
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Quoting kgaff76: I am turkish male, I think divorce very sad for everyone involved. To I think your husband maybe is sad bout some of the things you did say before on him, like about how he showed you so much hate and you really loved somebody other than him.
Maybe you should not have said thise kind things bout him and he would not be getting divorce.
You act like sad poor girl now, but you saying one year and two years ago you wish you are not with him.
Your main question though is what about divorcing, I think marriage is work he should be trying also, but we do not know his reason and he must have some. Maybe because you said you had a true love before and left him for an idiot (your husband). Maybe he reads these kind things? I will hate my wife if she is saying it about me like that. :-S |
erm...where did she say that she loved someboday other than her husband??
how do you know this?
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