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Please make me optimistic!
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13 May 2007 Sun 11:11 am |
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Quoting Deli_kizin:
By the way, what is oxymoron |
"a combination of contradictory or incongruous words (as cruel kindness); broadly : something (as a concept) that is made up of contradictory or incongruous elements"
(took that from Merriam Webster's Dictionary 
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13 May 2007 Sun 11:12 am |
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Quoting catwoman: (it's more like an oxymoron), |
Haha after Trudy explained to me I really feel like a moron  This is one of the things that is supposed to be my only quality  (By the way, I wonder when they will make a smiley like :me_crazy: instead of just 'you' Because that would fit the situation more!)
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13 May 2007 Sun 01:13 pm |
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I just want to share my story with you quickly, maybe it will give you some confidence.
My other half was a resort worker, a holiday romance if you like (we didn't DO anything though if you know what I mean and he never expected or assumed anything). When I came home back to England I did not expect anything to develop from it but I knew in my heart just how deeply I loved him. I put up with some awful point of views and some people were very nasty about him, people who I expected support from. It would have been so easy for me to generalise and walk away from him but I stood strong and after all this time we are so in love and we can't imagine our life without eachother now!
Yes he is a resort worker but it's just a job for him to support his aunt and uncle. I just want to say for all you girls who are with resort workers its not all about sex and money...for some guys it is literally a job like any other! A Turkish man working in resort, or a man working in Butlins Holiday Camps...a job is a job!
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13 May 2007 Sun 08:04 pm |
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Quoting Deli_kizin: Well I wont put all my personal-life out here, but I can say Ive done and said some pretty horrible things to Kadir lately. |
If you've done something bad, then learn from it and don't do it any more.
Quoting Deli_kizin: As a result, it is now the other way around I have to admit: i weakened his nerves too so he can take less than he used to do and sometimes he gets angry too fast |
Well, obviously it is all because of YOU when he gets angry a little too fast!
Quoting Deli_kizin: And sometimes Kadir really surprises me: he is like the most male man I know, even among all his turkish friends, and still he cares enough to bring me strawberry soap from the supermarket, and he is not afraid to cry, though that happens just once in a blue moon. |
He's SUPPOSED to care and do things for you!
Quoting Deli_kizin: But thanks again for your nice message. Sometimes its enough to know that others think about us too. |
Your welcome  . I really think you're very strong and bright. I can't even imagine how difficult it must be to live in another country and start life again without family and friends.
Deli_kizin, I'm sure you have a wonderful relationship and both of you care about each other very much, but everybody needs to take responsibility for their behavior. If you behaved badly, then make up for it, learn from it, don't do it any more and stop blaming yourself saying how terrible you are and how he's 'putting up with you'. And HE is also responsible for HIS behavior. If he gets angry a lot, then it's his problem, not something because of you. Even if you made him angry initially, he has to deal with it and get over it. Hell, he probably needs to apologize for his reactions!
I can see how much you care about this relationship and how much you're capable to do for it, but if you still think that the only problem in the relationship is "you", then something's not right.
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13 May 2007 Sun 08:51 pm |
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Quoting catwoman: I think all the success stories shared by women here only show how strong, mature and smart they are.QUOTE]
you don't think that all the success stories with turkish men are thanks to the women who submit to the opressive turkish men? |
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13 May 2007 Sun 08:57 pm |
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Quoting catwoman: I can see how much you care about this relationship and how much you're capable to do for it, but if you still think that the only problem in the relationship is "you", then something's not right. |
No I dont think that way Lately I can say its been that way, but usually its from both sides. And he does apologize when he gets angry too quickly, though he is undergoing a major change. I hope this will keep going this way
I would respond more but Heroes is starting soon on CNBCE and I am really hungry so İ better make something out of the peppers, onions and tuna fish we have (thats all there is and sucuk but I think that would become funny )
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13 May 2007 Sun 11:10 pm |
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Quoting mltm: Quoting catwoman: I think all the success stories shared by women here only show how strong, mature and smart they are. |
you don't think that all the success stories with turkish men are thanks to the women who submit to the opressive turkish men? |
that will probably be your story  . since you didn't get it, the point was that most of the women ARE smart and strong but don't see that in themselves, under-appreciate their input into the relationship, while over-appreciating their boyfriends.
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13 May 2007 Sun 11:35 pm |
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Quote: you don't think that all the success stories with turkish men are thanks to the women who submit to the opressive turkish men? |
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13 May 2007 Sun 11:42 pm |
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Quoting catwoman:
that will probably be your story . since you didn't get it, the point was that most of the women ARE smart and strong but don't see that in themselves, under-appreciate their input into the relationship, while over-appreciating their boyfriends. |
Ah, ok. But anyway this does not deny what I said is what you think either.
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13 May 2007 Sun 11:43 pm |
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Quote: Quoting karekin04: you don't think that all the success stories with turkish men are thanks to the women who submit to the opressive turkish men? |
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No,no.Ignore what I said. It was just between me and leoparwoman
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14 May 2007 Mon 12:04 am |
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Quoting mltm: It was just between me and leoparwoman |
that was so cute mltm, thanks for the flattery  
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