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40.       lynda0090
56 posts
 25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:19 pm

sorry i've cause such a problem....but its true i was only looking for some advice

Lynda

41.       mylo
856 posts
 25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:23 pm

Quoting AEnigma III:

Well it IS a fact that Turkish men are VERY possessive (MOST Turkish men ). There is definitely a cultural difference to men in the UK, for example.

In the UK there is a completely different attitude to jealousy. UK men don't get jealous if other men look at their girlfriends, or if they wear short shirts etc. because it makes them feel great that they have such an "object of desire" with them and it gives them a "kick" that other men are envious.

If you are out with your bf/gf socially, it is important that, although you arrive as a couple, you are attentive to other people to show respect. It is considered very good manners, for example, to slightly flirt with your friend's gf/bf as it is showing them attention If you are at a party it's completely acceptable to go and talk to other men and even flirt with them to a degree, just so long as you dont take things "too far" When I was out recently a friend of mine was actually complaining that her bf didn't flirt enough or pay enough attention to her friends!

A UK man would not DARE to refuse to let his gf go out on her own or with friends, or even away on holiday on her own. Any men that are "controlling" or too possessive are considered to need psychiatric help!

When you consider ALL the above, you can see why English girls find Turkish men so possessive. There is a REALLY BIG difference



I'll go with that,but that doesnt mean we don't love our women as much as the next nation?I see it like this we are all free if 2 people want to be together they will be,as soon as rules are imposed that changes everything,who are we to shout rules at each other is man better than woman?is black better than white?If we trust,there can be no argument,we trust and love thats it,nothing more nothing less.

42.       Serdar07
428 posts
 25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:24 pm

Again it is another try for Human kind to put all the mind (in between the legs*'sorry to say that'). Why we are pushing love to the narrow corner of what we are wearing or whom we are seeing??

43.       AEnigma III
0 posts
 25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:25 pm

Quoting mylo:

I'll go with that,but that doesnt mean we don't love our women as much as the next nation?I see it like this we are all free if 2 people want to be together they will be,as soon as rules are imposed that changes everything,who are we to shout rules at each other is man better than woman?is black better than white?If we trust,there can be no argument,we trust and love thats it,nothing more nothing less.



+10000000 I completely agree. Loving with this kind of mutual freedom shows complete and utter trust and respect for that person as an individual.

44.       kafesteki kus
0 posts
 25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:29 pm

With all respect ,In my humble opinion the title of this thread should be"Help to understand all the men"not only Turkish lol
We are two different species,which does not mean enemies...Aliens from totally different planets,speaking different languages and seeing the world in different way,no matter what is our cultural background

45.       AEnigma III
0 posts
 25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:30 pm

Quoting AEnigma III:

UK men don't get jealous if other men look at their girlfriends, or if they wear short shirts etc. because it makes them feel great that they have such an "object of desire" with them and it gives them a "kick" that other men are envious.



I should have added "and vice versa". I love it when other girls think my bf is handsome and stare at him. It makes me value him even more! lol

46.       Serdar07
428 posts
 25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:33 pm

Quoting AEnigma III:

Quoting AEnigma III:

UK men don't get jealous if other men look at their girlfriends, or if they wear short shirts etc. because it makes them feel great that they have such an "object of desire" with them and it gives them a "kick" that other men are envious.



I should have added "and vice versa". I love it when other girls think my bf is handsome and stare at him. It makes me value him even more! lol



Good comment.. that means judging from different angles! LoL

47.       catwoman
8933 posts
 25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:35 pm

This man scares me. I've known a few men like that (they were all from Middle East). For Western women they are so different that their "excessive attention" seems very exotic and charming. Sooner or later however, most of these women realize that it's all about power and control. Sometimes it's hard to get out of these relationships after a while because of the intimidation of the guy who cannot stand the woman leaving him. I would tell these women - don't lose your head, think rationally what this kind of control imbalance may lead to. Love is about mutual respect and listening, not about imposing anything on anybody because of his or her "definition of love".

48.       mylo
856 posts
 25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:35 pm

Quoting kafesteki kus:

With all respect ,In my humble opinion the title of this thread should be"Help to understand all the men"not only Turkish lol
We are two different species,which does not mean enemies...Aliens from totally different planets,speaking different languages and seeing the world in different way,no matter what is our cultural background



yeah i'll also go with that,she shops for shoes,i shop for motor partslollol

49.       AEnigma III
0 posts
 25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:38 pm

Quoting catwoman:

their "excessive attention" seems very exotic and charming. Sooner or later however, most of these women realize that it's all about power and control. Sometimes it's hard to get out of these relationships after a while because of the intimidation of the guy who cannot stand the woman leaving him. I would tell these women - don't lose your head, think rationally what this kind of control imbalance may lead to. Love is about mutual respect and listening, not about imposing anything on anybody because of his or her "definition of love".



Ouh this is sooooooo true

50.       turquoise
938 posts
 25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:40 pm

actually people really dont know how to be friend,thats the first problem between them and they also dont know how to live together.

do you ask your friends to wear what u want them to or can u ask them to do everything you want? dont think so... cuz friendship makes you respect the people and each person has their own lifes and thoughts.by the way people do know each other and see if they can live together.so if someone doesnt treat you like you r his/her friend and doesnt make you feel safe how to be in love with them? as i always say if people cant be friends they can be nothing..

so lynda just think about it and dont rush...

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