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help understanding turkish man
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 02:13 pm |
i have met a turkish man and we get on really well but he seems to have taken over my life. he decides what we eat and do. He's now gone back to his home town for 10 days. he phoned last night saying one of his friends will be round today to take me for a walk ( what's he think i am a dog). He seems very posessive. Is all this normal with turkish men or is he over the top. He's even talking about getting engaged when he comes back.
Very confused...Lynda
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 02:21 pm |
Quoting lynda0090: i have met a turkish man and we get on really well but he seems to have taken over my life. he decides what we eat and do. He's now gone back to his home town for 10 days. he phoned last night saying one of his friends will be round today to take me for a walk ( what's he think i am a dog). He seems very posessive. Is all this normal with turkish men or is he over the top. He's even talking about getting engaged when he comes back.
Very confused...Lynda |
if you are irritated from this situation you have to tell what you feel to him exactly... for to prevent you too for further more problems i think...
and yeah some turkish men feel like owning when they have a relation... but this is your luck to meet one of them not the fault of being turkish hehehe
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 02:31 pm |
i have no problems with the way he treats me....its just a bit alien to me. He makes me feel very special.
Thanks Lynda
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 02:34 pm |
Quoting lynda0090: i have no problems with the way he treats me....its just a bit alien to me. He makes me feel very special.
Thanks Lynda |
then this is great for you... you just mentioned that as if it is a problem... anyway if you are happy no problems
wish you good luck
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 02:47 pm |
Its not a problem if this is normal....then i except it. but if its him being over the top then it could be a problem.
Lynda
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 02:49 pm |
also i am flattered by all his attention
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 02:49 pm |
Quoting lynda0090: i have met a turkish man and we get on really well but he seems to have taken over my life. he decides what we eat and do. He's now gone back to his home town for 10 days. he phoned last night saying one of his friends will be round today to take me for a walk ( what's he think i am a dog). He seems very posessive. Is all this normal with turkish men or is he over the top. He's even talking about getting engaged when he comes back.
Very confused...Lynda |
If he is possessive now, and it feels too much, I can assure you it will only get worse when you get engaged and married.
You either deal with it now and tell him to "step back" a bit or face the consequences! Being too possessive just drives people away - if you hold a butterfly in your hand too tightly you kill it, if you let it fly free, it will stay around
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 02:52 pm |
Thankyou very much for the wise words
Lynda
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 02:57 pm |
Quoting lynda0090: i have no problems with the way he treats me....its just a bit alien to me. He makes me feel very special.
Thanks Lynda |
I understand that he makes you feel special, but this kind of behaviour lead to controlling and then he will expect you to do everything he says.You need to sit down and talk about this matter before it gets out of hand.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 03:51 pm |
theres a saying in Turkish ,we say ''Ne şeytanı gör,ne selavat getir''and i believe that thats a big challenge and courage to get very closer with someone who comes from veryyyyyyyyyyyy different culture,sure love fix many things,but its not skilfull all always
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 04:14 pm |
I think most Turkish men are possessive and jealous people. If you don't believe me go look for english girlfriends of Turkish men. It's a support group, haha for girls to deal with their Turkish boyfriends. Yeah! And everyone always whines about how controlling they can be.
My boyfriend always says "you're mine, totally, only mine" And then he says "I'm yours askim, bitanem."
A little possessive and jealous is ok, but telling you what to eat, do or wear or go...those things are kind of going too far. Which ever thing you don't like you should talk about it and mention it to him otherwise he will ASSUME it's ok with you and keep doing it. Sometimes when my bf acts a certain way I don't like I talk to him about it until he stops it (even if I have to tell him 3 times).
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 04:24 pm |
Quoting kat007: I think most Turkish men are possessive and jealous people. If you don't believe me go look for english girlfriends of Turkish men. It's a support group, haha for girls to deal with their Turkish boyfriends. Yeah! And everyone always whines about how controlling they can be.
My boyfriend always says "you're mine, totally, only mine" And then he says "I'm yours askim, bitanem."
A little possessive and jealous is ok, but telling you what to eat, do or wear or go...those things are kind of going too far. Which ever thing you don't like you should talk about it and mention it to him otherwise he will ASSUME it's ok with you and keep doing it. Sometimes when my bf acts a certain way I don't like I talk to him about it until he stops it (even if I have to tell him 3 times). |
there r some rules about their gf for the traditional Turkish men,,,some of emm>>>>his gf can't go to bars alone or with her friends,she can't wear much decolty,she can't spend time at out whenever she wish (only a few of em which i remember for now ) if thats jealousy or to be possesive,thats really good to be
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 04:34 pm |
I agree with what MrX67 said about different cultures not always being so easy, so many people ask for translations on here saying that all the obstacles etc. are so hard but as long as they love eachother then love will conquer all. I do not agree with this though, sharing your life with someone takes a lot more than love and how you feel for eachother. You need to want the same things in life, accept eachother fully for whom you are, hae the same goals and dreams in life. If you are not going the same way, it doesn't matter how you feel for eachtoher, you will always face problems. People need to be compatible together, thats when things work.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 04:40 pm |
Well, I don't think that he'll change. Ofcourse not all turkish men are like him, but in some cultures the patriarchy is more efficient and the women are not really equal to men in especially relationships and marrigae. I do not say that protection of a man is not good, on the contrary I like it, but respect and regarding woman as an individual who has a mind to think and decide are vital.
Again I don't think he'll change, this has become a part of his personality, he has grown up with this way of thinking, it's not something you can change by talking over it, so...
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 04:44 pm |
....And if he does change, like they always promise they will he will only change for the shortest amount of time to keep you ammused.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 04:44 pm |
RULES RULES RULES!!!
Don't get me started. These are some of the rules the nice english girlfriends and american girlfriends of Turkish men have to deal with. [Flash warning sign]
1) Can't go night clubbing
2) Can't go to the bars
3) Can't wear skimpy clothes when going out
4) Can't go swimming or beach wearing a bikini or a swimsuit
5) If you go out with girls he wants to know where
6) Can't talk on the phone with your ex bf
7) Can't have any male friends (he'll pout and sulk until you give in. Or he'll chase them all away by acting rude/possessive)
8) Need to answer his call when you're out or he'll wonder what you did
9) He wants to go everywhere with you and follow you around
1 Traveling by yourself--Forget it!
11) When you smile at guys or talk to guys on the street when he's around watch out--lecture coming
12) You can't even hug your male cousins
13) Some of the religious ones, he won't even let you stay in a room or living room alone with one of his brothers
14) He'll annouce that you're his gf if you talk to any males and he'll stay glued next to you.
15) If there's males on the sofa/couch you can't sit there.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 04:48 pm |
Quoting kat007: RULES RULES RULES!!!
Don't get me started. These are some of the rules the nice english girlfriends and american girlfriends of Turkish men have to deal with. [Flash warning sign]
1) Can't go night clubbing
2) Can't go to the bars
3) Can't wear skimpy clothes when going out
4) Can't go swimming or beach wearing a bikini or a swimsuit
5) If you go out with girls he wants to know where
6) Can't talk on the phone with your ex bf
7) Can't have any male friends (he'll pout and sulk until you give in. Or he'll chase them all away by acting rude/possessive)sure women not equal individuals with men on most of areas of Turkey,and still some odd social rules working for make unhappy to most of inncent Turkish women ,beside that thats really good to some logical rules for keep in safe a relationship...(sure for both side,not just to women)
8) Need to answer his call when you're out or he'll wonder what you did
9) He wants to go everywhere with you and follow you around
1 Traveling by yourself--Forget it!
11) When you smile at guys or talk to guys on the street when he's around watch out--lecture coming
12) You can't even hug your male cousins
13) Some of the religious ones, he won't even let you stay in a room or living room alone with one of his brothers
14) He'll annouce that you're his gf if you talk to any males and he'll stay glued next to you.
15) If there's males on the sofa/couch you can't sit there.
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well i think we talked about this many times on different threads,noone can't say women rights perfect or enough in Turkey and we all know many women under big pressure of men and society on many parts of Turkey as the second class individulas,and thats really one of biggest social wound of our great country.still od stuck tradition rules working for make unhappier to many innocent Turkish women and that all have to change.beside that some logical rules really good to keep healthy a good relationships,and thats only possible with a limited jealousy
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 04:50 pm |
Quoting lynda0090: i have no problems with the way he treats me....its just a bit alien to me. He makes me feel very special.
Thanks Lynda |
maybe just because youve never been treated like that but thats why they always lose their girlfriends cuz they make love a monster and that gnaws into ur head.im sure it wont feel special in the future,and even if u get engaged or married that would be worse.
sorry to say bad things but i just wanted u to make sure if u dont wanna be a bird in cage
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 05:18 pm |
No,it has nothing to do with Turkish women rights here Mrx.
Because the women here are not Turkish,and Turkish bf's know that very well,so they are accepting the thought that they are different from Turkish women.
But he is putting his rules to for his gf aswell to accept the fact that he is Turkish and not from same culture or country as she is.
Yes,Turkish men are protective,and they dont like anyone to look to their women too.
They dont hide it from day 1,do they ?
But heyy, didnt you pick them for that ?!
Because they are different than the ones you knew back home ?!
So why complaining about it?
Just take it or leave it!
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 05:27 pm |
Quoting CANLI: No,it has nothing to do with Turkish women rights here Mrx.
Because the women here are not Turkish,
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i dont think so CANLI, cuz there may be some foreign guys have turkish girlfriend or want to have and know something about them ...i think TC is not the site for foreign girls to find a turkish bf
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 06:13 pm |
Quoting Trudy: Jealousy?
Possesiveness?
Controle freak?
Women are not wireless dirigible toys! |
i bet every women like to be jealosed a bit in a sweet way
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 06:27 pm |
Quoting MrX67: Quoting Trudy: Jealousy?
Possesiveness?
Controle freak?
Women are not wireless dirigible toys! |
i bet every women like to be jealosed a bit in a sweet way
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Maybe I'm the only one, I don't like it. Jealousy for me means that he does not trust me.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 06:29 pm |
Quoting Trudy: Quoting MrX67: Quoting Trudy: Jealousy?
Possesiveness?
Controle freak?
Women are not wireless dirigible toys! |
i bet every women like to be jealosed a bit in a sweet way
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Maybe I'm the only one, I don't like it. Jealousy for me means that he does not trust me. |
i think noone of amn don't do it by to be willing,thats a nature matter,otherwise if its possible to be togehter with someone who you don't trust her/himand i think jealousy not just for men,it works on women very good to
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 07:24 pm |
Jealousy happens both ways. Back to the original post. I think you should talk to him about your concerns. The feelings you said you had about it can be warning signs of feeling controlled later. I didn't understand why my fiance was not weird like this in the tourist areas but when we were in Ankara or Istanbul he was, wanting to hold my hand at all times in public, giving dirty looks to other Turkish men, getting all weird at clubs. His brother tried to explain when I said I was feeling controlled that it was about safety and it could be a problem for my fiance if he didn't do this? Maybe just like being in a big city anywhere, more danger, stay closer.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 07:45 pm |
I've had experience on both sides i've had Turkish girlfriends,and ive seen the effects of relationships with Turkish men and foreign women.The problem is trust in my opinion,Turkish guys are very good at talking the talk,but when it comes to trust and 'walking the walk' they are not the best,this said ive also seen lying Turkish girls they are as bad as each other.
I think trust is the basis for any relationship,no trust no friendship/relationship.I think there are insecure men in Turkey as there are in most countries,but in Turkey i have seen this alot,they are ok to look at foreign women but their wives must wear/eat what they order?Double standard?I Don't get this,I think its something from past history,'this is the way it was and this is how it will be'type of attitude,but i think it's changing slowly.
Generally educated Turks are more sincere than the ignorant 'tourist workers'(nothing wrong with tourist workers but their goal is to sell and play around with foreign women,in my opinion)i'm sure there are decent ones but ive yet to meet them.
Anyway thats my view on this,hope it all works out for you.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 07:54 pm |
Quoting mylo: I've had experience on both sides i've had Turkish girlfriends,and ive seen the effects of relationships with Turkish men and foreign women.The problem is trust in my opinion,Turkish guys are very good at talking the talk,but when it comes to trust and 'walking the walk' they are not the best,this said ive also seen lying Turkish girls they are as bad as each other.
I think trust is the basis for any relationship,no trust no friendship/relationship.I think there are insecure men in Turkey as there are in most countries,but in Turkey i have seen this alot,they are ok to look at foreign women but their wives must wear/eat what they order?Double standard?I Don't get this,I think its something from past history,'this is the way it was and this is how it will be'type of attitude,but i think it's changing slowly.
Generally educated Turks are more sincere than the ignorant 'tourist workers'(nothing wrong with tourist workers but their goal is to sell and play around with foreign women,in my opinion)i'm sure there are decent ones but ive yet to meet them.
Anyway thats my view on this,hope it all works out for you. |
Mylo couldn't agree more.
There is a HUGE difference between the attitude of the university graduate who works in the bank, and the village boy who has a temporary job as a waiter in Antalya. Sorry to sound so "snobbish" but Turkish society is really class-ridden. A young lady from the bank wouldn't touch the waiter with a rusty barge pole!
Also, Turkish girls can be SOOOOOOOOOO jealous, too. When we are working late at the insurance company, you wouldn't believe how many guys get calls from their girls who want to know if they are really staying late at work, and who else is there etc etc.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 08:20 pm |
Thank you all for your replies....given me something to think about. i go to bed early cause i know he will phone about midnight to make sure i've taken my tablets. i would like to think he's being protective over me. time will tell anyway.
lynda
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 08:40 pm |
still I can't understand what Lynda does complain from!
Love is not possession or getting control on all what the other side has. And what is more important love a devine seceret none shared with others. Just the 2 lovers have the right to know the details. If you tried to say a word to a third one then be sure that there is something wrong. Possession in love like a conditional agreement to be ready at anytime to change your face.
Good luck.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:04 pm |
Quoting Serdar07: still I can't understand what Lynda does complain from!
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With all respect, your don't understand because you are a man! If any man feels he has to control what his partner wears, how she spends her time, who her friends are etc. then he must be very insecure and untrusting and it will only get WORSE if you marry them.
Of course you don't see anything wrong - I can't imagine you would let your gf tell you that you may not go out alone with your friends, or that you may not wear certain things...
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:04 pm |
I am not complaining at all....just trying to understand
Lynda
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:07 pm |
Quoting MarioninTurkey: Quoting mylo: I've had experience on both sides i've had Turkish girlfriends,and ive seen the effects of relationships with Turkish men and foreign women.The problem is trust in my opinion,Turkish guys are very good at talking the talk,but when it comes to trust and 'walking the walk' they are not the best,this said ive also seen lying Turkish girls they are as bad as each other.
I think trust is the basis for any relationship,no trust no friendship/relationship.I think there are insecure men in Turkey as there are in most countries,but in Turkey i have seen this alot,they are ok to look at foreign women but their wives must wear/eat what they order?Double standard?I Don't get this,I think its something from past history,'this is the way it was and this is how it will be'type of attitude,but i think it's changing slowly.
Generally educated Turks are more sincere than the ignorant 'tourist workers'(nothing wrong with tourist workers but their goal is to sell and play around with foreign women,in my opinion)i'm sure there are decent ones but ive yet to meet them.
Anyway thats my view on this,hope it all works out for you. |
Mylo couldn't agree more.
There is a HUGE difference between the attitude of the university graduate who works in the bank, and the village boy who has a temporary job as a waiter in Antalya. Sorry to sound so "snobbish" but Turkish society is really class-ridden. A young lady from the bank wouldn't touch the waiter with a rusty barge pole!
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universite graduate? it means nothing marinion, i saw many people with university degree but still ignorant,i dont agree with you and that could be explained better..
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:07 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting Serdar07: still I can't understand what Lynda does complain from!
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With all respect, your don't understand because you are a man! If any man feels he has to control what his partner wears, how she spends her time, who her friends are etc. then he must be very insecure and untrusting and it will only get WORSE if you marry them.
Of course you don't see anything wrong - I can't imagine you would let your gf tell you that you may not go out alone with your friends, or that you may not wear certain things... |
Ha Ha please read all my words about possession and love!!
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:09 pm |
Quoting Serdar07: Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting Serdar07: still I can't understand what Lynda does complain from!
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With all respect, your don't understand because you are a man! If any man feels he has to control what his partner wears, how she spends her time, who her friends are etc. then he must be very insecure and untrusting and it will only get WORSE if you marry them.
Of course you don't see anything wrong - I can't imagine you would let your gf tell you that you may not go out alone with your friends, or that you may not wear certain things... |
Ha Ha please read all my words about possession and love!! |
I read them - but find it hard to believe that you would feel such "possession" to be equal
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:12 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting Serdar07: Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting Serdar07: still I can't understand what Lynda does complain from!
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With all respect, your don't understand because you are a man! If any man feels he has to control what his partner wears, how she spends her time, who her friends are etc. then he must be very insecure and untrusting and it will only get WORSE if you marry them.
Of course you don't see anything wrong - I can't imagine you would let your gf tell you that you may not go out alone with your friends, or that you may not wear certain things... |
Ha Ha please read all my words about possession and love!! |
I read them - but find it hard to believe that you would feel such "possession" to be equal |
Thanks , You don't have to believe me... But that is the true life and love for me.
regards
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:16 pm |
so this isnt true?I have also met ignorant educated turks,but they can be found alot more in the low payed jobs within the tourist industry,as in every country.My ex girlfriend in Turkey was a trainee accountant,she took the piss out of me big time,2/3 boyfriends on the go at the same time?The next girl i met was an 'interior designer'didnt mean a thing she was the same.
I've also met guys(good for me not for young foreign girls)who i still talk within Marmaris and Antalya regions they tell me they are 'on a good thing' with so and so,we all know what they mean,the sad thing is that the females who come to this site for 'Guidance' isnt for Turkish in the main its for 'cross cultural relationship advice'.
Its a sign of the times what can we say?
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:17 pm |
Well it IS a fact that Turkish men are VERY possessive (MOST Turkish men ). There is definitely a cultural difference to men in the UK, for example.
In the UK there is a completely different attitude to jealousy. UK men don't get jealous if other men look at their girlfriends, or if they wear short shirts etc. because it makes them feel great that they have such an "object of desire" with them and it gives them a "kick" that other men are envious.
If you are out with your bf/gf socially, it is important that, although you arrive as a couple, you are attentive to other people to show respect. It is considered very good manners, for example, to slightly flirt with your friend's gf/bf as it is showing them attention If you are at a party it's completely acceptable to go and talk to other men and even flirt with them to a degree, just so long as you dont take things "too far" When I was out recently a friend of mine was actually complaining that her bf didn't flirt enough or pay enough attention to her friends!
A UK man would not DARE to refuse to let his gf go out on her own or with friends, or even away on holiday on her own. Any men that are "controlling" or too possessive are considered to need psychiatric help!
When you consider ALL the above, you can see why English girls find Turkish men so possessive. There is a REALLY BIG difference
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:19 pm |
sorry i've cause such a problem....but its true i was only looking for some advice
Lynda
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:23 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Well it IS a fact that Turkish men are VERY possessive (MOST Turkish men ). There is definitely a cultural difference to men in the UK, for example.
In the UK there is a completely different attitude to jealousy. UK men don't get jealous if other men look at their girlfriends, or if they wear short shirts etc. because it makes them feel great that they have such an "object of desire" with them and it gives them a "kick" that other men are envious.
If you are out with your bf/gf socially, it is important that, although you arrive as a couple, you are attentive to other people to show respect. It is considered very good manners, for example, to slightly flirt with your friend's gf/bf as it is showing them attention If you are at a party it's completely acceptable to go and talk to other men and even flirt with them to a degree, just so long as you dont take things "too far" When I was out recently a friend of mine was actually complaining that her bf didn't flirt enough or pay enough attention to her friends!
A UK man would not DARE to refuse to let his gf go out on her own or with friends, or even away on holiday on her own. Any men that are "controlling" or too possessive are considered to need psychiatric help!
When you consider ALL the above, you can see why English girls find Turkish men so possessive. There is a REALLY BIG difference
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I'll go with that,but that doesnt mean we don't love our women as much as the next nation?I see it like this we are all free if 2 people want to be together they will be,as soon as rules are imposed that changes everything,who are we to shout rules at each other is man better than woman?is black better than white?If we trust,there can be no argument,we trust and love thats it,nothing more nothing less.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:24 pm |
Again it is another try for Human kind to put all the mind (in between the legs*'sorry to say that'). Why we are pushing love to the narrow corner of what we are wearing or whom we are seeing??
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:25 pm |
Quoting mylo: I'll go with that,but that doesnt mean we don't love our women as much as the next nation?I see it like this we are all free if 2 people want to be together they will be,as soon as rules are imposed that changes everything,who are we to shout rules at each other is man better than woman?is black better than white?If we trust,there can be no argument,we trust and love thats it,nothing more nothing less. |
+10000000 I completely agree. Loving with this kind of mutual freedom shows complete and utter trust and respect for that person as an individual.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:29 pm |
With all respect ,In my humble opinion the title of this thread should be"Help to understand all the men"not only Turkish
We are two different species,which does not mean enemies...Aliens from totally different planets,speaking different languages and seeing the world in different way,no matter what is our cultural background
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:30 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: UK men don't get jealous if other men look at their girlfriends, or if they wear short shirts etc. because it makes them feel great that they have such an "object of desire" with them and it gives them a "kick" that other men are envious. |
I should have added "and vice versa". I love it when other girls think my bf is handsome and stare at him. It makes me value him even more!
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:33 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting AEnigma III: UK men don't get jealous if other men look at their girlfriends, or if they wear short shirts etc. because it makes them feel great that they have such an "object of desire" with them and it gives them a "kick" that other men are envious. |
I should have added "and vice versa". I love it when other girls think my bf is handsome and stare at him. It makes me value him even more! |
Good comment.. that means judging from different angles! LoL
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:35 pm |
This man scares me. I've known a few men like that (they were all from Middle East). For Western women they are so different that their "excessive attention" seems very exotic and charming. Sooner or later however, most of these women realize that it's all about power and control. Sometimes it's hard to get out of these relationships after a while because of the intimidation of the guy who cannot stand the woman leaving him. I would tell these women - don't lose your head, think rationally what this kind of control imbalance may lead to. Love is about mutual respect and listening, not about imposing anything on anybody because of his or her "definition of love".
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:35 pm |
Quoting kafesteki kus: With all respect ,In my humble opinion the title of this thread should be"Help to understand all the men"not only Turkish
We are two different species,which does not mean enemies...Aliens from totally different planets,speaking different languages and seeing the world in different way,no matter what is our cultural background |
yeah i'll also go with that,she shops for shoes,i shop for motor parts
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:38 pm |
Quoting catwoman: their "excessive attention" seems very exotic and charming. Sooner or later however, most of these women realize that it's all about power and control. Sometimes it's hard to get out of these relationships after a while because of the intimidation of the guy who cannot stand the woman leaving him. I would tell these women - don't lose your head, think rationally what this kind of control imbalance may lead to. Love is about mutual respect and listening, not about imposing anything on anybody because of his or her "definition of love". |
Ouh this is sooooooo true
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:40 pm |
actually people really dont know how to be friend,thats the first problem between them and they also dont know how to live together.
do you ask your friends to wear what u want them to or can u ask them to do everything you want? dont think so... cuz friendship makes you respect the people and each person has their own lifes and thoughts.by the way people do know each other and see if they can live together.so if someone doesnt treat you like you r his/her friend and doesnt make you feel safe how to be in love with them? as i always say if people cant be friends they can be nothing..
so lynda just think about it and dont rush...
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:42 pm |
Quoting turquoise: actually people really dont know how to be friend,thats the first problem between them and they also dont know how to live together.
do you ask your friends to wear what u want them to or can u ask them to do everything you want? dont think so... cuz friendship makes you respect the people and each person has their own lifes and thoughts.by the way people do know each other and see if they can live together.so if someone doesnt treat you like you r his/her friend and doesnt make you feel safe how to be in love with them? as i always say if people cant be friends they can be nothing..
so lynda just think about it and dont rush... |
Well put turquoise!
+1000000!
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:43 pm |
Quoting turquoise: actually people really dont know how to be friend,thats the first problem between them and they also dont know how to live together.
do you ask your friends to wear what u want them to or can u ask them to do everything you want? dont think so... cuz friendship makes you respect the people and each person has their own lifes and thoughts.by the way people do know each other and see if they can live together.so if someone doesnt treat you like you r his/her friend and doesnt make you feel safe how to be in love with them? as i always say if people cant be friends they can be nothing..
so lynda just think about it and dont rush... |
Sooooooo true
You SURE you are Turkish ?
(PS CATWOMAN! Stop trying to get him to join YOUR gang" )
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:45 pm |
Quoting catwoman: Quoting turquoise: actually people really dont know how to be friend,thats the first problem between them and they also dont know how to live together.
do you ask your friends to wear what u want them to or can u ask them to do everything you want? dont think so... cuz friendship makes you respect and trust the people and each person has their own lifes and thoughts.by the way people do know each other and see if they can live together.so if someone doesnt treat you like you r his/her friend and doesnt make you feel safe how to be in love with them? as i always say if people cant be friends they can be nothing..
so lynda just think about it and dont rush... |
Well put turquoise!
+1000000! |
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:47 pm |
turqs not turk,hes lived there for a bit but he has the 'mind' of a balanced human being,only joking broby the way which resort do you work in?
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:49 pm |
Quoting mylo: turqs not turk,hes lived there for a bit but he has the 'mind' of a balanced human being,only joking broby the way which resort do you work in? |
OMG! That is soooooo insulting, even as a joke
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:50 pm |
keep stirring girl,aint gonna help you? i happen to know the guy oh sorry you didnt know?he's a great guy and not a tourist worker in any sense.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:50 pm |
Quoting MrX67: i bet every women like to be jealosed a bit in a sweet way
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This is the first time i have ever diagreed with you MrX67.
I can honesty say i have never been jealous and could not stand anyone being jealousy towards me.This again comes down to trust. It you love a person you let them go, if they love you they always come back and if they never do then they did not love you are are not worthy of your love.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:54 pm |
Quoting mylo: turqs not turk,hes lived there for a bit but he has the 'mind' of a balanced human being,only joking broby the way which resort do you work in? |
works in the paradise of humanity kanka and serv peace and peach as a waiter
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:55 pm |
Quoting christine: This is the first time i have ever diagreed with you MrX67. |
Really?
You haven't been long at this site?
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:55 pm |
hey leave the peach alone hes a good peach
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:56 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting turquoise: actually people really dont know how to be friend,thats the first problem between them and they also dont know how to live together.
do you ask your friends to wear what u want them to or can u ask them to do everything you want? dont think so... cuz friendship makes you respect the people and each person has their own lifes and thoughts.by the way people do know each other and see if they can live together.so if someone doesnt treat you like you r his/her friend and doesnt make you feel safe how to be in love with them? as i always say if people cant be friends they can be nothing..
so lynda just think about it and dont rush... |
Sooooooo true
You SURE you are Turkish ?
(PS CATWOMAN! Stop trying to get him to join YOUR gang" ) |
Strange question!
Do you want to apply a map for love and feelings indicating different feelings? According to the locations and continents??
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:56 pm |
Quoting turquoise: actually people really dont know how to be friend,thats the first problem between them and they also dont know how to live together.
do you ask your friends to wear what u want them to or can u ask them to do everything you want? dont think so... cuz friendship makes you respect the people and each person has their own lifes and thoughts.by the way people do know each other and see if they can live together.so if someone doesnt treat you like you r his/her friend and doesnt make you feel safe how to be in love with them? as i always say if people cant be friends they can be nothing..
so lynda just think about it and dont rush... |
+ 10000000!!
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:57 pm |
Quoting Serdar07: Strange question!
Do you want to apply a map for love and feelings indicating different feelings? According to the locations and continents?? |
No its not a strange question (even though it was a joke question). Are you denying that there are cultural differences and attitudes to relationships and jealousy?
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 09:59 pm |
These will always be,this is a language class i think?The end of this thread will be a blessing......anyone?.....please......life is hard enough
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:00 pm |
Quoting mylo: keep stirring girl,aint gonna help you? i happen to know the guy oh sorry you didnt know?he's a great guy and not a tourist worker in any sense. |
thanks bro but if u leave turkey without seeing me ill kill you for sure
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:01 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting Serdar07: Strange question!
Do you want to apply a map for love and feelings indicating different feelings? According to the locations and continents?? |
No its not a strange question (even though it was a joke question). Are you denying that there are cultural differences and attitudes to relationships and jealousy? |
No, I'm not denying! yet I saw and was in Europe too...
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:03 pm |
Quoting turquoise: Quoting mylo: keep stirring girl,aint gonna help you? i happen to know the guy oh sorry you didnt know?he's a great guy and not a tourist worker in any sense. |
thanks bro but if u leave turkey without seeing me ill kill you for sure |
How could i not come to Turkey without seeing you my lover,my darling,my baby.......forgot you are my friend not my peach could you translate this for me please?........I love......falan filan......
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:04 pm |
Quoting Serdar07: Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting turquoise: actually people really dont know how to be friend,thats the first problem between them and they also dont know how to live together.
do you ask your friends to wear what u want them to or can u ask them to do everything you want? dont think so... cuz friendship makes you respect the people and each person has their own lifes and thoughts.by the way people do know each other and see if they can live together.so if someone doesnt treat you like you r his/her friend and doesnt make you feel safe how to be in love with them? as i always say if people cant be friends they can be nothing..
so lynda just think about it and dont rush... |
Sooooooo true
You SURE you are Turkish ?
(PS CATWOMAN! Stop trying to get him to join YOUR gang" ) |
Strange question!
Do you want to apply a map for love and feelings indicating different feelings? According to the locations and continents?? |
then a strange answer!
you have no idea what i talked about
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:05 pm |
catwoman you belong to me dont forget....you love me...you want me if you don't understand i won't let you send me another mobile phone
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:10 pm |
hey thats my mobile,keep your hands off....
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:11 pm |
Quoting mylo: hey thats my mobile,keep your hands off....
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Catwoman do you want me to "deal" with Mylo, boss? Usual fee?
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:14 pm |
Deal with me deal with me.....please i need a serious dealing with...a complete looking at.......a scraping of the bones.....an internal.....an all out thresh
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:14 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting mylo: hey thats my mobile,keep your hands off....
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Catwoman do you want me to "deal" with Mylo boss? Usual fee? |
Yes Aenigma, you know - the usual code and password - same as you did with the last one. Thank you dear.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:15 pm |
Ok kind and lovely persons in this wonderful world I have to say bye and go to sleep now, tomorrow I have to work to earn my bread.... Haha good luck and best wishes for you all.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:15 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III:
Really?
You haven't been long at this site? |
Long enough to know that i am sure we will see many more threads on "" why is my Turkish boyfriend so jealous and possessive""
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:15 pm |
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:16 pm |
Quoting catwoman: Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting mylo: hey thats my mobile,keep your hands off....
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Catwoman do you want me to "deal" with Mylo boss? Usual fee? |
Yes Aenigma, you know - the usual code and password - same as you did with the last one. Thank you dear. |
you just know ill come back as a mylo spelled differently,or with some other alias like?........hmmm
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:17 pm |
Quoting catwoman: Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting mylo: hey thats my mobile,keep your hands off....
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Catwoman do you want me to "deal" with Mylo boss? Usual fee? |
Yes Aenigma, you know - the usual code and password - same as you did with the last one. Thank you dear. |
Consider it done. Money to be delivered in used notes, plain brown envelope
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:18 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting catwoman: Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting mylo: hey thats my mobile,keep your hands off....
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Catwoman do you want me to "deal" with Mylo boss? Usual fee? |
Yes Aenigma, you know - the usual code and password - same as you did with the last one. Thank you dear. |
Consider it done. Money to be delivered in used notes, plain brown envelope |
why is the envelope brown?ask yourself this ill give you more catwoman but mine will be in a white envelope
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:22 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Consider it done. Money to be delivered in used notes, plain brown envelope |
I am thinking of a bonus this time, you're very effective and professional. The agency is very pleased. You can also freely use the company plane, even for personal purposes.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:24 pm |
Quoting mylo: you just know ill come back as a mylo spelled differently,or with some other alias like?........hmmm |
So you hope... apparently you're not familiar with our advanced secret techniques.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:26 pm |
Quoting mylo: why is the envelope brown?ask yourself this ill give you more catwoman but mine will be in a white envelope |
Aenigma, take this as part of identifying evidence. I'll arrange a fake meeting...
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:26 pm |
Got the evidence boss, job done (thanks for the company phone). Will just "clear up" here and I'm gone
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:29 pm |
Quoting catwoman: Quoting AEnigma III: |
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You aint seen nuthing right?
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:30 pm |
Quoting mylo: when working for the CIA we worked out your system a long time ago and we realised that white envelopes are better(in a poll of 10so my money is clean it doesnt touch any other source,including the Aenigma alias's |
Mylo, if you choose to cooperate (with a good financial reward ), we can cut through the chase...
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:31 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting catwoman: Quoting AEnigma III: |
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You aint seen nuthing right? |
Professional as always, not even a mosquito noticed...
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:33 pm |
Aenigma... since Turquoise is a new member and still in denial... what technique do you suggest that we use to convert him to our gang?
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:33 pm |
Quoting catwoman: Quoting mylo: when working for the CIA we worked out your system a long time ago and we realised that white envelopes are better(in a poll of 10so my money is clean it doesnt touch any other source,including the Aenigma alias's |
Mylo, if you choose to cooperate (with a good financial reward ), we can cut through the chase... |
if you choose to meet my demands it would be wise,i'm a company man,the reward would have to be substantial,and not in an aenigma envelope(you know the one ,its the brown one thats been too near other asses),lets not confuse matters,dont forget i have friends in the pentagon,click of the fingers and all that....
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:36 pm |
Quoting mylo: if you choose to meet my demands it would be wise,i'm a company man,the reward would have to be substantial,and not in an aenigma envelope(you know the one ,its the brown one thats been too near other asses),lets not confuse matters,dont forget i have friends in the pentagon,click of the fingers and all that.... |
Have you read the latest news? You guys are under our control now.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:38 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting catwoman: Aenigma... since Turquoise is a new member and still in denial... what technique do you suggest that we use to convert him to our gang? |
OUR gang?
You abandoned that Foamy Borat girl now too?
How to persuade Turquoise? .........
violence? |
send us a pm we'll help you out(no brown nosing envelopes)straight used notes nowt said,talk to your neighbours theyre dead!
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:38 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III:
If you are out with your bf/gf socially, it is important that, although you arrive as a couple, you are attentive to other people to show respect. It is considered very good manners, for example, to slightly flirt with your friend's gf/bf as it is showing them attention If you are at a party it's completely acceptable to go and talk to other men and even flirt with them to a degree, just so long as you dont take things "too far" When I was out recently a friend of mine was actually complaining that her bf didn't flirt enough or pay enough attention to her friends!
A UK man would not DARE to refuse to let his gf go out on her own or with friends, or even away on holiday on her own. Any men that are "controlling" or too possessive are considered to need psychiatric help!
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Wowwwwww!! I cannot decide if that's better or not, but that's very FOREIGN to me. I do not know if I can handle it.
In a party, ours do not leave your hand anytime, they even go to toilet with you.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:40 pm |
Quoting catwoman: Turquoise seems to be responding well so far... |
Yeah its nearly "in the bag". Might send Meltem on this job!
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:41 pm |
Quoting mltm: Quoting AEnigma III:
If you are out with your bf/gf socially, it is important that, although you arrive as a couple, you are attentive to other people to show respect. It is considered very good manners, for example, to slightly flirt with your friend's gf/bf as it is showing them attention If you are at a party it's completely acceptable to go and talk to other men and even flirt with them to a degree, just so long as you dont take things "too far" When I was out recently a friend of mine was actually complaining that her bf didn't flirt enough or pay enough attention to her friends!
A UK man would not DARE to refuse to let his gf go out on her own or with friends, or even away on holiday on her own. Any men that are "controlling" or too possessive are considered to need psychiatric help!
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Wowwwwww!! I cannot decide if that's better or not, but that's very FOREIGN to me. I do not know if I can handle it.
In a party, ours do not leave your hand anytime, they even go to toilet with you. |
I also find some parts of it strange - especially the "flirting with your friend's gf/bf". I don't think it's "normal" in the US. Certainly NOT in Poland!!!
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:41 pm |
Quoting catwoman: Quoting mylo: if you choose to meet my demands it would be wise,i'm a company man,the reward would have to be substantial,and not in an aenigma envelope(you know the one ,its the brown one thats been too near other asses),lets not confuse matters,dont forget i have friends in the pentagon,click of the fingers and all that.... |
Have you read the latest news? You guys are under our control now. |
You wish
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:42 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting catwoman: Turquoise seems to be responding well so far... |
Yeah its nearly "in the bag". Might send Meltem on this job! |
Agreed, she will know what to do next.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:42 pm |
Quoting lynda0090: i have met a turkish man and we get on really well but he seems to have taken over my life. he decides what we eat and do. He's now gone back to his home town for 10 days. he phoned last night saying one of his friends will be round today to take me for a walk ( what's he think i am a dog). He seems very posessive. Is all this normal with turkish men or is he over the top. He's even talking about getting engaged when he comes back.
Very confused...Lynda |
You mean he TRUST his friends to take you out for a walk? Honey, not only is he possessive of you but if you even think to get engaged and God forbit marry this man not only will you become his possession but everything you own becomes his. I speak from experience being myself once married to two different turkish men, but the same in every way.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:46 pm |
yall must be hungry girls stop talking with empty stomach
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:47 pm |
Quoting cat_leo: Quoting lynda0090: i have met a turkish man and we get on really well but he seems to have taken over my life. he decides what we eat and do. He's now gone back to his home town for 10 days. he phoned last night saying one of his friends will be round today to take me for a walk ( what's he think i am a dog). He seems very posessive. Is all this normal with turkish men or is he over the top. He's even talking about getting engaged when he comes back.
Very confused...Lynda |
You mean he TRUST his friends to take you out for a walk? Honey, not only is he possessive of you but if you even think to get engaged and God forbit marry this man not only will you become his possession but everything you own becomes his. I speak from experience being myself once married to two different turkish men, but the same in every way. |
and that is experience speaking,i'd go with that it's the closest your going to get
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:48 pm |
Quoting turquoise:
yall must be hungry girls stop talking with empty stomach |
Meltem! Abort the plan! I don't think Turquoise is good "gang material" after all!
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 10:55 pm |
Quoting turquoise: actually people really dont know how to be friend,thats the first problem between them and they also dont know how to live together.
do you ask your friends to wear what u want them to or can u ask them to do everything you want? dont think so... cuz friendship makes you respect the people and each person has their own lifes and thoughts.by the way people do know each other and see if they can live together.so if someone doesnt treat you like you r his/her friend and doesnt make you feel safe how to be in love with them? as i always say if people cant be friends they can be nothing.. |
Yes, actually this is a good point. In the societies where male-female friendship are not very common and even sometimes forbidden, the males see females just as partners, so the only time they can get together is for a marriage intention. The two sexes do not know eachother very well on a friendship bases, so the feelings the males have for the females are rather possession. In the big cities (rather among the high educated), the male-female friendships are more common, so the possession is less but since the men cannot isolate himself from this culture which is dominant, he still has this over possession feeling.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 11:00 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting turquoise:
yall must be hungry girls stop talking with empty stomach |
Meltem! Abort the plan! I don't think Turquoise is good "gang material" after all! |
do i look like a material from there? or you girls see a material only when you look at men
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 11:02 pm |
turq are you made of jeans?cotton? the last time i saw you you were very polyester like
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 11:06 pm |
Quoting mylo: turq are you made of jeans?cotton? the last time i saw you you were very polyester like |
depends on the way you touch
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 11:06 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting turquoise:
yall must be hungry girls stop talking with empty stomach |
Meltem! Abort the plan! I don't think Turquoise is good "gang material" after all! |
Hey, I'm out of the subject (I mean out of "your subject" . You've posted so many thinhs here, and I read all pages before. What am I to do here, what do I bring? What's happening lol
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 11:08 pm |
Don't know but if they have pockets catwoman and aenigma are likely to shove a brown one in there,just to keep you on track
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 11:08 pm |
Quoting mltm: Hey, I'm out of the subject (I mean out of "your subject" . You've posted so many thinhs here, and I read all pages before. What am I to do here, what do I bring? What's happening lol |
Its OK Melty - DO NOTHING! Repeat DO NOTHING! Plan is aborted.
Absolutely DO NOT touch anything polyester belonging to Turquoise
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 11:10 pm |
The CIA is on the case leave this thread alone we need fingerprints.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 11:12 pm |
Quoting mylo: The CIA is on the case leave this thread alone we need fingerprints. |
The CIA have enough staff for that job?
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 11:14 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting mylo: The CIA is on the case leave this thread alone we need fingerprints. |
The CIA have enough staff for that job? |
I am the staff!we will not tollerate 'brown envelopes'on this thread.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 11:22 pm |
Quoting mltm: Yes, actually this is a good point. In the societies where male-female friendship are not very common and even sometimes forbidden, the males see females just as partners, so the only time they can get together is for a marriage intention. The two sexes do not know eachother very well on a friendship bases, so the feelings the males have for the females are rather possession. In the big cities (rather among the high educated), the male-female friendships are more common, so the possession is less but since the men cannot isolate himself from this culture which is dominant, he still has this over possession feeling. |
That is SUCH a good point Mltm!
Btw, don't even get me started on the "western" treating women as trophies and males competing who has a better one! Modified ways of expressing male dominance (since they can't forbid us to go on vacation alone) - just as sick.
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 11:30 pm |
alright,do u girls let your boyfriends go on vacation alone?
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 11:38 pm |
Quoting turquoise: alright,do u girls let your boyfriends go on vacation alone? |
Mine lets me visit E5 if we have the money usually with useyir but hes not here
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 11:42 pm |
Quoting mylo: Quoting turquoise: alright,do u girls let your boyfriends go on vacation alone? |
Mine lets me visit E5 if we have the money usually with useyir but hes not here |
awwwww poor guy ,this sad
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25 Aug 2007 Sat 11:55 pm |
Quoting turquoise: Quoting mylo: Quoting turquoise: alright,do u girls let your boyfriends go on vacation alone? |
Mine lets me visit E5 if we have the money usually with useyir but hes not here |
awwwww poor guy ,this sad |
Don't worry he'll join us later
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26 Aug 2007 Sun 12:12 am |
Quoting mylo: Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting catwoman: Aenigma... since Turquoise is a new member and still in denial... what technique do you suggest that we use to convert him to our gang? |
OUR gang?
You abandoned that Foamy Borat girl now too?
How to persuade Turquoise? .........
violence? |
send us a pm we'll help you out(no brown nosing envelopes)straight used notes nowt said,talk to your neighbours theyre dead! |
btw we already have a gang called 'peaches' ....myloooo
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26 Aug 2007 Sun 12:13 am |
Quoting mylo: Quoting turquoise: Quoting mylo: Quoting turquoise: alright,do u girls let your boyfriends go on vacation alone? |
Mine lets me visit E5 if we have the money usually with useyir but hes not here |
awwwww poor guy ,this sad |
Don't worry he'll join us later |
missed our little peach yahu
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26 Aug 2007 Sun 12:55 am |
Guys, can you please not hijack threads all the time. It gets real tedious when we have to sift through 13 pages( sometimes more)half of which are just silly personal comments to eachother. Cant you use chat room, or private message or even just start a chatting thread? It's crazy how many of the threads on here that start of as interesting topics with interesting comments turn into pages and pages of nonsense from the same people all the time. Sorry to sound like a nag, but it is annoying.
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26 Aug 2007 Sun 12:57 am |
Quoting turquoise: alright,do u girls let your boyfriends go on vacation alone? |
YES
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26 Aug 2007 Sun 01:01 am |
I agree on the off-topic stuff...funny at first....3 pages later..yeah not so much. I would have no problem with my significant other going on vacation as long as long as I get to do the same at some time! AND as long as we have one together at some point and his doesn't sap all the money.
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26 Aug 2007 Sun 01:47 am |
Well, firstly, as one of the "usual suspects" I apologise for spoiling your thread. Its not posted in off-topic so I have no excuse.
HOWEVER .......sometimes we have fun here, not just "chat" fun happens spontaneously just following on from threads, and we make friends and smile for a while. Is that really so bad.
If this site was used as a reference guide and all posts read and re-read, then i would agree with you. However, clearly, nobody ever searches old threads to find out things...otherwise we would not be discussing the SAME OLD SUBJECTS time and time again.
So...threads are disposable! Sorry but its true.
Anyway, lets get back to talking about Turkish boyfriends for a change...or post some translation requests ...
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26 Aug 2007 Sun 03:02 am |
Quoting AEnigma III: Anyway, lets get back to talking about Turkish boyfriends for a change...or post some translation requests ... |
Nooo... You are not alone in this Aenigma, there must be more then one person talking so you're not the only one doing this. It may be annoying sometimes for others, but that's the nature of forums.
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26 Aug 2007 Sun 06:38 am |
Quoting xkirstyx: Guys, can you please not hijack threads all the time. It gets real tedious when we have to sift through 13 pages( sometimes more)half of which are just silly personal comments to eachother. Cant you use chat room, or private message or even just start a chatting thread? It's crazy how many of the threads on here that start of as interesting topics with interesting comments turn into pages and pages of nonsense from the same people all the time. Sorry to sound like a nag, but it is annoying. |
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26 Aug 2007 Sun 10:11 am |
Quoting xkirstyx: Guys, can you please not hijack threads all the time. It gets real tedious when we have to sift through 13 pages( sometimes more)half of which are just silly personal comments to eachother. Cant you use chat room, or private message or even just start a chatting thread? It's crazy how many of the threads on here that start of as interesting topics with interesting comments turn into pages and pages of nonsense from the same people all the time. Sorry to sound like a nag, but it is annoying. |
Where's our sense of humour....sounds like it just had a failure.
Yes, I like serious debate. I like to be able to help people with tranlations. I pop in and out of class while I am doing other work on my computer, as it can be a nice change from doing finance, accounting and book ordering...
BUT often no one posts anything. I can click on 15 minutes or 20 minutes after my previous visit and the last sensible post was one I read ages ago: so I enjoy seeing what has gone on with the fun guys.
So: SUMMARY MESSAGE: If you don't like it ... don't try to stop the guys making us all smile, send some sensible posts yourselves.
e.g. How about asking how you say something, rather than just sending a five paragraph letter to be translated? etc etc
e.g. How about asking what the Turkish is for nag? And an example sentence of how it is used?
e.g. How about trying to write "FOR GOD'S SAKE STOP RUINING OUR THREAD" in Turkish, and ask someone to correct it for you...?
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26 Aug 2007 Sun 10:19 am |
Quoting AEnigma III: However, clearly, nobody ever searches old threads to find out things... |
Don't generalize
Quoting AEnigma III: otherwise we would not be discussing the SAME OLD SUBJECTS time and time again |
I agree
Quoting AEnigma III: So...threads are disposable! Sorry but its true. |
No, that doesn't go for every thread. But they're only a minor part, that's a fact...
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26 Aug 2007 Sun 10:36 am |
Quoting MarioninTurkey: Where's our sense of humour....sounds like it just had a failure.
Yes, I like serious debate. I like to be able to help people with tranlations. I pop in and out of class while I am doing other work on my computer, as it can be a nice change from doing finance, accounting and book ordering...
BUT often no one posts anything. I can click on 15 minutes or 20 minutes after my previous visit and the last sensible post was one I read ages ago: so I enjoy seeing what has gone on with the fun guys.
So: SUMMARY MESSAGE: If you don't like it ... don't try to stop the guys making us all smile, send some sensible posts yourselves.
e.g. How about asking how you say something, rather than just sending a five paragraph letter to be translated? etc etc
e.g. How about asking what the Turkish is for nag? And an example sentence of how it is used?
e.g. How about trying to write 'FOR GOD'S SAKE STOP RUINING OUR THREAD' in Turkish, and ask someone to correct it for you...?
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Obviously your sense of humor is alive and well!!!!
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26 Aug 2007 Sun 10:51 am |
Quote: Where's our sense of humour....sounds like it just had a failure.
Yes, I like serious debate. I like to be able to help people with tranlations. I pop in and out of class while I am doing other work on my computer, as it can be a nice change from doing finance, accounting and book ordering...
BUT often no one posts anything. I can click on 15 minutes or 20 minutes after my previous visit and the last sensible post was one I read ages ago: so I enjoy seeing what has gone on with the fun guys.
So: SUMMARY MESSAGE: If you don't like it ... don't try to stop the guys making us all smile, send some sensible posts yourselves.
e.g. How about asking how you say something, rather than just sending a five paragraph letter to be translated? etc etc
e.g. How about asking what the Turkish is for nag? And an example sentence of how it is used?
e.g. How about trying to write "FOR GOD'S SAKE STOP RUINING OUR THREAD" in Turkish, and ask someone to correct it for you...?
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Ouh Marion I like this, BIG RESPECT
(Want to join my gang? )
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26 Aug 2007 Sun 11:07 am |
Quote: Quoting AEnigma III: Where's our sense of humour....sounds like it just had a failure.
Yes, I like serious debate. I like to be able to help people with tranlations. I pop in and out of class while I am doing other work on my computer, as it can be a nice change from doing finance, accounting and book ordering...
BUT often no one posts anything. I can click on 15 minutes or 20 minutes after my previous visit and the last sensible post was one I read ages ago: so I enjoy seeing what has gone on with the fun guys.
So: SUMMARY MESSAGE: If you don't like it ... don't try to stop the guys making us all smile, send some sensible posts yourselves.
e.g. How about asking how you say something, rather than just sending a five paragraph letter to be translated? etc etc
e.g. How about asking what the Turkish is for nag? And an example sentence of how it is used?
e.g. How about trying to write "FOR GOD'S SAKE STOP RUINING OUR THREAD" in Turkish, and ask someone to correct it for you...?
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Ouh Marion I like this, BIG RESPECT
(Want to join my gang? ) |
Watch your crown AEnigma dear...I see a pretender to the throne afoot!!
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26 Aug 2007 Sun 11:10 am |
Quoting girleegirl: Watch your crown AEnigma dear...I see a pretender to the throne afoot!! |
My crown keeps slipping lately
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26 Aug 2007 Sun 11:11 am |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting girleegirl: Watch your crown AEnigma dear...I see a pretender to the throne afoot!! |
My crown keeps slipping lately |
Always keep an ample supply of hair pins!!!!
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26 Aug 2007 Sun 02:07 pm |
Quoting xkirstyx: Guys, can you please not hijack threads all the time. It gets real tedious when we have to sift through 13 pages( sometimes more)half of which are just silly personal comments to eachother. Cant you use chat room, or private message or even just start a chatting thread? It's crazy how many of the threads on here that start of as interesting topics with interesting comments turn into pages and pages of nonsense from the same people all the time. Sorry to sound like a nag, but it is annoying. |
ok ok sorry i wont post anymore cuz it causes trouble here
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26 Aug 2007 Sun 02:10 pm |
Quoting turquoise: ok ok sorry i wont post anymore cuz it causes trouble here |
Yeah, you are only wanted around here when you translate their cute love messages
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26 Aug 2007 Sun 02:14 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting turquoise: ok ok sorry i wont post anymore cuz it causes trouble here |
Yeah, you are only wanted around here when you translate their cute love messages |
yeah sure thats why my posts making trouble among the girls right?
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27 Aug 2007 Mon 09:02 pm |
Jealousy and possessiveness is rampant in men who have little or no control in their own lives. I think it is unfair to say Turkish men are all this way. I can assure you that mine is not and we have been together many years. I do notice a big difference in men who are educated as opposed to men who are not. From what I have seen in my travels in Turkey is that life is not easy for the average Turkish man (or woman for that matter). Not all get the education they need and many of them never leave their small farming villages except during tourist season. My point is, if you are trying to have an intimate relationship with a man from a small Turkish village, who does not have an education, and has not left his village or experienced life outside of Turkey, then you are probably going to have to accept his old fashioned ways or get out of the relationship.
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09 Mar 2016 Wed 07:01 pm |
So something my Turkish boyfriend said today really upset me, which I don´t think he understands, so I think it may be down to cultural differnces, which is why I would really appreciate an opinion here A few weeks ago I borrowed my boyfriends Fenerbahce tracksuit because I had nothing to wear. The tracksuit bottoms are now lost and he asked me if I find them in my room to let himknow. I told him that because i lost them that if I couldn´t find them I would buy him a new pair and I looked up the ink. This is when he got very angry and told me that if I buy him a new pair he would never talk to me again. It was over text so at first I assumed he was joking. But he said "No I´m serious if you buy i won´t talk to you." I was so shocked that he would threaten me over something stupid like that, even at all. I´m Irish so this kind of behaviour in a relationship seems very strange and over dramatic, and frankly, abusive. We had a fight. He claims those kind of threats are normal in his culture. He´s 23 and I´m 20 and we´ve been together for almost 4 months. he says he really loves me and sees a future with me, and is usually very respectful, but I just don´t know what to make of this. I´d really appreciate if I could get some second opinions! Thank you!
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05 Aug 2016 Fri 01:06 am |
Months later a reply but it seems very silly to me. Sounds like he has controls issues. Stay clear!
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04 Jun 2017 Sun 09:27 am |
So something my Turkish boyfriend said today really upset me, which I don´t think he understands, so I think it may be down to cultural differnces, which is why I would really appreciate an opinion here A few weeks ago I borrowed my boyfriends Fenerbahce tracksuit because I had nothing to wear. The tracksuit bottoms are now lost and he asked me if I find them in my room to let himknow. I told him that because i lost them that if I couldn´t find them I would buy him a new pair and I looked up the ink. This is when he got very angry and told me that if I buy him a new pair he would never talk to me again. It was over text so at first I assumed he was joking. But he said "No I´m serious if you buy i won´t talk to you." I was so shocked that he would threaten me over something stupid like that, even at all. I´m Irish so this kind of behaviour in a relationship seems very strange and over dramatic, and frankly, abusive. We had a fight. He claims those kind of threats are normal in his culture. He´s 23 and I´m 20 and we´ve been together for almost 4 months. he says he really loves me and sees a future with me, and is usually very respectful, but I just don´t know what to make of this. I´d really appreciate if I could get some second opinions! Thank you!
I love how women read into a man´s every action. Did you ask him: "What´s wrong with me buying a new set of tracksuits for you"? Start there. Yes, I know months have elapsed, are you still together? Perhaps he´s a sentimental guy and his mother bought those trackies or something like that. I don´t see it as a big deal if he said that.
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04 Jun 2017 Sun 09:47 am |
Jealousy and possessiveness is rampant in men who have little or no control in their own lives. I think it is unfair to say Turkish men are all this way. I can assure you that mine is not and we have been together many years. I do notice a big difference in men who are educated as opposed to men who are not. From what I have seen in my travels in Turkey is that life is not easy for the average Turkish man (or woman for that matter). Not all get the education they need and many of them never leave their small farming villages except during tourist season. My point is, if you are trying to have an intimate relationship with a man from a small Turkish village, who does not have an education, and has not left his village or experienced life outside of Turkey, then you are probably going to have to accept his old fashioned ways or get out of the relationship.
I don´t agree, I think you´ve bought into a cliche. I think each man´s composition is different, having a uni degree does not invisibly certify one as "open minded" or some how officially bestow one with a seal: "non-possessive male here". Human beings are diverse and so too is their psychological makeup.
How do you measure that? I´ve read countless articles of men of all types from large cities of Turkey of background taking actions that regretably for them in them in jail over their liaisons.
I know some villagers very well and I can say without question some of them are a class above their city folk in every aspect.
My advice (for OP) is stay in the relationship, try to make it work, fight for love and as a woman always listen to your heart...cause it´s never wrong. Late reply I know
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