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how about love between different cultures/countrie
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21 Jun 2005 Tue 02:11 pm |
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Is it possible to continue such a love?Do you think coming from different cultures may effect?For me I like to learn and live someone from another country ,but ofcourse it will not be easy...Do we have to be with ones from same culture?
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21 Jun 2005 Tue 04:13 pm |
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I know people who are in serious relationships with people from totally different culture ( turkish, sudan, nigerian) Of course some of them broke up, but most are very happy with each other. But the truth is that the most important is that two people cares about each other equally and they are both willing to try hard and work to deal with some problems, to find compromises. Because it is a great art of compromises mostly.
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21 Jun 2005 Tue 09:43 pm |
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bence relationships are very difficult to cultivate even when u come from the same culture. there are so many problems at the stage when u are getting used to being with the other person. and cultural differences aggravate it. however, when u finally work out a way to arrive at a compromise, to sort things out, i suppose the initial problems may make the relationship even stronger.
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21 Jun 2005 Tue 10:50 pm |
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i dont have.. but if only i had one...
it could be nice experience and i want to taste it...
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30 Jan 2006 Mon 11:17 am |
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Hey Ani! I see you've been curious about the subject. Well I guess there would be many cases like that of Turkish people in a relationship with someone from a "different" culture like in my case.
You already know this but to share my thoughts to the rest I can say that if she and I are together is because we find a common ground so I guess our culture is not that different. Could it be that I'm different to a standard Mexican and she's different from a standard Turkish? Probably yes. But what matters is that we are happy together and we don't think if we want to be with someone "different" or "alike". If you break your cliches you can see that there's people like you in every country of this world. And that your next door neighbour is your totally opposite.
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06 Feb 2006 Mon 03:11 am |
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i think we should ask dis questions to our famous lovers like deli kizin,miss-c,these r the ones i know ...
but i think that love is beutiful evrywer with everybody...
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07 Feb 2006 Tue 12:26 am |
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I think love between different cultures can make for a very interesting mix - depending on the two involved - as Ramayan says love is beautiful wherever and with whoever 
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07 Feb 2006 Tue 09:59 am |
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If there is a love,it should not know any border..There are lots of problems that kind of realitionships,everybody knows them..Human life is short and if you suppose to find real love,my offer will be 'dont give up it easily'..Try,try and try..You wont feel sorry in the end..
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07 Feb 2006 Tue 06:14 pm |
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Quoting ramayan: i think we should ask dis questions to our famous lovers like deli kizin,miss-c,these r the ones i know...
but i think that love is beutiful evrywer with everybody... |
Wow i feel honoured now to be named here (a)
It's true, there are lots of differences you have to overcome and you have to be open against the other culture. There is one mistake you MUSTNT make tho. The other person LIVES in another culture, but he IS NOT the culture itself. If you forget this, you will find out that you argue about many silly things.
Also, it is very likely that you will misunderstand eachother easily, because feelings and words are as well different as morals and principles in a different culture. You need to find harmony in the differences, maybe even cherish them. I love the differences in our personalities, because it makes me feel more complete. I learnt to look from another point of view too. It's not always easy and i still make stupid mistakes and ask silly questions, but as long as Kadir loves me, he can bring up the understanding and respect to explain to me and be patient.
I am raised in a country where freedom is the most holy thing that exists. I always thought that for example, freedom of speech and independecy where the best things a person could achieve and keep in life. Now i learnt to look at this less strict and I even doubt if this western-idea of 'Goodness' is actually that good. It doesn't turn me against my own country, my own background, but my relationship didn't only teach me how to love, it also taught me to look at things from different sides.
I think love can be more sparkling if you both have different backgrounds and LEARN how to respect those backgrounds. You need to try to make a mixture between the good things of both 'cultures' and try to solve the 'bad' things. If you realise that some things of your different point of views cannot come to harmony (this hasn't happened to me tho), you should learn to leave this aside. Dont't argue about the differences all the time, just learn from them and enjoy the things you have in common. Because even the things you have in common, are different in another place in the world. It's half the fun!
One thing that is often mistaken, is that love is all you need. Love is not enough to make a relationship between different cultures succesful. But it is the binding ingredient that if strong enough, gives you enough power to overcome any difference 
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07 Feb 2006 Tue 10:04 pm |
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I think your answer was really wise, girl! ...I wish I would have been half as wise when I was your age... 
Aferin sana! 
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