Is it possible to continue such a love?Do you think coming from different cultures may effect?For me I like to learn and live someone from another country ,but ofcourse it will not be easy...Do we have to be with ones from same culture?

I know people who are in serious relationships with people from totally different culture ( turkish, sudan, nigerian) Of course some of them broke up, but most are very happy with each other. But the truth is that the most important is that two people cares about each other equally and they are both willing to try hard and work to deal with some problems, to find compromises. Because it is a great art of compromises mostly.

bence relationships are very difficult to cultivate even when u come from the same culture. there are so many problems at the stage when u are getting used to being with the other person. and cultural differences aggravate it. however, when u finally work out a way to arrive at a compromise, to sort things out, i suppose the initial problems may make the relationship even stronger.

i dont have.. but if only i had one...
it could be nice experience and i want to taste it...

Hey Ani! I see you've been curious about the subject. Well I guess there would be many cases like that of Turkish people in a relationship with someone from a "different" culture like in my case.

You already know this but to share my thoughts to the rest I can say that if she and I are together is because we find a common ground so I guess our culture is not that different. Could it be that I'm different to a standard Mexican and she's different from a standard Turkish? Probably yes. But what matters is that we are happy together and we don't think if we want to be with someone "different" or "alike". If you break your cliches you can see that there's people like you in every country of this world. And that your next door neighbour is your totally opposite.

i think we should ask dis questions to our famous lovers like deli kizin,miss-c,these r the ones i know...

but i think that love is beutiful evrywer with everybody...

I think love between different cultures can make for a very interesting mix - depending on the two involved - as Ramayan says love is beautiful wherever and with whoever

If there is a love,it should not know any border..There are lots of problems that kind of realitionships,everybody knows them..Human life is short and if you suppose to find real love,my offer will be 'dont give up it easily'..Try,try and try..You wont feel sorry in the end..

I think your answer was really wise, girl! ...I wish I would have been half as wise when I was your age...
Aferin sana!

Thanks

It is not cultural differences which will break a relationship it is the honesty and integrity of the two involved which binds or separates.

one word:empathy
if u have that,no more problems then...

gerisi o kadar önemli değil yani

Yes, but.. not to hurt anyone up here.. but how can love be love if you are not sure? When you start a romance-affair with a holidayresort-man.. do you love that guy? Or do you love being loved? Because if that's so, ofcourse the waiting is hard. It's easy to love over distance. But it's quite difficult to show and to feel the other's love over it. So if you are not totally sure, the waiting gets too hard.

I quote Shakespeare:
"Love is not love as it alters when it alteration finds"

(im not sure if this is literally, but it comes VERY close )


Maybe I'm just being overromantic, I don't know
But believe me.. i know the distance by now.. I cried too many nights in my cold lonely bed, i skipped too many classes at school because i lost the point in it, i spent hours and hours laying on my bedroom floor, staring at the sky, remembering all the things that we came across together. And now I'm looking at hte calender, seeing that it's almost two years ago we met.. and i cry for all the things we haven't done yet. But i smile for all that is laying ahead of you.

If you learn to control the distance, distance-love that ends like mine, is probably better than an around-the-corner-love. For the simple fact we have another dimension in our relationship: we learnt to talk. we learnt to use words. we don't speak eachothers bodylanguage yet, but at least we know what we mean when we just talk. Many 'normal' relationships end, because people became unable to speak.

Kadir and i built love upon many words. Made love with many words. We can talk. We cannot date like normal couples. I never had a clothing-crisis, because he has never come to pick me up for dinner. I never went to school with the excited feeling of going out for a dance with him tonight. But one day i will

If i look back so far (how dramatic does that sound ), i remember all the fun moments on the phone, the sweet sms and the nice loooong conversations on msn better and more, than the nights spend alone.

Well, at least i wish everybody luck with his/her long distance love.

It's most of all a matter of having faith in yourself, not only in the other. When you live together, 'I and YOU' becomes 'US and WE'. If you live apart, 'US and WE is still I and YOU'. So you need to have faith in yourself as well!!

multicultured love is realy more exciting than to have a relationship from ur own country..however, in my opinion if ur thinking serious,for not to live problems in long term,u should check out if ur partner is suitable for ur basic princaples..these are not a lot i guess..just the basic ones..which has vital importance..people in love learn to be flexible in other little things..but if u have problems with ur basic princaples relationship may turn to a conflict..distance is a huge problem yes..it makes human tired not to walk hand to hand,not to go to a film,not to go to a match etc..but when love is strong lovers can overcome it i guess..with the hopes of together days..

I agree with both Deli_Kizin and Oeince in many parts. But those few more years I carry on my back, have proved to me that life and love are not as pink as we think they are.

It’s not my intention to hurt anyone. Honestly. And I wish to all of us that our expectations and dreams will be fulfilled and life will be exactly as we have planned it.

My dear Deli, I wasn’t talking about a light romantic adventure, when I said that I have seen this “film” before. I think It was the most intense and serious relationship I ve ever experienced. A long and serious one. Not with a “ holidayresort-man” as u said, but with a serious and well educated (in school and in life) man. And it wasn’t only my or his need to be loved that brought us together. It was far more than that.

Missing? Huh! Longing? You can never believe how much. Life? What life? My whole life was him. Whenever we were meeting, we were spending hours, just staring at each other, to cover the miss and to engrave the details of each other’s face in our memory for the lonely times to come. Words? We could tell from a simple “hi how are you” written on a screen, how the other was feeling each day. The words were always the same. But in an amazing way that I could never explain, we could catch each other’s mood without even watching each other’s face. I bet you understand exactly what I m talking about Why did we let this relationship go? Cause realities were stronger than any love could ever be…

Anyway, these details don’t concern anyone else but me, I know. I just wanted to say that I know what you mean and I also know how you feel. And I get unbelievably happy when other couples manage what we couldn’t. Just, the question here was what do we think of and which obstacles a couple could have to face with, in such a relationship. I deposited my experience and thought loudly on the questions made. Truth hurts, I know, but it’s better to be aware of what we MIGHT have to fight against, than to keep living in wonderland and then fall off the clouds suddenly.

So, to cut it short, I only have one last thing to say: Love CAN move mountains. So, go for it! Just always keep in mind that reality can be tougher than we expect it to be. Thus, we should better be aware of this fact, than keep our eyes closed while walking on cloud nine…

p.s. I m writting these down, mostly for myself to read and keep in mind. Cause, if I know myslef, then I can tell for sure that I always choose the cloud nine instead of reality and precaution. And then I fall down and then I stand up again, and so on...

Hello dear Sophie

I didn't mean to hurt anyone either and with holiday-resort-man i definitely didnt mean your love Just to put the record straight

Now that i think of it, it's really difficult to answer such a question. Because, as you said, it really just concerns you in your story, me in my story. I think the only way to really get an answer for yourself, is to have one yourself.

I wonder what love actually is. But in the same time i realise it's a thing we cannot speak right about. Who knows what it is? What word will be capable of telling? Let's just keep on writing poems about what we all feel and leave love to love

.. you mean like me and my bebe??
..when Manila meets Istanbul eh???
..kinda hard and challenging, though ..but what should I do??
I can never deprive somebody of something he really deserves...
the consequences? suffer it.. suffer the long distance.. the culture differences.. whatever.. just.. but just do not procrastinate to be in each other's arms .. go an extra mile each day and carpe diem...

IN LOVE? IT'LL WILL NEVER BE EASY, BUT IT'S WORTH IT..