Thank you so very much for all your input and comments, you are very nice people. You have cheered me up, your comments have made me laugh and made me smile ;o> thank you so much everybody.

Of course, everybody on the outside looking in can only give their opinion, but does not know both sides of the story.

When I lived in Cyprus (after leaving him a first time) I promised him (soz veriyorum) that I would NEVER Return to the UK only for a holiday. We had a beautiful apartment, I had a super job and I was making enough money for both of us, but our culture differences made me so very depressed and slowly with all the problems and arguments, it made me very ill. So i booked my flight and returned to the UK.

After promising him I was with him forever and would not leave him again because i had already left him once before and it hurt him very deeply.

This time he couldnt understand my return to the uk, we were okay (after lots of problems) and also I had a fantastic job and also a lovely apartment and a man (bekir) that stuck by me through everything and tried every which way he could to make me happy, he didn't understand my illness and my return to the UK.

So i understand why he was unfaithful to me, he took my return to the UK very personally and felt unloved, and betrayed.

My actions drove him to another girl, and I understand.

My only hope is that he will end it and end it soon, that way I can forgive him and I do believe it will make our relationship much stronger in the long term future.

Anyway, i know he has been a typical man and thinking with his 'moby dick' :o> but he now feels like shit excuse my language because he can't stand to know what he has hurt me.

He truly loves me and feels nothing for this girl, which is awful for her because she is in love with him and apparantly she has threatened to kill me if she ever sees me!

This is not my problem, or her problem but my unfaithful boyfriend's problem. He has caused all this heartache and upset.

She doesnt want to finish it, but he does.

I think I have a few stormy weeks ahead of me, but I am concentrating on myself now and my career in sales. I want to make a lot of money and just think about myself and not my sleazy boyfriend ! :o>

I know my own self worth, and I am very pretty, I have opportunities to be unfaithful and have been asked out countless times by different men, so far I have said no!

What do you think ladies ? Do you think I should not get mad and instead 'get even' by having some (protected) no strings attached sex ???or do two wrongs not make it right ?

Anyway, this will really be his only and last chance!

Please somebody do the translation for me so I can text it to him soon.

Thank you again to you all, You are all very wonderful people and your 'moby dick' comment made me laugh out loud

Incidentally, he is also a fisherman, as well as a boat captain (haha, he has obviously been fishing for more than his dinner!! )

xxxxx Thank you every body xxxxxx

This website is wonderful !!!

Charlotte Rose

Charlotte rose.....

Okay, thank you so so much for your input.

I have a better idea of getting even (not mad) that will not lower myself to give myself to anybody sexually. You are right, I am worth so much more and I don't want to lower myself to his level.

First I am thinking to make him feel as guilty (guiltier) than he already is feeling. And then I am thinking of lying to him as he has me. I am thinking to get him to finish his sordid affair, and make him believe that I am waiting for him and am planning to change my life (again) for him, give up my career (again) and my life here in england to return to Kuzey Kibris.

This way, he will have finished with her, remain faithful to me which means he will be going without sex, he will not have this girl making him dinner and doing his washing for him. Also, I am very angry because this girl does know he has got a girlfriend, so makes her just as bad as he.

But on the other hand, because i'm so nice (or maybe an idiot/ stupid!!) I don't want her to get hurt, because I am hurting like hell and it feels so awful.

So he will end it with her, wait for me and when I go over in August for my holiday, i will spend it with the friends I have made over there, arrange a meeting with him. Make my entrance in the most stunning, sexy dress he will have ever seen, make up etc and have my hair done at the salon prior to this, in other words, look like a million dollars and blow him away ! he will see me and be stunned, wonder why he cheated on me on the first place, then at the end of our meal / drinks whatever, I will announce that he is the biggest piece of shit / bok (sorry for the language) and that I would never consider letting him into my life again or any where near me.

Leaving him absolutely stunned and lost for words (for once!) Oh, and he LOVES blonde hair, I think I may have it blonde for my holiday, so he will have the shock (nice one) of my gorgeous dress, sexy legs, make up and blonde hair. I will then walk away from him (without looking back) and go and talk to all his friends (that by the way are telling him how crazy he is for being unfaitful to me, now it is out in the open / I have found out, then all his friends are texting me, checking i am okay) I don't need him!!

What do you think ladies (and men!)

Good plan ??

I think you are all so very right, I don't think I will be able to ever trust him again and yes, he knew I was so very ill (he actually got me in that condition by constantly putting me down all the time) I deserve better and I know it will take time for the scars to heal, but yes, there are plenty more fish in the sea

(But I don't want a 'moby dick' again :o>)

Thank you all so very much again

You are a great team :o> and i don't know what I would do without this website and all your help

You are all fantastic !!! Super kind people !!

AND THANK YOU - A BIG THANK YOU TO DELI KIZIN FOR BEING AN ANGEL AND TRANSLATING THIS FOR ME

I HAVE JUST TEXTED IT TO HIM (TOOK UP 7 TEXTS!) SO HE WILL BE STUNNED THAT IT HAS GONE OVER BY TEXT IN TURKISH ;O> HE WILL WONDER HOW I HAVE DONE IT - BRILLIANT! THANK YOU DELI KIZIN
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Way to go girl Hahahaha.

Thank you so much, you are right.

I love him so deeply that I will forgive his unfaithfullness, really though this is his only and last chance. He has not been unfaitful to me before this.

We are having the next few days till weekend not texting each other. It will kill us both not to be in touch, but it will give us both the time we need to think.

I know he doesnt love her, you know when a man cheats and doesnt text / call or keep in touch with his girlfriend / wife because he is elsewhere? well Bekir has been texting me first thing in the morning, throughout the day lots of times and in the evening non stop, his 'bit on the side' knows he loves me, but still carried on having sex with him trying to make him fall in love with her, but thank god (in'sallah etc) that didn't happen.

Over the last three months, he has not actually seen her that often for sex / whatever. It has not been that many times, but when he realised what he nearly lost, a devoted loving beautiful :o> girlfriend ;o> it was a wake up call to him and he has now ended it.

She has constantly called him and texted him, making him angry, where as I have taken a step back and left him alone to make his mind up where his loyalties lie!

There is an english saying....

If you love somebody, let them go, if they come back to you, it was meant to be, if they do not, they are not yours to hold on to.

Just like a butterfly :o> i have let him go with the hope and prayers to god that he will know how much he doesnt want to lose me. I have switched my mobile phone off so he cannot call me, i know this should make him feel as Deli Kizin said 'feel the pain of not being with me'

Hopefully when I turn my phone on again, i will have lots of texts and messages from him, if so I will know how much he loves me.

I am forgetting about him for now, and going out with my girlfriends tonight to have a few drinks, and maybe get drunk !!! :o>

çok teşekkur ederiz to you all!!

Sen çok harikasen arkadaşlar !!!

Girl Power !! :o>

Thank you xxxxx
Charlotte Rose

You're turkish is çok iyi canim benim ;o>

Thank you so much again Deliz Kizin
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